In your circle how old are the oldest parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men in my circle were in early 30's when they had kids and women in their early 30's or late 20's unless it was delayed due to infertility. Almost every men had their second before 40 and women before 35.

We must be in the same circle.

[Anonymous]

I had my kids at 36 and 38.5. Most moms I know whose oldest is the same age as my oldest range from 2 years older to 5 years younger.

[Anonymous]

I'm 46 with 9- and 7-year-olds. People I know with same-age kids are almost always younger than me, though sometimes not by much.

Among my friends/acquaintances the oldest parents are early 50s with a 10-year-old. A woman I remember from high school but don't actually *know* has a preschooler and toddler at 49, and one of my kids has a classmate whose mom is mid-50s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am 49 and have a 4th grader at a very small private school; about half the parents in the class are younger than me (one drastically younger), and the other half are 1-5 years older than me.

Are you including dads?

You had your kid at ~40. I really doubt half the moms had their kid after 40.

It's a small class as I noted, but yes half the moms had their first and only kid at/after 40. All have somewhat demanding careers so I assume that may have been a factor, and I don't think any of us in the 'older mom' cohort married particularly young.

[Anonymous]

I feel average for both my kids. Older is 14 and most of her friends are the youngest child - I'm in the middle to young side of this peer group. My youngest is 7 and I'm in the middle to old side of this group, especially if those kids are the first child - but I'm not the oldest. For my 7 yo, most moms are late 30s, but I know plenty who are mid/late 40s or even early 50s. The dads are much older 40s/50s. I know very few young dads, probably because my kid are at a wealthy private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 49 and have a 4th grader at a very small private school; about half the parents in the class are younger than me (one drastically younger), and the other half are 1-5 years older than me.

Are you including dads?

You had your kid at ~40. I really doubt half the moms had their kid after 40.

It's a small class as I noted, but yes half the moms had their first and only kid at/after 40. All have somewhat demanding careers so I assume that may have been a factor, and I don't think any of us in the 'older mom' cohort married particularly young.

I’m 46 and definitely one of the older or oldest in my child’s 1st grade class. I will be 49 when she is in 4th grade.

[Anonymous]

I am the pp with a 6 year old. As long as you don’t get weird and defensive about your age, I think you are fine.

I once met a mom who was 45 with a preschool child. I was 43 so only two years younger. I thought she was younger than me and I guess I made the mistake of asking her age. When she told me, I was surprised because I thought she would be in her thirties, like 35. She snapped at me and implied that I was rude for asking her age. I was giving her a compliment that she looked young. I mean this woman was basically my same age. I don’t know why she was so offended.

Anyways, I never tried to do anything with her again.

I have friends who have a similar reaction to me. Recently I told someone how old I was and she was shocked and said she assumed we were similar in age. She is 34. I took it as a compliment and moved on. We hang out often, went trick or treating together, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I gotta tell you, I have no idea how old any of my kids’ classmates’ parents are. I couldn’t even guess. What are y’all doing, taking a poll?

No, we become friends with them. Things like graduation year, or age of first cell phone, or cable boxes come up. Lots of things date people. Everyone has a first car story, for example. To think this you obviously haven't spent much time with the parents of your kids peers. I once told a group my first car was an '87 Carolla that was 5 years old and their jaws dropped. They thought I was 10 years younger than I am, mainly because they were 10 years younger. I felt so flattered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have 1 set of parents who are in their 50's and 60's with a 9 year old

This is my husband and me. I'm 55; he is 57 and we have a 7 year old. (he's adopted)

Cue the DCUM crowd telling us how selfish we are for having a child so late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the pp with a 6 year old. As long as you don’t get weird and defensive about your age, I think you are fine.

I once met a mom who was 45 with a preschool child. I was 43 so only two years younger. I thought she was younger than me and I guess I made the mistake of asking her age. When she told me, I was surprised because I thought she would be in her thirties, like 35. She snapped at me and implied that I was rude for asking her age. I was giving her a compliment that she looked young. I mean this woman was basically my same age. I don’t know why she was so offended.

Anyways, I never tried to do anything with her again.

I have friends who have a similar reaction to me. Recently I told someone how old I was and she was shocked and said she assumed we were similar in age. She is 34. I took it as a compliment and moved on. We hang out often, went trick or treating together, etc.

That's a strange reaction. I'm happy with my 45 years, mainly because everyone thinks I'm late 30s. I happily offer my age to conversations. Kids are 15 and 7

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my kids at 36 and 38.5. Most moms I know whose oldest is the same age as my oldest range from 2 years older to 5 years younger.

Similar situation here, wife was 36.5 and 39 when we had ours (I'm 3 years older). Most parents we know (via our kids' school friends and sports) range from about same age as us to ~10 years younger. Most parents I know who I went to college with had kids ~5-10 years younger than we did. Most parents I know from high school (mostly just observe via facebook) had kids ~10-20 years younger than we did.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is 62 with 14 and 8 year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have 1 set of parents who are in their 50's and 60's with a 9 year old

This is my husband and me. I'm 55; he is 57 and we have a 7 year old. (he's adopted)

Cue the DCUM crowd telling us how selfish we are for having a child so late.

Ok, I’ll go first. You’re nuts.

[Anonymous]

I am 49 (husband is 52) with a 15 year old and i feel like we are totally normal in our friend group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have 1 set of parents who are in their 50's and 60's with a 9 year old

This is my husband and me. I'm 55; he is 57 and we have a 7 year old. (he's adopted)

Cue the DCUM crowd telling us how selfish we are for having a child so late.

Everyone who has a child is selfish.