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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the first step is to talk candidly with your daughter.  Start getting a feel for the size/type of wedding and what the real numbers are, and then decide if it makes sense to broach the subject of her future in-laws contributing, and if so, the best way to go about that.  Of course your future son in law should have input, too, but probably best to let your daughter handle.

Have the future in-laws offered to pay for anything?  Typically if the bride's parents are paying for the wedding, the groom's family will pay for the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon.  And many rehearsal dinners end up being mini weddings given the size of the wedding party, inviting out of town guests, etc.  That's how my parents and in-laws divided it.

Prior comments that the bride and groom should pay are silly.  They are just finishing college and have no money.  The bride's parents can afford it and are obviously happy to contribute.  [/quote]

As parents of a groom, we did make the rehearsal dinner a mini wedding, and spent a ton.  Also, the whole wedding occurred at our small summer community.  So we didn’t feel an ounce of guilt that the bride’s family picked up the tab for the reception.  The bride and groom paid for their own honeymoon, which was delayed.

So for the OP, if the groom’s parents are similarly stepping up to the plate, you may have nothing to complain about.[/quote]

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