Would you leave if your wife cheated?

[Anonymous]

Men only care about the kids as much as they care about the mother. So yeah, the divorced dad can call his ex names, ruin the kids, and then move on and start Family #2 with someone else. The kids from Family #2 will get the better dad, more resources, more attention, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men only care about the kids as much as they care about the mother. So yeah, the divorced dad can call his ex names, ruin the kids, and then move on and start Family #2 with someone else. The kids from Family #2 will get the better dad, more resources, more attention, etc.

What an ignorant post!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What type of loser would stay with a cheater?? I love my wife and the sex is amazing - she's the perfect person for me. But cheating would totally negate all of that.

Someone who loves his kids and doesn't want to lose them, and who doesn't want to pay for his ex-wife and her boyfriend's house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men only care about the kids as much as they care about the mother. So yeah, the divorced dad can call his ex names, ruin the kids, and then move on and start Family #2 with someone else. The kids from Family #2 will get the better dad, more resources, more attention, etc.

I wouldn't generalize, but I've seen it happen.

But it's the new wife who demonized the ex and especially the kids, so she can take the guy's money for herself and her kids, while she is a "SAHM" former adult children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had 4 friends cheat and get caught, and all but 1 divorced.

JFC, do you cheat too? To have 5 friends cheating in their marriages is crazy. Like tends to hang with like.

I’m in my 50s and none of my close friends have cheated. Nobody has divorced either.

I truly like all of my friends’ husbands and if one of my friends told me they were cheating I’d tell them I disapprove and would pull back in the friendship.

I clearly have more friends groups than you.

1 college
1 neighbor
1 HS friend (yes I’m still friends from HS)
1 my H’s best friends wife but we vacationed together and I was her friend

Yeah. That must be. What an idiot. 1 friend since 3-years old, 5 very close college friends, 3 co-workers of over 20 years, 4 close mom friends, 2 workout buds. No divorces. No cheating. All in our 50s

And those are only the ones I knew got caught.

In my 30’s my work friends were wildin!

Why do you know so many whores?

[Anonymous]

I definitely don’t think it’s a deal breaker, and doubt I would leave if my wife was still in love with me but just getting something else on the side. C’mon, people, women are able to have sex for sex’s sake and don’t have to be emotionally involved to cheat. Ask me how I know.

[Anonymous]

Probably not. I actually think it would be kind of hot. But we are into sharing....

[Anonymous]

Divorced older men have an easy time on the dating market, so they're more likely to walk away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced older men have an easy time on the dating market, so they're more likely to walk away.

I think it's that in addition to the fact that they see it as some kind of affront to their masculinity. If they can't keep their wife under control, what kind of man are they? This is ridiculous of course but a lot of men are really insecure about things like that.

I don't blame them for leaving but I would hope they wouldn't do it for that reason if they have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men only care about the kids as much as they care about the mother. So yeah, the divorced dad can call his ex names, ruin the kids, and then move on and start Family #2 with someone else. The kids from Family #2 will get the better dad, more resources, more attention, etc.

What an ignorant post!

It’s not ignorant. This is absolutely what happens. Men care about what the woman is doing for them in the here and now.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]Lots of posts on here about what would you do if your husband cheated. But what about your wife? Men, would you leave if your wife cheated? Is that an instant deal breaker? [/quote]

It was for me. And I did. And I used it against her in court. Successfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I definitely don’t think it’s a deal breaker, and doubt I would leave if my wife was still in love with me but just getting something else on the side. C’mon, people, women are able to have sex for sex’s sake and don’t have to be emotionally involved to cheat. Ask me how I know.

How do you know?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men only care about the kids as much as they care about the mother. So yeah, the divorced dad can call his ex names, ruin the kids, and then move on and start Family #2 with someone else. The kids from Family #2 will get the better dad, more resources, more attention, etc.

What an ignorant post!

It’s not ignorant. This is absolutely what happens. Men care about what the woman is doing for them in the here and now.

Well, my dad cared much more about me than my literally insane mom (love her, but she is literally insane). Yes the kids from the first marriage got fewer financial resources but as far as emotional support and trying to be the best dad he could, he gave everything he had.

He might be a rarity, but men like him certainly exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I'd divorce her and tell the kids there's a divorce because mommy is a who-er.

When I left my wife for her cheating, I didn’t discuss that reason with the kids. That’s not fair to them. If they asked I told them to ask their mother. She lied, of course. Because she was a lying liar who lies. They figured things out themselves eventually. And the truth came out without me being the ass who disparaged her. Take the high road on this one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced older men have an easy time on the dating market, so they're more likely to walk away.

I think it's that in addition to the fact that they see it as some kind of affront to their masculinity. If they can't keep their wife under control, what kind of man are they? This is ridiculous of course but a lot of men are really insecure about things like that.

I don't blame them for leaving but I would hope they wouldn't do it for that reason if they have kids.

It has nothing to do with masculinity or “keeping a wife under control.”

It has more to do with dignity and not wishing to be with someone who is fundamentally untrustworthy and not in control of themselves.