Do teens have lots of sleepovers in high school?

[Anonymous]

First level of shady stuff is easy. Get drunk and sleep it off at the checked out family’s house where no one checks on them and it’s easy to get/sneak in alcohol.

Then some of them are sneaking boys/girls in and out.

And some are doing none of this. It’s really not terribly hard to figure out which variety you have.

Also tried and true I’m sleeping at Sally’s but they’re not. Kids get burner phones and leave their main phone at friends. These are not made up scenarios. I know from parents who caught their kids doing this stuff.

[Anonymous]

Mine doesn't. He never liked them in middle school, and was relieved when this phase ended.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine did with his best friend.

Did what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try to avoid them. Nothing good happens at a HS sleepover

Says the pearl clutching mommies

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They should. Parents who allow them in HS are basically permissive and lazy.

OP here. Guilty as charged! I'm both permissive and lazy. And I think sleepovers are great for social development and they make my kid happy. If encouraging close friendship and connection is a crime, I'm guilty!

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like she had wonderful time. One little girl who loves to chat once told me : sleepover= sleep is over

Knowing that, I think sleepovers are overrated when sleep in necessary. Maybe have them in the summer when there is no school

[Anonymous]

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It’s often a cover for getting drunk, sneaking out, staying out all night, or having sex. That’s gotta be obvious to people thought right??

I just don’t see how people think this. Don’t you all have tracking on your kids? I check where my kids are all the time. They’d cut their arm off before they left their phone so I’m pretty confident I know where they are and they aren’t out carousing.

The tracker doesn’t tell me if my kids are drinking or having sex. And easily they could leave their phone at a location and pretend to be sleeping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They should. Parents who allow them in HS are basically permissive and lazy.

OP here. Guilty as charged! I'm both permissive and lazy. And I think sleepovers are great for social development and they make my kid happy. If encouraging close friendship and connection is a crime, I'm guilty!

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like she had wonderful time. One little girl who loves to chat once told me : sleepover= sleep is over

Knowing that, I think sleepovers are overrated when sleep in necessary. Maybe have them in the summer when there is no school

If your kid can't bounce back from one day of less sleep, then that is on you. I think too many mommies plan every move their kids make and leave them useless, anxious, and depressed with no autonomy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They should. Parents who allow them in HS are basically permissive and lazy.

OP here. Guilty as charged! I'm both permissive and lazy. And I think sleepovers are great for social development and they make my kid happy. If encouraging close friendship and connection is a crime, I'm guilty!

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like she had wonderful time. One little girl who loves to chat once told me : sleepover= sleep is over

Knowing that, I think sleepovers are overrated when sleep in necessary. Maybe have them in the summer when there is no school

If your kid can't bounce back from one day of less sleep, then that is on you. I think too many mommies plan every move their kids make and leave them useless, anxious, and depressed with no autonomy.

You sound like a hard core supporter of sleepovers to the point that you felt obligated to attack. Achievers don’t enjoy catching a cold or loosing sleep. Different kind of people. Where did you learn about hate?

[Anonymous]

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It’s often a cover for getting drunk, sneaking out, staying out all night, or having sex. That’s gotta be obvious to people thought right??

I just don’t see how people think this. Don’t you all have tracking on your kids? I check where my kids are all the time. They’d cut their arm off before they left their phone so I’m pretty confident I know where they are and they aren’t out carousing.

The tracker doesn’t tell me if my kids are drinking or having sex. And easily they could leave their phone at a location and pretend to be sleeping.

And….? As parents we can’t prevent everything.

It’s not like I am going to allow my kids to do that, but it’s normal teen behavior. Better to be doing that than sitting in their room alone playing video games and sending nudes to randoms on Snapchat to get their kicks. It’s funny when people act like if they just turn the screws harder on their kids, instead of being out drinking they will be in their room studying and writing their first novel. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They should. Parents who allow them in HS are basically permissive and lazy.

OP here. Guilty as charged! I'm both permissive and lazy. And I think sleepovers are great for social development and they make my kid happy. If encouraging close friendship and connection is a crime, I'm guilty!

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like she had wonderful time. One little girl who loves to chat once told me : sleepover= sleep is over

Knowing that, I think sleepovers are overrated when sleep in necessary. Maybe have them in the summer when there is no school

If your kid can't bounce back from one day of less sleep, then that is on you. I think too many mommies plan every move their kids make and leave them useless, anxious, and depressed with no autonomy.

You sound like a hard core supporter of sleepovers to the point that you felt obligated to attack. Achievers don’t enjoy catching a cold or loosing sleep. Different kind of people. Where did you learn about hate?

Achievers are that way bc they are born that way and are nurtured throughout childhood.

