How concerned would you be if your 17 yo DD was talking to a 21 year old guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not let her be alone with him until she’s 18. After that there’s nothing you can do except buy a crib and get ready to raise the baby.

Some of you are really insane.

[Anonymous]

I would actually be really concerned about this. This generation tends to be very very aware of age differences, so much so that I have heard (from many many teens/college students) that age differences of 2+ years are considered gross and inappropriate. So this feels like a fairly big breach of what is considered acceptable. I also happen to think that 21 and 17 is a huge age difference IMO. It does not speak well of a 17yo that he is focusing on a high school student/minor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would actually be really concerned about this. This generation tends to be very very aware of age differences, so much so that I have heard (from many many teens/college students) that age differences of 2+ years are considered gross and inappropriate. So this feels like a fairly big breach of what is considered acceptable. I also happen to think that 21 and 17 is a huge age difference IMO. It does not speak well of a 17yo that he is focusing on a high school student/minor.

Yeah those kids also base all their opinions on what is trending on social media. Have off the wall anxiety can't leave their house or make a phone call yet somehow their mommies are convinced they are going to be big shots with 6 figure plus careers and married by 28

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not let her be alone with him until she’s 18. After that there’s nothing you can do except buy a crib and get ready to raise the baby.

Some of you are really insane.

Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Trust your gut OP, the fact that you are asking about it means something doesn't sit right with you.

[Anonymous]

Well if it was my 21 year old son I would tell him not to date till she was a legal adult. Talk on the phone, fine. Meet up with a group, also fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would actually be really concerned about this. This generation tends to be very very aware of age differences, so much so that I have heard (from many many teens/college students) that age differences of 2+ years are considered gross and inappropriate. So this feels like a fairly big breach of what is considered acceptable. I also happen to think that 21 and 17 is a huge age difference IMO. It does not speak well of a 17yo that he is focusing on a high school student/minor.

That’s a lot of people you are talking about. A whole generation. All in step together. Not true of course but that would be a scary thought

[Anonymous]

I was 17 when I was a freshman in college. I definitely dated guys older than 21 (but not much older). They weren’t predators or even particularly more mature. Nothing bad happened.

OP’s DD will be leaving the house soon. You have to trust her to make decisions some time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 17 when I was a freshman in college. I definitely dated guys older than 21 (but not much older). They weren’t predators or even particularly more mature. Nothing bad happened.

OP’s DD will be leaving the house soon. You have to trust her to make decisions some time

I was in college full time at 16. Biology premed and 2 years each Chinese and Japanese. (Granted I lived at home and took 5 years to finish)

I wish I met a music dork BF when I was 17, could have skipped on on wasting time on losers for 10+ years before I met my husband. God forbid she's snugging on a couch watching a dorky musical with her BF and not doing keg stands and getting run through by a decade of losers. DCUM harpies are jealous she is on the path to skip the loser BF stage of life

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would actually be really concerned about this. This generation tends to be very very aware of age differences, so much so that I have heard (from many many teens/college students) that age differences of 2+ years are considered gross and inappropriate. So this feels like a fairly big breach of what is considered acceptable. I also happen to think that 21 and 17 is a huge age difference IMO. It does not speak well of a 17yo that he is focusing on a high school student/minor.

Yeah those kids also base all their opinions on what is trending on social media. Have off the wall anxiety can't leave their house or make a phone call yet somehow their mommies are convinced they are going to be big shots with 6 figure plus careers and married by 28

That’s exactly right. Those kids never had a real life interaction with other adults in a job, internship or volunteering to know it’s perfectly fine and healthy to interact with adults because they see predators at every corner.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would actually be really concerned about this. This generation tends to be very very aware of age differences, so much so that I have heard (from many many teens/college students) that age differences of 2+ years are considered gross and inappropriate. So this feels like a fairly big breach of what is considered acceptable. I also happen to think that 21 and 17 is a huge age difference IMO. It does not speak well of a 17yo that he is focusing on a high school student/minor.

