Friends are mocking my credit card

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote: "Fee is waived since DH is in the military." Otherwise, the annual fee is $695.

OP: Your friends probably think that you are paying $695 a year for the AMEX Platinum Card in order to impress others. In reality, it is a meaningful benefit (no annual fee with high rewards) of military service. Your friends are ignorant, shallow, small-minded, and insensitive. If this is the focus--or even a focus-of their thoughts and words, then you might want to consider making new friends.

OP here. That's exactly what bothers me. I stopped using the card in person early on when a cashier commented on it being metal, but my debit card had just been stolen and I didn't have a choice. I'm super thrifty and live way under my means, and it hurt that they made assumptions about me.

Ok, this just took it to another level. OP. Why would a comment that it’s “metal” — which most credit cards are not — make you stop using it ? At the worst, someone you encountered once in your life made a random comment that you spiraled into what you imagined— and assumed— someone you’ll likely never see again thinks about you. A random cashier doesn’t know — or care — that you’re “ super thrifty”, and was likely not making any assumptions about how you live or intending to hurt you. OP, is this a pattern for you beyond issues related to your credit card?

I am not sure why you put metal in quotes. Because yes, when you hand it over, it's a lot heavier, and people notice. Especially if you accidentally drop it on the counter or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote: "Fee is waived since DH is in the military." Otherwise, the annual fee is $695.

OP: Your friends probably think that you are paying $695 a year for the AMEX Platinum Card in order to impress others. In reality, it is a meaningful benefit (no annual fee with high rewards) of military service. Your friends are ignorant, shallow, small-minded, and insensitive. If this is the focus--or even a focus-of their thoughts and words, then you might want to consider making new friends.

OP here. That's exactly what bothers me. I stopped using the card in person early on when a cashier commented on it being metal, but my debit card had just been stolen and I didn't have a choice. I'm super thrifty and live way under my means, and it hurt that they made assumptions about me.

Ok, this just took it to another level. OP. Why would a comment that it’s “metal” — which most credit cards are not — make you stop using it ? At the worst, someone you encountered once in your life made a random comment that you spiraled into what you imagined— and assumed— someone you’ll likely never see again thinks about you. A random cashier doesn’t know — or care — that you’re “ super thrifty”, and was likely not making any assumptions about how you live or intending to hurt you. OP, is this a pattern for you beyond issues related to your credit card?

OP here. Yeah - I don't like drawing attention to myself, so anytime some makes a comment about something they've noticed about me, it's uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote: "Fee is waived since DH is in the military." Otherwise, the annual fee is $695.

OP: Your friends probably think that you are paying $695 a year for the AMEX Platinum Card in order to impress others. In reality, it is a meaningful benefit (no annual fee with high rewards) of military service. Your friends are ignorant, shallow, small-minded, and insensitive. If this is the focus--or even a focus-of their thoughts and words, then you might want to consider making new friends.

OP here. That's exactly what bothers me. I stopped using the card in person early on when a cashier commented on it being metal, but my debit card had just been stolen and I didn't have a choice. I'm super thrifty and live way under my means, and it hurt that they made assumptions about me.

Ok, this just took it to another level. OP. Why would a comment that it’s “metal” — which most credit cards are not — make you stop using it ? At the worst, someone you encountered once in your life made a random comment that you spiraled into what you imagined— and assumed— someone you’ll likely never see again thinks about you. A random cashier doesn’t know — or care — that you’re “ super thrifty”, and was likely not making any assumptions about how you live or intending to hurt you. OP, is this a pattern for you beyond issues related to your credit card?

I am not sure why you put metal in quotes. Because yes, when you hand it over, it's a lot heavier, and people notice. Especially if you accidentally drop it on the counter or whatever.

I put “metal” in quotes because I was quoting the OP — and contrasting the simplicity of what the cashier said with the OP’s spiraling thoughts about it. Yes, the metal ones are different. “…which most credit cards are not”. Yes, quoting myself here — to point out that I suggested the differences that you delineated. Have a lovely day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote: "Fee is waived since DH is in the military." Otherwise, the annual fee is $695.

OP: Your friends probably think that you are paying $695 a year for the AMEX Platinum Card in order to impress others. In reality, it is a meaningful benefit (no annual fee with high rewards) of military service. Your friends are ignorant, shallow, small-minded, and insensitive. If this is the focus--or even a focus-of their thoughts and words, then you might want to consider making new friends.

OP here. That's exactly what bothers me. I stopped using the card in person early on when a cashier commented on it being metal, but my debit card had just been stolen and I didn't have a choice. I'm super thrifty and live way under my means, and it hurt that they made assumptions about me.

Ok, this just took it to another level. OP. Why would a comment that it’s “metal” — which most credit cards are not — make you stop using it ? At the worst, someone you encountered once in your life made a random comment that you spiraled into what you imagined— and assumed— someone you’ll likely never see again thinks about you. A random cashier doesn’t know — or care — that you’re “ super thrifty”, and was likely not making any assumptions about how you live or intending to hurt you. OP, is this a pattern for you beyond issues related to your credit card?

OP here. Yeah - I don't like drawing attention to myself, so anytime some makes a comment about something they've noticed about me, it's uncomfortable.

Ok. Then I’d like to gently and respectfully suggest that knowing this about yourself, you ask yourself how you want people — particularly friends who may not realize this — to treat you. Do you really want people to not notice you? Or to never comment on things that they’ve noticed?

