DH having affair but not home yet from “work”
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Anonymous
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Would yiu text to make sure he’s okay?
Dh is having an affair, that I found proof of a few weeks ago. I still haven’t said anything about it, but am doing the 180 while I figure out my next steps. He has a legitimate reason to work very late yesterday, but was usually home a few hours ago. He works about a 1/2 drive away. Would you text to make sure he’s alive? I’m pretty confident he’s just fallen asleep at her house and will have some excellent reason to not be home yet, but part of me feels worried. |
Anonymous
Sorry, the usually would be when he works this shift, which is not all the time. That said, even the usually didn’t make a lot of sense compared to what he should be working, but he still would have been home an hour or two ago. |
Anonymous
| Put an air tag on his vehicle |
Anonymous
| Are you really worried about him? He is actually worth more to you dead than alive. |
Anonymous
Well, it depends on how much alimony she can get and for how many years vs the insurance payput (if they even have life insurance; not everyone does.) |
Anonymous
| Update? |
Anonymous
| He magically made it home about a half hour before I would normally be getting up for my morning workout. I won’t let him know I know what time he came in. |
Anonymous
Sounds like he wants to get caught. |
Anonymous
| He's definitely winning if the other woman has her own house. |
Anonymous
Probably. But I’m not giving him that luxury. He’s going to have to tell me and his child. |
Anonymous
I guess if you think being a cheating a$&hat is “winning”. |
Anonymous
OP, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I have been there and I can imagine how difficult it is. But please don't bring the child into it. Yes, they will eventually know you are divorcing (if that's where you're heading) but they DO NOT NEED TO KNOW WHY. It will feel good in the moment but it could cause a lot of long-term damage to the child. Kids do best during divorce when parents minimize conflict, communicate well, and support the child's continued relationship with the other parent. Telling kids about adult issues like an affair puts them in the middle and causes mistrust with BOTH parents. |
Anonymous
| I’d wipe out the bank accounts, change the locks and text him his stuff is ready for pick up. |
Anonymous
| Women are f***g cruel let me tell you. The other woman probably knows about you and yet she has no issues whatsoever with it. When women start blaming other women, men will run out of women to cheat with. No the first instinct is blame the man. Of course he is responsible, he should know better. But the other women somehow don't receive as much criticism. It's really odd. |
Anonymous
You can’t do this in a divorce. It’s amazing how many people have such delusions. |