How are you preparing your DD to protect herself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kamala Harris’ choice is her Glock handgun.

🤮

Kamala Harris makes you want to vomit?

OMG you MAGAS are disgusting, deplorable, people!

+1

I mean, isn’t it enough your cult leader and convicted felon candidate won?!?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like so many of us have lived with serial harassment as young women, but I just hate that this is ahead of her, and soon, at 14. I remember so many unwanted sexual advances throughout high school, college and most especially my first job. Just feels relentless.

I've been teaching situational awareness early on and plan for her to take a self defense course. But I'm struggling with how to teach about the vigilance needed without making all men seem predatory. When I look back on that period of time though, so many of them were.

You talk open lines of communication now about sex

Make sure she understands no one has to hug her no one has the right to touch her

Never take a drink from anyone even someone you know.
Never leave home without cash
Tell her you will pick her up
Anywhere

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 52 year old mom of two daughters 18 and 20.

None of us have ever had to deal with sexual harassment. Calm down.

Same.

Male trolls.

I’m a 50 year old woman. Not everyone has the same experiences or carries the same burdens. It might not be fair but that’s how it is.

I’m sure this comment won’t land well but you must be unattractive. Any thin reasonably attractive woman is going to get some unwanted attention in their life.

I’m the PP. I don’t think attractiveness level is a determining factor.

But, I’ve always maintained a healthy weight and work out regularly. And I’m Latina so I have a baseline of attractiveness, at least in my opinion. 😁

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 52 year old mom of two daughters 18 and 20.

None of us have ever had to deal with sexual harassment. Calm down.

Same.

Male trolls.

I’m a 50 year old woman. Not everyone has the same experiences or carries the same burdens. It might not be fair but that’s how it is.

What industry do you work in?

Not sure why this matters but private sector in advanced tech fields but my role is regulatory compliance within those fields.

[Anonymous]

https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics

These stats are alarming. I base conversations with my children around this and ways to protect yourself. It’s so common to be sexually assaulted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics

These stats are alarming. I base conversations with my children around this and ways to protect yourself. It’s so common to be sexually assaulted.

Interesting what is considered sexual harassment. I saw a crazy homeless guy near the West Falls Church metro who was deliberately exposing himself to anyone who could see it. I did see him and yuck. I don’t consider myself a victim of sexual harassment. But, according to the study’s definitions, I would be counted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like so many of us have lived with serial harassment as young women, but I just hate that this is ahead of her, and soon, at 14. I remember so many unwanted sexual advances throughout high school, college and most especially my first job. Just feels relentless.

I've been teaching situational awareness early on and plan for her to take a self defense course. But I'm struggling with how to teach about the vigilance needed without making all men seem predatory. When I look back on that period of time though, so many of them were.

I have only boys and we talk a fair bit about sexual assault, harassment, in-person catcalling and online chatter. I sometimes point it out when we see it IRL or in media. There's no shortage of examples

I don't think things get better with only the voices of women and the legal system. It takes us all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics

These stats are alarming. I base conversations with my children around this and ways to protect yourself. It’s so common to be sexually assaulted.

Interesting what is considered sexual harassment. I saw a crazy homeless guy near the West Falls Church metro who was deliberately exposing himself to anyone who could see it. I did see him and yuck. I don’t consider myself a victim of sexual harassment. But, according to the study’s definitions, I would be counted.

What would you call it?

Sexual harassment is unwanted sexual behavior that makes someone feel uncomfortable, scared, or humiliated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics

These stats are alarming. I base conversations with my children around this and ways to protect yourself. It’s so common to be sexually assaulted.

Interesting what is considered sexual harassment. I saw a crazy homeless guy near the West Falls Church metro who was deliberately exposing himself to anyone who could see it. I did see him and yuck. I don’t consider myself a victim of sexual harassment. But, according to the study’s definitions, I would be counted.

What would you call it?

Sexual harassment is unwanted sexual behavior that makes someone feel uncomfortable, scared, or humiliated.

I don’t know if I would call it anything other than witnessing someone else’s mental illness.

I’m also more inclined to think “meh” about privates. I don’t find it shocking, just situationally inappropriate and, in this case, yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 52 year old mom of two daughters 18 and 20.

None of us have ever had to deal with sexual harassment. Calm down.

You are so full of it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 52 year old mom of two daughters 18 and 20.

None of us have ever had to deal with sexual harassment. Calm down.

Same.

Same here. I think it makes 5 of us on this thread so far. I was beautiful in my teens/20s/30s and always dated very attractive, successful men (and then married one --a physician). But I was never really harassed--not even really cat called.

I don't really exude sexuality or vulnerability. I've never dressed provocatively or even very femininely. I'm not saying that women should change their dress to avoid harassment but I've always wondered why I never got harassed why other women say they were continually and I assume it must have had something to do with my clothing. I otherwise don't know.

One theory I have is some of it is whether you stand out in some way. Are you average height, average hair color, average build etc? Dress just fitting in? I have a friend like this and we would talk about it and no one really bothered her. She just blended in.

I am tall and blond and got harassed a bunch. I think I both stuck out and was memorable for people who might see me repeatedly during regular day to day life.

Upvoting!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 52 year old mom of two daughters 18 and 20.

None of us have ever had to deal with sexual harassment. Calm down.

You are so full of it

I’m not the 52 year old PP but I wonder if the definition of sexual harassment has something to do with it.

Up thread, a PP defines it as how it makes you feel. It’s an individual experience. What if 52 year old PP is generally unbothered? Not because she’s ignorant of the definition, but because she does not feel uncomfortable, scared, or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics

These stats are alarming. I base conversations with my children around this and ways to protect yourself. It’s so common to be sexually assaulted.

Interesting what is considered sexual harassment. I saw a crazy homeless guy near the West Falls Church metro who was deliberately exposing himself to anyone who could see it. I did see him and yuck. I don’t consider myself a victim of sexual harassment. But, according to the study’s definitions, I would be counted.

What would you call it?

Sexual harassment is unwanted sexual behavior that makes someone feel uncomfortable, scared, or humiliated.

I don’t know if I would call it anything other than witnessing someone else’s mental illness.

I’m also more inclined to think “meh” about privates. I don’t find it shocking, just situationally inappropriate and, in this case, yuck.

DP. I would still call that sexual harassment. Maybe it is different in degree from something like sexual harassment from a supervisor at work in how it affects your life. You can walk away from it the mentally ill man exposing himself on the street, but not from a boss who is pressuring you into a relationship. That scenario on the street would still put me on guard though and make me scared if I were alone, though, and I would be calling the cops in case that mentally ill man takes it a step further and attacks someone.

[Anonymous]

I was never badgered by strange men as an attractive young woman, living in a city. and yes, I was attractive-I dated attractive men who had their pick of dates, etc,

I now have 2 teenage daughters (16 and 18) who are thin, lovely, etc. I'm often out with them (almost always a few paces behind or ahead) and they're not harassed either.

So I don't know what it is. the one-off stuff with a boss or coworker is one thing and likely just bad luck--some of us run into one of these idiots in a professional setting, many of us don't. but the non-stop street harassment is definitely not a universal experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 52 year old mom of two daughters 18 and 20.

None of us have ever had to deal with sexual harassment. Calm down.

Not a normal experience pp.