In your circle how old are the oldest parents

[Anonymous]

I have a 10 year old and am 49. My 10 year old has friends who have dads who are maybe 52. We are some of the oldest parents out of our kids’ friends. It didn’t seem like a big deal when they were babies but now I feel kind of old with all of the millennial parents. Maybe it would be the same with you with gen y or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 10 year old and am 49. My 10 year old has friends who have dads who are maybe 52. We are some of the oldest parents out of our kids’ friends. It didn’t seem like a big deal when they were babies but now I feel kind of old with all of the millennial parents. Maybe it would be the same with you with gen y or whatever.

I will be 49 when my youngest turns 10. I am definitely lower energy than the other moms. I get invited out for drinks and hanging out. I prefer to just stay home.

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Anonymous wrote:Feeling like an outlier becoming parents at 40.
Most of our group started about 7 years ago and are leaving babies and toddlers behind.

Depends. In wealthier circles "young" moms are having their first at 35 and many moms are having babies at mid 40s or even 50.
That skews downward significantly in less wealthy circles.

In truly wealthy circles the mom definitely skews younger because she doesn't have to work. In middle-class/upper middle/class circles where the mom works most moms have kids in their upper 30s. 40 and up is on the older end (even for celebrities). I'd say my family is middle-class in the DMV (HHI of $450) and we had our first at 28 and our last at 37. I was young for my first, but definitely on the older end for our fourth.

This literally made me laugh out loud. The median HHI in DC is something like $90k.

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Anonymous wrote:Feeling like an outlier becoming parents at 40.
Most of our group started about 7 years ago and are leaving babies and toddlers behind.

Depends. In wealthier circles "young" moms are having their first at 35 and many moms are having babies at mid 40s or even 50.
That skews downward significantly in less wealthy circles.

In truly wealthy circles the mom definitely skews younger because she doesn't have to work. In middle-class/upper middle/class circles where the mom works most moms have kids in their upper 30s. 40 and up is on the older end (even for celebrities). I'd say my family is middle-class in the DMV (HHI of $450) and we had our first at 28 and our last at 37. I was young for my first, but definitely on the older end for our fourth.

This literally made me laugh out loud. The median HHI in DC is something like $90k.

450 puts you very average in any decent school pyramid or private school.

I feel average at our private school and we have a $2m HHI.

I’m the one who said the wealthier families often have younger moms.

[Anonymous]

My 4 year old DD's best friends dad is 52.

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Anonymous wrote:Feeling like an outlier becoming parents at 40.
Most of our group started about 7 years ago and are leaving babies and toddlers behind.

Depends. In wealthier circles "young" moms are having their first at 35 and many moms are having babies at mid 40s or even 50.
That skews downward significantly in less wealthy circles.

In truly wealthy circles the mom definitely skews younger because she doesn't have to work. In middle-class/upper middle/class circles where the mom works most moms have kids in their upper 30s. 40 and up is on the older end (even for celebrities). I'd say my family is middle-class in the DMV (HHI of $450) and we had our first at 28 and our last at 37. I was young for my first, but definitely on the older end for our fourth.

This literally made me laugh out loud. The median HHI in DC is something like $90k.

450 puts you very average in any decent school pyramid or private school.

I feel average at our private school and we have a $2m HHI.

I’m the one who said the wealthier families often have younger moms.

The household name level rich family in my K class still had her oldest at 30. Is that what you mean?

I had my oldest at 27 and I have felt like a teen mom most of the time.

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Anonymous wrote:Feeling like an outlier becoming parents at 40.
Most of our group started about 7 years ago and are leaving babies and toddlers behind.

Depends. In wealthier circles "young" moms are having their first at 35 and many moms are having babies at mid 40s or even 50.
That skews downward significantly in less wealthy circles.

In truly wealthy circles the mom definitely skews younger because she doesn't have to work. In middle-class/upper middle/class circles where the mom works most moms have kids in their upper 30s. 40 and up is on the older end (even for celebrities). I'd say my family is middle-class in the DMV (HHI of $450) and we had our first at 28 and our last at 37. I was young for my first, but definitely on the older end for our fourth.

This literally made me laugh out loud. The median HHI in DC is something like $90k.

450 puts you very average in any decent school pyramid or private school.

I feel average at our private school and we have a $2m HHI.

