Would you leave if your wife cheated?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced older men have an easy time on the dating market, so they're more likely to walk away.

I think it's that in addition to the fact that they see it as some kind of affront to their masculinity. If they can't keep their wife under control, what kind of man are they? This is ridiculous of course but a lot of men are really insecure about things like that.

I don't blame them for leaving but I would hope they wouldn't do it for that reason if they have kids.

It has nothing to do with masculinity or “keeping a wife under control.”

It has more to do with dignity and not wishing to be with someone who is fundamentally untrustworthy and not in control of themselves.

Call it what you want, but yes men perceive staying with a woman who strayed as a threat to their dignity. Women do that less.

[Anonymous]

Nope...I wouldn't leave.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had 4 friends cheat and get caught, and all but 1 divorced.

JFC, do you cheat too? To have 5 friends cheating in their marriages is crazy. Like tends to hang with like.

I’m in my 50s and none of my close friends have cheated. Nobody has divorced either.

I truly like all of my friends’ husbands and if one of my friends told me they were cheating I’d tell them I disapprove and would pull back in the friendship.

I clearly have more friends groups than you.

1 college
1 neighbor
1 HS friend (yes I’m still friends from HS)
1 my H’s best friends wife but we vacationed together and I was her friend

Yeah. That must be. What an idiot. 1 friend since 3-years old, 5 very close college friends, 3 co-workers of over 20 years, 4 close mom friends, 2 workout buds. No divorces. No cheating. All in our 50s

And those are only the ones I knew got caught.

In my 30’s my work friends were wildin!

Why do you know so many whores?

I’m guessing statistics. 1 whore for every 10 friends. But I’d actually say why do you know so many people with daddy issues or mental illnesses. Agains statistics.

Also I didn’t choose my coworkers

Seriously if you don’t know cheaters you are just the type of person that nobody would confide in you or turn to you when they blow up their life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had 4 friends cheat and get caught, and all but 1 divorced.

JFC, do you cheat too? To have 5 friends cheating in their marriages is crazy. Like tends to hang with like.

I’m in my 50s and none of my close friends have cheated. Nobody has divorced either.

I truly like all of my friends’ husbands and if one of my friends told me they were cheating I’d tell them I disapprove and would pull back in the friendship.

Math is not your thing huh?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I definitely don’t think it’s a deal breaker, and doubt I would leave if my wife was still in love with me but just getting something else on the side. C’mon, people, women are able to have sex for sex’s sake and don’t have to be emotionally involved to cheat. Ask me how I know.

How do you know?

PP. I meant this rhetorically but there is an epistemic aspect so I’ll answer. Because in revealing her betrayal, my first question was “do you love him?” and her answer was “god no, it was just for sex” and in the emotion of that moment she seemed entirely honest. And DW is not the only woman I know who has had flings to fill a physical need.

[Anonymous]

Men, would you want to be informed? Friend has been contemplating telling APs husband for months.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced older men have an easy time on the dating market, so they're more likely to walk away.

I think it's that in addition to the fact that they see it as some kind of affront to their masculinity. If they can't keep their wife under control, what kind of man are they? This is ridiculous of course but a lot of men are really insecure about things like that.

I don't blame them for leaving but I would hope they wouldn't do it for that reason if they have kids.

It has nothing to do with masculinity or “keeping a wife under control.”

It has more to do with dignity and not wishing to be with someone who is fundamentally untrustworthy and not in control of themselves.

Call it what you want, but yes men perceive staying with a woman who strayed as a threat to their dignity. Women do that less.

No, women stay because they are afraid of financial ruin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men, would you want to be informed? Friend has been contemplating telling APs husband for months.

Absolutely would want to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men, would you want to be informed? Friend has been contemplating telling APs husband for months.

Unfortunately, shooting the messenger is a strong phenomenon, I’d be very careful. Let people work out their own relationships.

[Anonymous]

Wouldn’t divorce her if it was just fling for sex. I’d be annoyed that I wasn’t allowed to have a side-piece that whole time. Not fair.

If it was full blown affair/relationship that involved the “love” word, I would strongly consider a divorce.

Would I want to otherwise know? Nope, not really. Ignorance is bliss, take that sh#t to the grave and don’t heap that drama upon me and the kids. If you’re going to play with fire, the #1 rule is to not get caught and #2 rule is don’t publicly humiliate your spouse. Don’t involve friends, people in your social circle, parents from kids’ school, etc. If you’re getting some strange, it better be from a legit stranger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t divorce her if it was just fling for sex. I’d be annoyed that I wasn’t allowed to have a side-piece that whole time. Not fair.

If it was full blown affair/relationship that involved the “love” word, I would strongly consider a divorce.

Would I want to otherwise know? Nope, not really. Ignorance is bliss, take that sh#t to the grave and don’t heap that drama upon me and the kids. If you’re going to play with fire, the #1 rule is to not get caught and #2 rule is don’t publicly humiliate your spouse. Don’t involve friends, people in your social circle, parents from kids’ school, etc. If you’re getting some strange, it better be from a legit stranger.

Wiser words we’re never spoken.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced older men have an easy time on the dating market, so they're more likely to walk away.

I think it's that in addition to the fact that they see it as some kind of affront to their masculinity. If they can't keep their wife under control, what kind of man are they? This is ridiculous of course but a lot of men are really insecure about things like that.

I don't blame them for leaving but I would hope they wouldn't do it for that reason if they have kids.

It has nothing to do with masculinity or “keeping a wife under control.”

It has more to do with dignity and not wishing to be with someone who is fundamentally untrustworthy and not in control of themselves.

Call it what you want, but yes men perceive staying with a woman who strayed as a threat to their dignity. Women do that less.

No, women stay because they are afraid of financial ruin.

Completely false. Some of great careers and their own retirement. It’s frickin’ 2023. Many make more than their husbands, idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t divorce her if it was just fling for sex. I’d be annoyed that I wasn’t allowed to have a side-piece that whole time. Not fair.

If it was full blown affair/relationship that involved the “love” word, I would strongly consider a divorce.

Would I want to otherwise know? Nope, not really. Ignorance is bliss, take that sh#t to the grave and don’t heap that drama upon me and the kids. If you’re going to play with fire, the #1 rule is to not get caught and #2 rule is don’t publicly humiliate your spouse. Don’t involve friends, people in your social circle, parents from kids’ school, etc. If you’re getting some strange, it better be from a legit stranger.

How would you know? Married AP friend was madly in love with her AP. She used to pray he’d leave his wife. Yet not what she told her husband when caught…she also lied and “forgot” to tell him about 3 of the years it was going on. He has no idea what she did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I definitely don’t think it’s a deal breaker, and doubt I would leave if my wife was still in love with me but just getting something else on the side. C’mon, people, women are able to have sex for sex’s sake and don’t have to be emotionally involved to cheat. Ask me how I know.

Dude if she cheats she is no longer in love with you. It’s over and you won’t get it back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t divorce her if it was just fling for sex. I’d be annoyed that I wasn’t allowed to have a side-piece that whole time. Not fair.

If it was full blown affair/relationship that involved the “love” word, I would strongly consider a divorce.

Would I want to otherwise know? Nope, not really. Ignorance is bliss, take that sh#t to the grave and don’t heap that drama upon me and the kids. If you’re going to play with fire, the #1 rule is to not get caught and #2 rule is don’t publicly humiliate your spouse. Don’t involve friends, people in your social circle, parents from kids’ school, etc. If you’re getting some strange, it better be from a legit stranger.

Wow, ok with your wife banging complete randos?? Hope you don’t stick it in there anymore. Gross