[Anonymous]

I have the Platinum and like the points and perks. Definitely get my money's worth out of it.

HOWEVER, it is really stupid that it is a metal card. It is designed to stand out to it feel like a status symbol, when it isn't. This is my least favorite thing about it, flashy for no good reason. I wish they would make a card with the same benefits that just...looks like a regular card.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote: "Fee is waived since DH is in the military." Otherwise, the annual fee is $695.

OP: Your friends probably think that you are paying $695 a year for the AMEX Platinum Card in order to impress others. In reality, it is a meaningful benefit (no annual fee with high rewards) of military service. Your friends are ignorant, shallow, small-minded, and insensitive. If this is the focus--or even a focus-of their thoughts and words, then you might want to consider making new friends.

OP here. That's exactly what bothers me. I stopped using the card in person early on when a cashier commented on it being metal, but my debit card had just been stolen and I didn't have a choice. I'm super thrifty and live way under my means, and it hurt that they made assumptions about me.

Ok, this just took it to another level. OP. Why would a comment that it’s “metal” — which most credit cards are not — make you stop using it ? At the worst, someone you encountered once in your life made a random comment that you spiraled into what you imagined— and assumed— someone you’ll likely never see again thinks about you. A random cashier doesn’t know — or care — that you’re “ super thrifty”, and was likely not making any assumptions about how you live or intending to hurt you. OP, is this a pattern for you beyond issues related to your credit card?

OP here. Yeah - I don't like drawing attention to myself, so anytime some makes a comment about something they've noticed about me, it's uncomfortable.

Guess what? Being the big baby of the group draws attention to you! You need to ignore otherwise they will know which buttons to push.

[Anonymous]

Dumb and Dumber

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote: "Fee is waived since DH is in the military." Otherwise, the annual fee is $695.

OP: Your friends probably think that you are paying $695 a year for the AMEX Platinum Card in order to impress others. In reality, it is a meaningful benefit (no annual fee with high rewards) of military service. Your friends are ignorant, shallow, small-minded, and insensitive. If this is the focus--or even a focus-of their thoughts and words, then you might want to consider making new friends.

OP here. That's exactly what bothers me. I stopped using the card in person early on when a cashier commented on it being metal, but my debit card had just been stolen and I didn't have a choice. I'm super thrifty and live way under my means, and it hurt that they made assumptions about me.

Ok, this just took it to another level. OP. Why would a comment that it’s “metal” — which most credit cards are not — make you stop using it ? At the worst, someone you encountered once in your life made a random comment that you spiraled into what you imagined— and assumed— someone you’ll likely never see again thinks about you. A random cashier doesn’t know — or care — that you’re “ super thrifty”, and was likely not making any assumptions about how you live or intending to hurt you. OP, is this a pattern for you beyond issues related to your credit card?

OP here. Yeah - I don't like drawing attention to myself, so anytime some makes a comment about something they've noticed about me, it's uncomfortable.

Guess what? Being the big baby of the group draws attention to you! You need to ignore otherwise they will know which buttons to push.

I DID ignore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have the Platinum and like the points and perks. Definitely get my money's worth out of it.

HOWEVER, it is really stupid that it is a metal card. It is designed to stand out to it feel like a status symbol, when it isn't. This is my least favorite thing about it, flashy for no good reason. I wish they would make a card with the same benefits that just...looks like a regular card.

Agree, 100%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote: "Fee is waived since DH is in the military." Otherwise, the annual fee is $695.

OP: Your friends probably think that you are paying $695 a year for the AMEX Platinum Card in order to impress others. In reality, it is a meaningful benefit (no annual fee with high rewards) of military service. Your friends are ignorant, shallow, small-minded, and insensitive. If this is the focus--or even a focus-of their thoughts and words, then you might want to consider making new friends.

OP here. That's exactly what bothers me. I stopped using the card in person early on when a cashier commented on it being metal, but my debit card had just been stolen and I didn't have a choice. I'm super thrifty and live way under my means, and it hurt that they made assumptions about me.

Ok, this just took it to another level. OP. Why would a comment that it’s “metal” — which most credit cards are not — make you stop using it ? At the worst, someone you encountered once in your life made a random comment that you spiraled into what you imagined— and assumed— someone you’ll likely never see again thinks about you. A random cashier doesn’t know — or care — that you’re “ super thrifty”, and was likely not making any assumptions about how you live or intending to hurt you. OP, is this a pattern for you beyond issues related to your credit card?

OP here. Yeah - I don't like drawing attention to myself, so anytime some makes a comment about something they've noticed about me, it's uncomfortable.

Ok. Then I’d like to gently and respectfully suggest that knowing this about yourself, you ask yourself how you want people — particularly friends who may not realize this — to treat you. Do you really want people to not notice you? Or to never comment on things that they’ve noticed?

I'm sensitive to criticism, so yes, I guess those are the comments I get, I'd rather not be noticed.

[Anonymous]

You have weirdo friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have weirdo friends.

No. OP is the weirdo. Sad part is that she is actually an adult married woman. This is a '13 yr old middle school girl with issues' kind of behavior! Yikes.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you actually LMC or MC? Is that the sticking point that you have a "prestigious" card but you are broke?

[Anonymous]

Was this around dc/VA? I feel like there are so many active duty military and spouses in this area that use that card?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you actually LMC or MC? Is that the sticking point that you have a "prestigious" card but you are broke?

I don't know what class we'd be considered, but we're not broke, and I pay off the card every month.