I’m the one who said the wealthier families often have younger moms.

You’re full of shit. Or maybe just out of touch.

[Anonymous]

I know at least 10 families who had their last kid age 44+.

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Anonymous wrote:Feeling like an outlier becoming parents at 40.
Most of our group started about 7 years ago and are leaving babies and toddlers behind.

Depends. In wealthier circles "young" moms are having their first at 35 and many moms are having babies at mid 40s or even 50.
That skews downward significantly in less wealthy circles.

In truly wealthy circles the mom definitely skews younger because she doesn't have to work. In middle-class/upper middle/class circles where the mom works most moms have kids in their upper 30s. 40 and up is on the older end (even for celebrities). I'd say my family is middle-class in the DMV (HHI of $450) and we had our first at 28 and our last at 37. I was young for my first, but definitely on the older end for our fourth.

This literally made me laugh out loud. The median HHI in DC is something like $90k.

450 puts you very average in any decent school pyramid or private school.

I feel average at our private school and we have a $2m HHI.

I’m the one who said the wealthier families often have younger moms.

You’re full of shit. Or maybe just out of touch.

We live in a wealthy neighborhood and the rich wives are not normally the old wives.

I absolutely do feel in the middle at our private. Lots of family money.

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Anonymous wrote:Feeling like an outlier becoming parents at 40.
Most of our group started about 7 years ago and are leaving babies and toddlers behind.

Depends. In wealthier circles "young" moms are having their first at 35 and many moms are having babies at mid 40s or even 50.
That skews downward significantly in less wealthy circles.

In truly wealthy circles the mom definitely skews younger because she doesn't have to work. In middle-class/upper middle/class circles where the mom works most moms have kids in their upper 30s. 40 and up is on the older end (even for celebrities). I'd say my family is middle-class in the DMV (HHI of $450) and we had our first at 28 and our last at 37. I was young for my first, but definitely on the older end for our fourth.

This literally made me laugh out loud. The median HHI in DC is something like $90k.

I think the first pp is out of touch, but 90k is for all households which would include young single people and retirees. Truly the median family with 2 mid-career parents with kids is earning higher than 90k (especially those posting on here).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re definitely not an outlier in DC proper. I’m 39 with a 7 and 4 year old, and most of my friends whose oldest kids are 7ish are 1-5 years older than me. I know a few parents turning 50 this year, but they generally have an older child as well.

Doesn’t matter; OP is still an outlier. I’m 9-10 years older than most of my peer parents. Not a big deal but it’s definitely not the standard

[Anonymous]

I am 49 and have a 4th grader at a very small private school; about half the parents in the class are younger than me (one drastically younger), and the other half are 1-5 years older than me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 49 and have a 4th grader at a very small private school; about half the parents in the class are younger than me (one drastically younger), and the other half are 1-5 years older than me.

Are you including dads?

You had your kid at ~40. I really doubt half the moms had their kid after 40.

[Anonymous]

DH and I are both 44 with 7yo and 3yo DDs. Ages of moms in our circle are anywhere from 32 to 48. Dads are roughly the same, although one of my older DD’s friends has a dad who is in his early 50s.
We have close friends with 2 children the exact same age as ours, and the parents are 44 and 45.
We are in NoVA (outside the Beltway), and I feel about average here, age-wise. I feel ancient when I go back to my hometown. Most of my childhood friends started having children in their early-mid 20s, and I even have a friend back home who is now a grandmother at 45.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I are both 44 with 7yo and 3yo DDs. Ages of moms in our circle are anywhere from 32 to 48. Dads are roughly the same, although one of my older DD’s friends has a dad who is in his early 50s.
We have close friends with 2 children the exact same age as ours, and the parents are 44 and 45.
We are in NoVA (outside the Beltway), and I feel about average here, age-wise. I feel ancient when I go back to my hometown. Most of my childhood friends started having children in their early-mid 20s, and I even have a friend back home who is now a grandmother at 45.

You also probably naturally gravitate towards people like you.

I had my first two kids at ages 30 and 32. At the time, I made many family friends. During the preschool and early elementary years, we hung out with people who were in a similar time in life. There was one older mom who adopted. I would guess she was 45 when she adopted. She was so nice. She didn’t exactly fit in with our group but it was more her personality than her age.

Ten years later, we are still friends with many of those friends.