It’s funny bc I have an achiever and everything she does is big - including socially. She’s definitely a “sleep is for the weak” person and her homebody friends tend to lack energy and imagination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:
It’s often a cover for getting drunk, sneaking out, staying out all night, or having sex. That’s gotta be obvious to people thought right??

I just don’t see how people think this. Don’t you all have tracking on your kids? I check where my kids are all the time. They’d cut their arm off before they left their phone so I’m pretty confident I know where they are and they aren’t out carousing.

The tracker doesn’t tell me if my kids are drinking or having sex. And easily they could leave their phone at a location and pretend to be sleeping.

And….? As parents we can’t prevent everything.

It’s not like I am going to allow my kids to do that, but it’s normal teen behavior. Better to be doing that than sitting in their room alone playing video games and sending nudes to randoms on Snapchat to get their kicks. It’s funny when people act like if they just turn the screws harder on their kids, instead of being out drinking they will be in their room studying and writing their first novel. Lol

One mom shared that her kid got his first job in Silicon Valley earning so much money. He did so well in school and Ivy League college. He played video games a lot in high school. His mom said to me that the video games protected him from hanging out with the wrong people. She said a lot of the students at his school messed up at that age and achieved very little in life.
Anyways just sharing an example where video games were helpful to a keep child out of trouble.
It is possible I guess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They should. Parents who allow them in HS are basically permissive and lazy.

OP here. Guilty as charged! I'm both permissive and lazy. And I think sleepovers are great for social development and they make my kid happy. If encouraging close friendship and connection is a crime, I'm guilty!

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like she had wonderful time. One little girl who loves to chat once told me : sleepover= sleep is over

Knowing that, I think sleepovers are overrated when sleep in necessary. Maybe have them in the summer when there is no school

If your kid can't bounce back from one day of less sleep, then that is on you. I think too many mommies plan every move their kids make and leave them useless, anxious, and depressed with no autonomy.

You sound like a hard core supporter of sleepovers to the point that you felt obligated to attack. Achievers don’t enjoy catching a cold or loosing sleep. Different kind of people. Where did you learn about hate?

Achievers are that way bc they are born that way and are nurtured throughout childhood.

It’s funny bc I have an achiever and everything she does is big - including socially. She’s definitely a “sleep is for the weak” person and her homebody friends tend to lack energy and imagination.

That is so cool. Glad she is superwoman too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
It’s often a cover for getting drunk, sneaking out, staying out all night, or having sex. That’s gotta be obvious to people thought right??

I just don’t see how people think this. Don’t you all have tracking on your kids? I check where my kids are all the time. They’d cut their arm off before they left their phone so I’m pretty confident I know where they are and they aren’t out carousing.

The tracker doesn’t tell me if my kids are drinking or having sex. And easily they could leave their phone at a location and pretend to be sleeping.

And….? As parents we can’t prevent everything.

It’s not like I am going to allow my kids to do that, but it’s normal teen behavior. Better to be doing that than sitting in their room alone playing video games and sending nudes to randoms on Snapchat to get their kicks. It’s funny when people act like if they just turn the screws harder on their kids, instead of being out drinking they will be in their room studying and writing their first novel. Lol

There is some ground between a kid sitting alone and playing video games and nudes on snapchat and sleepovers that are definitely opening the door to behaviors that can get them in trouble. For example, kids can go out and have social lives and then come home by a certain time.

But in theory I agree with you that if I'm choosing between binge drinking/sex under the influence and sending nudes to randoms on Snapchat following video games online...it's a real tossup!

[Anonymous]

Among the boys I know, never. They rarely had them younger either except for camping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They should. Parents who allow them in HS are basically permissive and lazy.

OP here. Guilty as charged! I'm both permissive and lazy. And I think sleepovers are great for social development and they make my kid happy. If encouraging close friendship and connection is a crime, I'm guilty!

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like she had wonderful time. One little girl who loves to chat once told me : sleepover= sleep is over

Knowing that, I think sleepovers are overrated when sleep in necessary. Maybe have them in the summer when there is no school

If your kid can't bounce back from one day of less sleep, then that is on you. I think too many mommies plan every move their kids make and leave them useless, anxious, and depressed with no autonomy.

You sound like a hard core supporter of sleepovers to the point that you felt obligated to attack. Achievers don’t enjoy catching a cold or loosing sleep. Different kind of people. Where did you learn about hate?

Achievers are that way bc they are born that way and are nurtured throughout childhood.

It’s funny bc I have an achiever and everything she does is big - including socially. She’s definitely a “sleep is for the weak” person and her homebody friends tend to lack energy and imagination.

I am cackling at this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Amazing post. You are a total idiot.