Do teens have lots of sleepovers in high school?

[Anonymous]

My middle schooler has a sleepover with different friends every weekend and they are one of the highlights of his social life. I don't remember doing sleepovers at all in high school so I'm curious if this is likely to continue. Do sleepovers taper off in high school or do kids keep doing them?

[Anonymous]

IME they just collapse at whatever house is closest/where they are.

[Anonymous]

Try to avoid them. Nothing good happens at a HS sleepover

[Anonymous]

They should. Parents who allow them in HS are basically permissive and lazy.

[Anonymous]

DD never went to a sleepover in high school. No time at all with ECs. But hung out with friends enough. DS is a sophomore and nobody in his friend group has sleepovers.

[Anonymous]

Mine did with his best friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They should. Parents who allow them in HS are basically permissive and lazy.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Nope, DD stopped going to sleepovers after elementary school. In high school now. She just hangs out at friend’s house late but comes home to sleep. Too busy with clubs, band and homework.

[Anonymous]

My 10th grader still does. I’m wondering if it will change when they all start driving though.

[Anonymous]

My son has had a few.

I just said no to one tonight because he was exhausted last week, has four sports games, has homework tomorrow, and my DH is out of town so everything happening at school and work depends on us being fully functional. Don't worry, he's hanging out I'm just picking him up to sleep in his own bed.

But yeah, some kids do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD never went to a sleepover in high school. No time at all with ECs. But hung out with friends enough. DS is a sophomore and nobody in his friend group has sleepovers.

[Anonymous]

My daughter did with her best few friends. She has ADHD and realllly likes to talk. She would list “yapping” as one of her top hobbies. Sleepovers meant staying up talking for hours and hours.

She’s in college now, and often stays up talking with her roommate/girls on her floor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They should. Parents who allow them in HS are basically permissive and lazy.

OP here. Guilty as charged! I'm both permissive and lazy. And I think sleepovers are great for social development and they make my kid happy. If encouraging close friendship and connection is a crime, I'm guilty!

[Anonymous]

Sleepovers can be abused -- great cover story for hooking up with a girl or boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

We did. It did keep us from driving after drinking. There was sex too eventually. So, probably all of what you are worried about. At the same time, we were all kids who did well in school and in life afterwards, but who had reasons not to want to be at our parents' houses.