In your circle how old are the oldest parents

[Anonymous]

We will be empty nesters at 47.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I are both 46 and our kids are 7 and 4. Our kids have sibling classmates of the same age whose parents are also the same age.

I suspect other than that family, we are the oldest of our younger kids’ classmates parents, but not by much. Many right around 40.

For our older kid, it’s more varied. Parents whose younger kid is 7 tend to be around our age or older.

I’m 45 with a 6 year old first grader. I’m almost certain I am the oldest mom in her grade. Most of her classmates seem to have younger siblings while my oldest is 14.

I’m one of the younger moms for my high school freshman at 45 and one of the oldest for my 1st grader.

[Anonymous]

Pp here. There are some very old looking parents in high school. My kid has one friend who was a whoops baby (I think at 45). His siblings are all adults, like 30. The mom must be 60 with a freshman in high school.

[Anonymous]

I had my only at 41. Two moms on my block had their onlies at 43. My friend had her only at 44. And a few people in my parent school group had their youngest at 44.

You are nowhere near alone in your maternal age.

[Anonymous]

I currently live in the Midwest and the 7th grader across the street has a 51 year old mom and a 60 year old dad. My other neighbors have a 7th grader and 10 grader and they are in their mid-50s. These aren't the oldest parents by far but they represent what is within the range of normal.

[Anonymous]

I would not say you are an outlier but you are on the upper range of normal. I had my third child right before my 39th birthday. I did not feel out of place at all in preschool. I am Asian and look young I guess. The other moms assumed I was younger and not in my forties. My child is now in elementary and I don’t feel young or old. I don’t think anyone cares about your age.

I joined a moms group when my youngest was a baby. I was 40. I made some great friends ranging from 25 to 45.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Feeling like an outlier becoming parents at 40.
Most of our group started about 7 years ago and are leaving babies and toddlers behind.

I was 36 and 38. My husband was 43 and 45 when we had our kids. We have friends from all ages and stages. There are some “old” parents like us, some young folks, some parents with kids in middle school and high school and even grandparents 15 years older than us in our friend groups.

I attended law school and was in BigLaw. My law school girlfriends all had babies between ages 36-42.

[Anonymous]

I’m 43 with a three year old and I definitely feel I’m 5-10 years older than most other preK moms. But, I also have a 16 year old in HS so I feel pretty young.

[Anonymous]

At my private school I still feel young with my youngest who was born when I was 35.

[Anonymous]

My oldest friend w/same aged kids had her youngest of 4 at 45. That kid is friends with my youngest that I had at 31. So she is 14 years older than me. It’s not been an issue but she does make friendly jokes about it.

[Anonymous]

My friend is 48 and her husband is a few years older and they had a baby a couple months ago.

[Anonymous]

I know of a few dads having their second set of kids while in their 50s with second wives who are 30 ish.

[Anonymous]

In my circle, we are the older parents. The kids are now in college. However, I was 39 and 40 when I had my two children. And I was always the oldest parent around. Although, I was more aware of it than others. No one cared.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Feeling like an outlier becoming parents at 40.
Most of our group started about 7 years ago and are leaving babies and toddlers behind.

Depends. In wealthier circles "young" moms are having their first at 35 and many moms are having babies at mid 40s or even 50.
That skews downward significantly in less wealthy circles.

In truly wealthy circles the mom definitely skews younger because she doesn't have to work. In middle-class/upper middle/class circles where the mom works most moms have kids in their upper 30s. 40 and up is on the older end (even for celebrities). I'd say my family is middle-class in the DMV (HHI of $450) and we had our first at 28 and our last at 37. I was young for my first, but definitely on the older end for our fourth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Feeling like an outlier becoming parents at 40.
Most of our group started about 7 years ago and are leaving babies and toddlers behind.

Depends. In wealthier circles "young" moms are having their first at 35 and many moms are having babies at mid 40s or even 50.
That skews downward significantly in less wealthy circles.

In truly wealthy circles the mom definitely skews younger because she doesn't have to work. In middle-class/upper middle/class circles where the mom works most moms have kids in their upper 30s. 40 and up is on the older end (even for celebrities). I'd say my family is middle-class in the DMV (HHI of $450) and we had our first at 28 and our last at 37. I was young for my first, but definitely on the older end for our fourth.

Yes, the professional women start having kids older (mid thirties) but the truly wealthy have kids earlier. They usually stay home with lots of help and have 3-5 kids.