Adultery is illegal in VA too. |
Seriously? What are you even talking about? Women are ALWAYS judged more harshly for deviant behavior. He is probably giving a sob story to the other woman about how his wife is abusive, cruel, they’ve stopped sleeping together, their marriage has always been a sham, he’s really in love with her, etc., etc. Why is protecting the man’s marriage the responsibility of a woman? Isn’t he responsible for what he does? Aren’t women responsible for enough? |
I’d let him know and make it clear you don’t care if he’s bleeding out on the side of the road. Lawyer up. |
No it isn’t. It’s even legal to key your own car. They are married it’s her car too. |
Too late he decided to do something to them they will now know. |
not if it is hers too |
Gaslighting a child is dangerous. She will know dad is a POS, dad will need to either stop being a POS and put his daughter 1st or continue being a POS. |
Yes for today but for next week, know your rights. Get a lawyer. Did he trick you into moving away from your support system. If so move back with your child before divorcing or you will be stuck there. Men do this all the time. |
That's not what gaslighting means. Making it a condition of divorce that XH sits down with DC and says "I'm choosing another child and another family over you" is insane. OP is hopefully just venting online and not actually planning to do any of this nonsense in real life. |
I convinced my cheating husband to get a vasectomy before he knew I was divorcing him. Is he old enough to agree? |
It’s her car |
Saying you didn’t choose another family over hers then daily choosing that family is gaslighting |
Get a lawyer now. Today.
He could come home at any time and say he's divorcing you. Protect yourself and assets. |
Again: no. Not using the term correctly. No one is saying OP's husband is behaving well. But her revenge fantasies should not include intentionally causing her daughter additional pain beyond the basic "my parents aren't together anymore" upheaval. And this position should not be controversial! |
Why? If you are going to divorce him, do you really care how his life is going to be? |