In your circle how old are the oldest parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Feeling like an outlier becoming parents at 40.
Most of our group started about 7 years ago and are leaving babies and toddlers behind.

Depends. In wealthier circles "young" moms are having their first at 35 and many moms are having babies at mid 40s or even 50.
That skews downward significantly in less wealthy circles.

I don’t think this is true. I see many of the prettier younger moms who are often the wealthiest or have the wealthiest husbands. These families usually have 3+ kids and they start having kids in their late twenties.

I’m well educated and had my 3 kids in my thirties, third one at 38. I was on the older side in preschool for my third child. I am definitely one of the older moms in kindergarten now.

[Anonymous]

You are definitely in the upper range, but it’s fine. I find other parents really don’t care about age. They don’t ask and it doesn’t come up. It’s more about the ages of the children. One of my closest friends is mid 50s. I’m 40. We both became parents around the same time and met in a baby story time. I was a younger mom, she adopted. Now that I have kids that are entering teens and one entering elementary, I have friends of all ages.

[Anonymous]

Not a clue. I don’t ask people their ages. I’m one of the older ones at 50 but the youngest kid is in 8th grade. A handful of us are 50-52 but outside of that I have no idea how old people are nor do I care.

[Anonymous]

Yet another thread designed to pump up over-the-hill moms, who will now come out of the wood work and tell us how “normal” it is to become first time parents after 40 and how much better off their kids will be because they’re wealthier etc. Oh, and how grandparents don’t matter.

Very tiresome

[Anonymous]

I started dating DH at 18, married at 25, and had kids at 26 and 28. You'd think I was a scandalous unwed teen mom by the way some of the moms around here treat me. I actually left the new moms group (in person) that I joined when I had my first because the moms were all 10+ years older and so cliquey/left me out of everything. Then for the last class of the session the moderate asked me to come speak because I'm a postpartum doula, certified pediatric sleep consultant, volunteer lactation support, certified baby wearing educator, and CPST. All of a sudden everyone wanted to be my friend- shocker!

[Anonymous]

I know several parents who had babies in their early 40s, so are 50 with elementary school kids. It's not every couple, but they are certainly there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Feeling like an outlier becoming parents at 40.
Most of our group started about 7 years ago and are leaving babies and toddlers behind.

Hun, I promise you this is great advise that. you need: stop thinking about what others might think or be doing themselves. Nobody truly cares about anything but their own families. Create your own family and focus on that.

[Anonymous]

I had my kids at 31 & 32 and find most parents with similarly aged kids to be right around my age in city of Alexandria. I’d say starting at 40 is still a bit of an outlier but nothing that people around here would blink an eye at.

[Anonymous]

My generation (X) had kids older in life. All of my friends were 35 plus when they had their 1st, some 40 plus. Just worked out that way.

The younger generation seems to be not even having kids...

[Anonymous]

I’m so bad with guessing ages. I’d say about 40?

For all I know people are looking at me thinking “oh wow she has kids in her 50s” when, in reality, I’m just a haggard 35y/o mom of 3

[Anonymous]

I think the oldest parents I know had their kids at 45 (mom) and 50 (dad). But they weren’t that much older than other parents. The real outliers here are people who have kids in their early 20s.

[Anonymous]

I have a third grader and I am the youngest mom at 37. Most of the moms are 44-47 and one is 53.
I also have a kindergartener and seem to be right in the middle age-wise.

[Anonymous]

Why does it matter?

Realistically, having a first child at 40 does make you an outlier. So what? Who cares? Why does it matter that other families started having children younger than you. The people trying to convince you that 40 is average in DC are delusional, but again, why do you care?

Enjoy your baby and this new phase of life.

[Anonymous]

I am the youngest mother and my husband is the oldest father. We have a big difference in age.

[Anonymous]

DH and I are both 46 and our kids are 7 and 4. Our kids have sibling classmates of the same age whose parents are also the same age.

I suspect other than that family, we are the oldest of our younger kids’ classmates parents, but not by much. Many right around 40.

For our older kid, it’s more varied. Parents whose younger kid is 7 tend to be around our age or older.