Would you leave if your wife cheated?

[Anonymous]

Lots of posts on here about what would you do if your husband cheated. But what about your wife? Men, would you leave if your wife cheated? Is that an instant deal breaker?

[Anonymous]

Not if you don't want to be intimate with her. Then it's open

[Anonymous]

Yes, we are an older couple but if that ever happens, we will go our separate ways. Once the trust is broken, foundation is gone.

[Anonymous]

When I was younger, I'd have quickly said "yes." But, we've been together 20 years, have a really great life, and sex just doesn't loom as large as it once did in my mind.

I think it's highly unlike that she would, and maybe I'd still find it a marriage ender. But now I'm more open to the idea that there are possible contexts where I'd forgive and work through the damage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was younger, I'd have quickly said "yes." But, we've been together 20 years, have a really great life, and sex just doesn't loom as large as it once did in my mind.

I think it's highly unlike that she would, and maybe I'd still find it a marriage ender. But now I'm more open to the idea that there are possible contexts where I'd forgive and work through the damage.

But it’s not about sex right? Or is it?

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Automatic divorce. You can never come back from it if she does that.

[Anonymous]

I think the actual research says men are more likely to leave

[Anonymous]

I’ve had 4 friends cheat and get caught, and all but 1 divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was younger, I'd have quickly said "yes." But, we've been together 20 years, have a really great life, and sex just doesn't loom as large as it once did in my mind.

I think it's highly unlike that she would, and maybe I'd still find it a marriage ender. But now I'm more open to the idea that there are possible contexts where I'd forgive and work through the damage.

But it’s not about sex right? Or is it?

It’s somewhat about sex. I think maybe sex has declined in importance somewhat which, in turn, makes the betrayal feel a little less severe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had 4 friends cheat and get caught, and all but 1 divorced.

Women cheaters?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had 4 friends cheat and get caught, and all but 1 divorced.

That’s a cautionary tale if they all were friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had 4 friends cheat and get caught, and all but 1 divorced.

Women cheaters?

Yes that the subject of this thread, women cheaters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had 4 friends cheat and get caught, and all but 1 divorced.

That’s a cautionary tale if they all were friends.

They don’t know each other.

[Anonymous]

Sure, maybe. Life isn’t always black and white.