How concerned would you be if your 17 yo DD was talking to a 21 year old guy

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned about a 21 year old male that was simply a music teacher for a summer camp as a summer job. That doesn’t scream high earning potential to me. Most men that will go on to have high earning careers are doing internships at companies or law firms or anything but teaching. That’s the red flag to me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned about a 21 year old male that was simply a music teacher for a summer camp as a summer job. That doesn’t scream high earning potential to me. Most men that will go on to have high earning careers are doing internships at companies or law firms or anything but teaching. That’s the red flag to me!

Haha! Good one troll

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 16yo and an almost 21 yo. Both boys fwiw. They are light years apart in terms of maturity and life experience. If the older one was chatting up a 17yo girl, I'd be horrified.

Thank you! There are some serious parenting failures here if they are totes kewl with their college age sons picking up minors from high schools.

He's not picking up a minor from high school they met at work and she's nearly 18 and so far are only talking to each other. You are going to cause so many issues for your kids with your black and white Tumblr inspired parenting.

I don’t know what tumblr parenting is, but he clearly is picking up minor girls from high schools. It’s gross and creepy. Just because you’re ok with men creeping on children doesn’t mean the rest of us have to agree.

[Anonymous]

Some of you live in small worlds. The teens who are well traveled, who went to summer programs in different parts of the world, who have had independence can handle having a college age boyfriend as she’s graduating high school. I can’t imagine making this a big deal.

[Anonymous]

I really don't think it's a big deal either would feel differently if she were newly 17 and not almost 18 and going to college. Plus it sounds like op has a good relationship with her daughter. You want keep the communication lines open especially if things are turning more romantic and not just friends with common interests. Freaking out calling him a pedophile saying he can't get someone his own age or is a weirdo trying to artificially fill her time so she won't see him is likely to have a negative impact on the relationship.
I think you keep having the consent and respect talks remind her about prevention. And you can flat out say you'd feel better if she waited until she's 18.. oh and get to know him very well

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Anonymous wrote:I would not let her be alone with him until she’s 18. After that there’s nothing you can do except buy a crib and get ready to raise the baby.

+1. And she is legally a minor, so not responsible for her actions. He is legally an adult and (depending on what is actually *provably* going on) he might be liable for Contributing to the Delinquency of a minor…

Talking is now considered a crime?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be concerned, they are at two different life stages. He will be a barrier to her educational goals. Why is dating her, not someone closer to his age or stage? My daughter had a 22 yo interested in her at 18, and she thought it was weird. If they truly have a lot in common then they can remain distant friends until she finishes college.

Barrier, what? He is in college. Are you from the 50's?

[Anonymous]

Talking isn’t a crime, but a 21 year old having sex with a 17 year old is statutory tape in Virginia.

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Rape

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be concerned, they are at two different life stages. He will be a barrier to her educational goals. Why is dating her, not someone closer to his age or stage? My daughter had a 22 yo interested in her at 18, and she thought it was weird. If they truly have a lot in common then they can remain distant friends until she finishes college.

Barrier, what? He is in college. Are you from the 50's?

Your 18 year old daughter thought it was weird another college student was interested in her?. You certainly did a number on her mom

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it is appropriate and thankfully, my daughters know better than this.

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned what if he is just using her for her youth.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be concerned, they are at two different life stages. He will be a barrier to her educational goals. Why is dating her, not someone closer to his age or stage? My daughter had a 22 yo interested in her at 18, and she thought it was weird. If they truly have a lot in common then they can remain distant friends until she finishes college.

Barrier, what? He is in college. Are you from the 50's?

She could easily choose a different college to be nearer to him. She could waste her weekends visiting him instead of studying. Are you really this dumb?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned what if he is just using her for her youth.

Yes pedos lose interest when the children turn 18

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be concerned, they are at two different life stages. He will be a barrier to her educational goals. Why is dating her, not someone closer to his age or stage? My daughter had a 22 yo interested in her at 18, and she thought it was weird. If they truly have a lot in common then they can remain distant friends until she finishes college.

Barrier, what? He is in college. Are you from the 50's?

She could easily choose a different college to be nearer to him. She could waste her weekends visiting him instead of studying. Are you really this dumb?

She could more easily do that with a boy from that college?

Are we in puritanical wave 2.0 where you're not supposed to date until college degree? I suppose that means they can't lose their virginity until what, six figure job offer? Is that for both sexes or just girls?