Do you have a decent backyard? Or you can use a room at your House of Worship for refreshments after the nuptials. There is no need for an expensive wedding even with a large family. |
I think the question OP meant to ask is if OP pays for the whole wedding, does the groom’s side get an equally large guest list.
At my wedding, we did it traditionally where the bride’s side paid due to finances. The wedding was in the groom’s town where the couple lived, and the mom had a huge list of guests that had to be pared down significantly. It can get tense to set the guest list realistically. |
I don't get all of the comments suggesting the bride and groom shouldn't get married if they can't pay for the wedding themselves. The types of people who have college and expensive graduate programs paid for by their parents are the kinds of people whose parents also pay for them to have a nice wedding. It's just a matter of whether it should all be covered by the bride's family as is tradition, or whether the groom's family should contribute something as well. |
THIS is your answer. |
Yeah, these acronyms are so stupid. Does it really save any time to type DS instead of son??? |
They should give the money they want to give, but have no expectations about how it is used. In theory, at least the people getting married are adults; it’s their wedding; they decide (I say in theory because these two getting married are still children who are being taken care of by their parents.) |
Well, they want a large wedding because they are rich, excuse me, UMC. |
YES. Also be clear what wedding demands you have upfront… if you give your daughter a set amount, she may not agree that you get to have a say in the details. |
It’s not the acronyms, it’s switching back and forth that caused the problem. |
Are you people really so dense that you couldn't figure it out from context. Plus, why does the gender matter? The question asked was straightforward. |
Are you so dense you didn't read it? OP called the person getting married both a DD and a DS. Which is it? Please clear up the confusion. |
As parents of a groom, we did make the rehearsal dinner a mini wedding, and spent a ton. Also, the whole wedding occurred at our small summer community. So we didn’t feel an ounce of guilt that the bride’s family picked up the tab for the reception. The bride and groom paid for their own honeymoon, which was delayed. So for the OP, if the groom’s parents are similarly stepping up to the plate, you may have nothing to complain about. |
This. And for context, I was recently the Mother of the Bride. I did pay for (almost) all of it. I always expected to pay for a daughter's wedding. I did know an amount I wouldn't have gone above. There were things the couple wanted that I thought were too expensive .. example, flowers costing x and it could have been y, so I contributed y. They paid the difference because they wanted something more deluxe. I agree with the above, that the general advice is: THIS is not your problem to solve. |
The context was clear. People post from their damn phones. Get a life. |
I'm just curious what top MBA programs are taking folks right out of undergrad? |