DD Missed Try Outs

[Anonymous]

Have her offer to manage or be a practice player, or have her talk to the track coach (which is usually no cut) about getting on the track team.

The track tryouts at our school start this week since they're at states right now for winter track.

It is a sucky situation, but I wouldn't push getting a later tryout. That ship has sailed and you won't be doing her any favors for next year. This is assuming your daughter explained the situation? But yes, understandable she didn't email, but it might not have mattered anyway as a freshman. If it is soccer or tennis, many freshman dont make it in FCPS

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry your daughter missed tryouts and I’m especially sorry for your loss. That would certainly be a valid reason in my book but it’s not surprising that in the world of HS athletics, they are inflexible. When one of my kids was in middle school he was registered for a non-school baseball tryout. He’d been really excited about playing but got a concussion a few weeks before. Since the tryout was months in advance of the season I asked if he could have a tryout a week later and was told that they didn’t make any exceptions. That meant waiting another year. He was disappointed but we accepted it. We later learned this was not in fact the policy for everyone. The world of sports is not always fair. My other son plays HS soccer and he has seen injured kids sit out tryouts but put on the roster because the coach had already seen enough the previous year or in preseason workouts.

Again, yeah it happens because most coaches are dicks, but thi is not how try outs are suppoesed to go. If Bobby ran a 4.4 40 in 2022 that doesn't mean he will run it in 2023. Ok, kids grow like weeds. They get fatter, slower, more awkward. The point of a try out is to collect data and make a fair decision. Lwtting a previous year player skip that is BS, espcially so if it is at the exclusion of others.

Call the AD. The coach is a public employee and he owes you a valid explanation. Demand it.

Except Bobby runs indoor track which just ended a month ago and ran a 4.2 40 but then pulled a hamstring and needs 6 weeks recovery. Most of these kids are competing more than just the HS season. I mean, my kid's baseball team has tons of people training in the off-season posting stuff on Twitter and the coach is following. Coach knows a kid is throwing 92...because he just threw 92 two weeks ago at a facility that officially clocked it...he isn't going to not take that kid because the kid sprained an ankle last week and now can't put any weight on it for the official tryout.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

I was imagining that the kid was a high school student. I don't know any public schools that have try out based teams for young children.

But, I also would expect the parent who didn't lose a parent to coach their kid through this. If it's a single parent situation, I can see how the parent might have been overwhelmed and not think of it.

LOL. The 'single parent' gets a pass, but the 15 year old girl doesn't. Let me guess, you're a single parent?

My point is that I can see a parent who is at their parent's bedside, and supporting their other elderly parent, being overwhelmed to the point that they don't think to cancel things. But in a two parent family, usually the other parent takes up those tasks.

I'm unclear if it's OP's parent who passed. I'm also unclear if there's another parent who could have helped this child so this didn't happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that I think the issue is not knowing your daughter couldn’t make the tryouts ahead of time.

If the coach was going to take 18 athletes and already knew ahead of time that two girls could not tryout because of injury but that they would absolutely make the team if able to tryout, the coach is now only working with 16 spots. The coach had no reason to even consider holding another spot for your daughter because they didn’t even know she wanted to try out.

If the coach offered your daughter an extra tryout date they would need to advertise an additional tryout for everyone interested. In HS, they don’t have time for this.

This is a lesson for your daughter. Even in duress, we can’t forget our other obligations.

OK, give us a break. It's a teenage girl playing HS sports.

DP, but I think that's the point. This is a low stakes situation (I know it feels important to the DD and even to OP, but it truly is low stakes) so it's good way to learn the lesson (as opposed to first real job).

[Anonymous]

You should not reach out to AD or Principal. Your dd should play on a club team, and keep improving, and attend the tryouts next year. If you reach out, even IF coach takes her this year because he has to, unless she's a true prodigy, she won't make the team again. And yes, if the 2 injured players, who have played for the coach before will heal before the season (meaning not an ACL for example), it IS appropriate to hold those 2 spots

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

So let’s assume Coach is that. Fine, tryout…sorry, you didn’t make the team.

That was quick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

I get the emotion and the sentiment, but huge public schools have to have rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Coach was not notified.... before her grandfather died... that he would die around try out.

There was no registration. It was "Be at Madison field 4pm Monday."

She reached out after the funeral, explained the family emergency, and her response was basically too bad so sad.

I agree with the coach. If she notified him beforehand, I’d say she should get a shot. But she didn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should not reach out to AD or Principal. Your dd should play on a club team, and keep improving, and attend the tryouts next year. If you reach out, even IF coach takes her this year because he has to, unless she's a true prodigy, she won't make the team again. And yes, if the 2 injured players, who have played for the coach before will heal before the season (meaning not an ACL for example), it IS appropriate to hold those 2 spots

And she likely won’t play.

She needs to take this as a life lesson to be responsible for making sure all bases are covered. She could’ve even asked a friend to reach out on her behalf.

Her only response to the coach should be along the lines of ‘thank you for the response. I’m disappointed that I missed the tryouts, but understand your rule. I’m joining club xxx to make sure I’m ready to go next year. Should a roster spot open this year, I’d love the opportunity to try out for it.’

[Anonymous]

I mean sorry this happened but what do you expect the coach to do when there were good players already at the tryout? This happens every year and they have rules for a reason. This almost exact scenario happened to our neighbors daughter and she volunteered to be the team manager. By the end of the season someone got hurt so she got their spot.

[Anonymous]

I'm a previous poster who probably sounded extremely unsympathetic. I'm sorry its not working out for your daughter.

My daughter is a soccer player in college now. When she was in high school, she tried out for several travel teams which all took place over the same couple weeks. Weather was a factor, and some try-outs were cancelled. She never got to try out at a couple clubs at all because of these cancellations. She ended up on a second-tier team because of space issues, existing rosters, she's not the next Alex Morgan, etc.

Coaches can be unforgiving. There should be better guidelines for teams and try outs, but there aren't. It would be really nice if the experience was better for everyone, but its not.

Enjoy club soccer for what its worth and realize that the big picture is to have fun, make some friends and get some exercise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Coach was not notified.... before her grandfather died... that he would die around try out.

There was no registration. It was "Be at Madison field 4pm Monday."

She reached out after the funeral, explained the family emergency, and her response was basically too bad so sad.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Is this Madison in FCPS? Sports are insanely competitive and they absolutely need to register prior to tryouts. Now you know for next year. https://www.warhawksports.org/

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you child's excuse was religion (like after sunset on Friday) or medical I think the coach is unreasonable. since the other girls reason was medical then it is reasonable.

Also, whether you like it or not, super stars get to make the team even if they are unable to make tryouts.

Sunset after Friday isn't unreasonable if the kid never told the coach ahead of time which you would have plenty of ability to do. If you just don't show up, the coach has no way of knowing why you didn't show up.

At our school it’s honored.

After the fact?
That's absurd. Jews observing the sabbath isn't something that just started last week. Observant Jews know in advance that they will not be able to make soccer tryouts after sundown on a Friday and should tell the coach ahead of time, not after the fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

I don't think it's reasonable to have a "young child" in high school. Maybe 13 at the youngest.