Yeah those kids also base all their opinions on what is trending on social media. Have off the wall anxiety can't leave their house or make a phone call yet somehow their mommies are convinced they are going to be big shots with 6 figure plus careers and married by 28

That’s exactly right. Those kids never had a real life interaction with other adults in a job, internship or volunteering to know it’s perfectly fine and healthy to interact with adults because they see predators at every corner.

They're going to be married at 28 after having been forbidden from talking to the opposite sex until college degree in hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was 17 when I was a freshman in college. I definitely dated guys older than 21 (but not much older). They weren’t predators or even particularly more mature. Nothing bad happened.

OP’s DD will be leaving the house soon. You have to trust her to make decisions some time

I was in college full time at 16. Biology premed and 2 years each Chinese and Japanese. (Granted I lived at home and took 5 years to finish)

I wish I met a music dork BF when I was 17, could have skipped on on wasting time on losers for 10+ years before I met my husband. God forbid she's snugging on a couch watching a dorky musical with her BF and not doing keg stands and getting run through by a decade of losers. DCUM harpies are jealous she is on the path to skip the loser BF stage of life

Wut

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would actually be really concerned about this. This generation tends to be very very aware of age differences, so much so that I have heard (from many many teens/college students) that age differences of 2+ years are considered gross and inappropriate. So this feels like a fairly big breach of what is considered acceptable. I also happen to think that 21 and 17 is a huge age difference IMO. It does not speak well of a 17yo that he is focusing on a high school student/minor.

Yeah those kids also base all their opinions on what is trending on social media. Have off the wall anxiety can't leave their house or make a phone call yet somehow their mommies are convinced they are going to be big shots with 6 figure plus careers and married by 28

That’s exactly right. Those kids never had a real life interaction with other adults in a job, internship or volunteering to know it’s perfectly fine and healthy to interact with adults because they see predators at every corner.

They're going to be married at 28 after having been forbidden from talking to the opposite sex until college degree in hand.

Married only with mommy approved partners from good families that show deference to the in-laws.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was 17 when I was a freshman in college. I definitely dated guys older than 21 (but not much older). They weren’t predators or even particularly more mature. Nothing bad happened.

OP’s DD will be leaving the house soon. You have to trust her to make decisions some time

I was in college full time at 16. Biology premed and 2 years each Chinese and Japanese. (Granted I lived at home and took 5 years to finish)

I wish I met a music dork BF when I was 17, could have skipped on on wasting time on losers for 10+ years before I met my husband. God forbid she's snugging on a couch watching a dorky musical with her BF and not doing keg stands and getting run through by a decade of losers. DCUM harpies are jealous she is on the path to skip the loser BF stage of life

Wut

So true. My 16 yr old DD is dating the sweetest 17 year old boy who adores her. I look at them and are saddened by how the odds are against HS relationships making it beyond high school. I secretly wish they could make it so that she skips the dreaded dating losers stage for who knows how long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was 17 when I was a freshman in college. I definitely dated guys older than 21 (but not much older). They weren’t predators or even particularly more mature. Nothing bad happened.

OP’s DD will be leaving the house soon. You have to trust her to make decisions some time

I was in college full time at 16. Biology premed and 2 years each Chinese and Japanese. (Granted I lived at home and took 5 years to finish)

I wish I met a music dork BF when I was 17, could have skipped on on wasting time on losers for 10+ years before I met my husband. God forbid she's snugging on a couch watching a dorky musical with her BF and not doing keg stands and getting run through by a decade of losers. DCUM harpies are jealous she is on the path to skip the loser BF stage of life

Wut

So true. My 16 yr old DD is dating the sweetest 17 year old boy who adores her. I look at them and are saddened by how the odds are against HS relationships making it beyond high school. I secretly wish they could make it so that she skips the dreaded dating losers stage for who knows how long.

Eh. All the women I've known who skip this stage in their 20s end up the ones dancing on tables like theyre starring in Coyote Ugly and crawling over age inappropriate losers in their 40s and 50s and it far more cringe at that stage of life.