How concerned would you be if your 17 yo DD was talking to a 21 year old guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And what would you do in this scenario if anything?

DD will be 18 end of June. They met over the summer. From what I can tell he's a nice respectful kid , but he's 21. DD has never shown much interest in boys till now save a few celebrity crushes and a crush on a classmate a year or two ago.. She's a fairly shy/introverted kid overall. I've talked with her about sex, consent, respect etc.

A 17 yo would also want to be burying his bone in her, OP. Age is just a number.

[Anonymous]

My dd dated a 21 year old when she had just turned 18. We did know him, he had been a friend of my DS’s. It went south quickly becaue he was very controlling and jealous about the fact that she was going to college two hours from him. I will see say he the good sense not to ask her out until she turned 18.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:17 now and they met a year ago? So a 20 yo was interested in a 16 yo girl.

Yeah that’s a “nope” from me dawg.

Groomer vibes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:17 now and they met a year ago? So a 20 yo was interested in a 16 yo girl.

Yeah that’s a “nope” from me dawg.

Groomer vibes

/you guys really don't bother to read or you purposely misconstrue what is said to push forth your own narratives. Op says they worked at camp last summer which stands to reason is summer 2024 ,6 months ago

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And what would you do in this scenario if anything?

DD will be 18 end of June. They met over the summer. From what I can tell he's a nice respectful kid , but he's 21. DD has never shown much interest in boys till now save a few celebrity crushes and a crush on a classmate a year or two ago.. She's a fairly shy/introverted kid overall. I've talked with her about sex, consent, respect etc.

A 17 yo would also want to be burying his bone in her, OP. Age is just a number.

Age is definitely not just a number, but I do think this is one of those gray-area situations

[Anonymous]

Don’t let that groomer near her

[Anonymous]

I have a 21yo colleg junior ds and I would think it would be pretty odd for him to be dating a senior in HS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most college kids aren't interested in high schoolers because there's typically a big freedom and maturity gap. They're used to being independent and dating a high schooler comes with serious rules. I'd be very cautious of a 21 yo who was interested in a high schooler. He's probably immature or lacks the confidence to date girls his own age.

Maybe. Or maybe they are both music dorks and they hit it off.

So he's too immature to find a music dork his own age. My point holds. Normal college students aren't interested in dating high schoolers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most college kids aren't interested in high schoolers because there's typically a big freedom and maturity gap. They're used to being independent and dating a high schooler comes with serious rules. I'd be very cautious of a 21 yo who was interested in a high schooler. He's probably immature or lacks the confidence to date girls his own age.

Maybe. Or maybe they are both music dorks and they hit it off.

So he's too immature to find a music dork his own age. My point holds. Normal college students aren't interested in dating high schoolers.

she'll be an 18 year old college freshman in just a few months do you think freshmen and seniors/ juniors don't date. You all are funny, you guys want to have drinking parties for your kids to learn how to drink , but have these weird dating hangups.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most college kids aren't interested in high schoolers because there's typically a big freedom and maturity gap. They're used to being independent and dating a high schooler comes with serious rules. I'd be very cautious of a 21 yo who was interested in a high schooler. He's probably immature or lacks the confidence to date girls his own age.

Maybe. Or maybe they are both music dorks and they hit it off.

So he's too immature to find a music dork his own age. My point holds. Normal college students aren't interested in dating high schoolers.

she'll be an 18 year old college freshman in just a few months do you think freshmen and seniors/ juniors don't date. You all are funny, you guys want to have drinking parties for your kids to learn how to drink , but have these weird dating hangups.

WTF are you babbling about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:17 now and they met a year ago? So a 20 yo was interested in a 16 yo girl.

Yeah that’s a “nope” from me dawg.

Exactly. He’s a creep.

[Anonymous]

He’s trying to exploit a naive girl. You all are so foolish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s trying to exploit a naive girl. You all are so foolish

How many times are you going to post the same thing?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:17 now and they met a year ago? So a 20 yo was interested in a 16 yo girl.

Yeah that’s a “nope” from me dawg.

Exactly. He’s a creep.

Would it be ok for them to date in 5 months when she's 18?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's not that much difference between a mature high school senior and a college student.

People like who they like.

Within the past 100 years, the DD was in range to become a wife in lots of cultures around the world.

It's prudent to ask for dating to wait until 18 to respect what's currently required in our culture. But I don't think it's a good or kind idea to prohibit them from being friends.

Men are often immature at the same age and women can benefit from dating older.

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