Would you leave if your wife cheated?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Men looked at the cheating man either with head-shaking resignation as in "well, he's headed for trouble" or a little of "some like it hot" as in "he's a wild guy, but it's up to him."

I knew guys at work who cheated. No reason for me to be mad at that guy, he’s not cheating with my wife. I lost all respect for them, particularly when they were dumb enough to cheat with women at work. Risk getting fired and blowing up your family? Dumb dumb dumb.

The reason to be more mad at women than men who cheat is not “patriarchy” or “lower expectations of men”. It is that she is the gatekeeper of sex. If she said no, it wasn’t going to happen. Affairs would never happen if women always said no.

This could not be more misogynistic! So the responsibility to say now is hers alone?? Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ doesn’t sound like she ever had an honest relationship. People that can lie and betray easily don’t learn it overnight. It’s a character flaw that likely was there long before she married.

This is how I feel. Man or woman. They lie and are ok with lying about big things. Intentionally leading a double life. No thanks. I wouldn’t necessarily divorce but I would separate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Men looked at the cheating man either with head-shaking resignation as in "well, he's headed for trouble" or a little of "some like it hot" as in "he's a wild guy, but it's up to him."

I knew guys at work who cheated. No reason for me to be mad at that guy, he’s not cheating with my wife. I lost all respect for them, particularly when they were dumb enough to cheat with women at work. Risk getting fired and blowing up your family? Dumb dumb dumb.

The reason to be more mad at women than men who cheat is not “patriarchy” or “lower expectations of men”. It is that she is the gatekeeper of sex. If she said no, it wasn’t going to happen. Affairs would never happen if women always said no.

This could not be more misogynistic! So the responsibility to say now is hers alone?? Sheesh.

Yes, it is. The woman has total veto power over sex, that's just a fact. All she has to do to prevent an affair from happening is say no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Men looked at the cheating man either with head-shaking resignation as in "well, he's headed for trouble" or a little of "some like it hot" as in "he's a wild guy, but it's up to him."

I knew guys at work who cheated. No reason for me to be mad at that guy, he’s not cheating with my wife. I lost all respect for them, particularly when they were dumb enough to cheat with women at work. Risk getting fired and blowing up your family? Dumb dumb dumb.

The reason to be more mad at women than men who cheat is not “patriarchy” or “lower expectations of men”. It is that she is the gatekeeper of sex. If she said no, it wasn’t going to happen. Affairs would never happen if women always said no.

This could not be more misogynistic! So the responsibility to say now is hers alone?? Sheesh.

Yes, it is. The woman has total veto power over sex, that's just a fact. All she has to do to prevent an affair from happening is say no.

But men can't say no? You are strange AF.

[Anonymous]

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Men looked at the cheating man either with head-shaking resignation as in "well, he's headed for trouble" or a little of "some like it hot" as in "he's a wild guy, but it's up to him."

I knew guys at work who cheated. No reason for me to be mad at that guy, he’s not cheating with my wife. I lost all respect for them, particularly when they were dumb enough to cheat with women at work. Risk getting fired and blowing up your family? Dumb dumb dumb.

The reason to be more mad at women than men who cheat is not “patriarchy” or “lower expectations of men”. It is that she is the gatekeeper of sex. If she said no, it wasn’t going to happen. Affairs would never happen if women always said no.

This could not be more misogynistic! So the responsibility to say now is hers alone?? Sheesh.

Yes, it is. The woman has total veto power over sex, that's just a fact. All she has to do to prevent an affair from happening is say no.

But men can't say no? You are strange AF.

It is the man's role to pursue. It is the woman's role to say yes or no. If she says no, it's not happening.

I agree that married men should not pursue affairs, nor should single men chase married women. But if he does pursue, it doesn't matter how hard he chases her or how much he wants it - if she says no, it's not happening. Ergo, if women say no then affairs won't happen.

[Anonymous]

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Men looked at the cheating man either with head-shaking resignation as in "well, he's headed for trouble" or a little of "some like it hot" as in "he's a wild guy, but it's up to him."

I knew guys at work who cheated. No reason for me to be mad at that guy, he’s not cheating with my wife. I lost all respect for them, particularly when they were dumb enough to cheat with women at work. Risk getting fired and blowing up your family? Dumb dumb dumb.

The reason to be more mad at women than men who cheat is not “patriarchy” or “lower expectations of men”. It is that she is the gatekeeper of sex. If she said no, it wasn’t going to happen. Affairs would never happen if women always said no.

This could not be more misogynistic! So the responsibility to say now is hers alone?? Sheesh.

Yes, it is. The woman has total veto power over sex, that's just a fact. All she has to do to prevent an affair from happening is say no.

But men can't say no? You are strange AF.

It is the man's role to pursue. It is the woman's role to say yes or no. If she says no, it's not happening.

I agree that married men should not pursue affairs, nor should single men chase married women. But if he does pursue, it doesn't matter how hard he chases her or how much he wants it - if she says no, it's not happening. Ergo, if women say no then affairs won't happen.

This is true but for many liberals, it’s hard to accept that women are the gatekeepers of sex.

[Anonymous]

I would, without question.

But this is another reason for men not to get married in states with no-fault divorce. I got divorced for other reasons but have seen men get cheated on - sometimes multiple times when they eventually found out - and still ended up losing out in custody and ended up paying CS and/or alimony. So as a guy if you cheat on your wife you’re going to get f*cked. Also…if your wife f*cks someone you also get f*cked again by the court system.

Until that changes it’s best to just date or keep a roster.