Friends are mocking my credit card

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Anonymous wrote:Was this around dc/VA? I feel like there are so many active duty military and spouses in this area that use that card?

No, it was back home in a large Midwestern city over Thanksgiving. But yes, I know tons of spouses with it.

I think a lot of non military in the same income bracket as military really don’t understand military life and how there are certain things that come with the job in exchange for the risks. For example, the fact that worrying as much as civilians in the same bracket about housing costs is not something most military do because of base allocated housing.

This is a good take. OP, I think to make them stop you just say “hey guys the jokes about my credit card are getting old. DH’s job pays for it; we’re not rich.” And possibly leave the group chat with these people because they clearly like relating with ribbing and personal jokes in a way you don’t. (I don’t either to be clear but I realize they are people who don’t mind these kind of group dynamics at all.)

This is great advice, PP! I’d probably leave out the “we’re not rich” part though, since it might open her up to more unwelcome teasing and comments.

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing special. Amex Platinum. Fee is waived since DH is military. But I pulled it out over Thanksgiving after dinner with college friends (we were splitting the bill), and they pointed and laughed, basically. Made jokes about me being rich. We have a group email thread, and they keep bringing it up. I don't think it's funny, but I couldn't tell you why. Is there any way to get them to stop?

I think OP is making this up. I just heard a story about this anecdote on a very popular podcast.

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing special. Amex Platinum. Fee is waived since DH is military. But I pulled it out over Thanksgiving after dinner with college friends (we were splitting the bill), and they pointed and laughed, basically. Made jokes about me being rich. We have a group email thread, and they keep bringing it up. I don't think it's funny, but I couldn't tell you why. Is there any way to get them to stop?

I think OP is making this up. I just heard a story about this anecdote on a very popular podcast.

Right. Because in a world full of people and situations, this only happens once? Its probably something that happens frequently.

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Either
1. You have weird immature friends who are fixated on a strange detail or (more likely)

2. You come off as braggy and bring up your self perceived wealth often and they are making fun of you

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They must be poor OP. How old are you?

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Anonymous wrote:OP wrote: "Fee is waived since DH is in the military." Otherwise, the annual fee is $695.

OP: Your friends probably think that you are paying $695 a year for the AMEX Platinum Card in order to impress others. In reality, it is a meaningful benefit (no annual fee with high rewards) of military service. Your friends are ignorant, shallow, small-minded, and insensitive. If this is the focus--or even a focus-of their thoughts and words, then you might want to consider making new friends.

I wouldn't want to have your friends, OP. They're really small minded.

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Anonymous wrote:They must be poor OP. How old are you?

I’m also curious about OP and friends. I used to be pretty poor and honestly never noticed peoples credit card materials. Too poor to know these wealth indicators, I guess.

Now MC and the only way this would be a joke is if the person was really up their own ass and constantly trying to come off as more well off than they are.

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Meh I’d be more impressed if you paid in all cash. I’d never be jealous of someone who pays with a credit card, no matter what.

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny again forgot to mention with the Amex offers, so far this year I’ve received free calm app for the year ($70), $50 off instacart twice, $50 off container store twice, $50 off Home Depot. So many good offers in the Amex app!

I need to start using my benefits.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh I’d be more impressed if you paid in all cash. I’d never be jealous of someone who pays with a credit card, no matter what.

Well, it’s not actually a credit card since you can’t carry a balance. It’s a charge card. Big difference.

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Anonymous wrote:They must be poor OP. How old are you?

33.

As for the one who think I'm bragging, I have the card because the benefits are food and again, it's free. I don't have a single credit card. My debit card had been stolen, and my replacement hadn't come yet. How was I supposed to pay?

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Anonymous wrote:People poke at the perceived outlier. I moved across the country and built a solid life for myself. I’d go home to visit and get called “big shot” by damn near everyone in our small town. It used to bother me, but the older I get the more I embrace the fact that I chose to struggle hard as a means to an end, rather than struggle for the rest of my life in a dead end town. I also stopped going home and seeing these people. Perhaps you should let some of these friendships fade.

You're right. Thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh I’d be more impressed if you paid in all cash. I’d never be jealous of someone who pays with a credit card, no matter what.

Well, it’s not actually a credit card since you can’t carry a balance. It’s a charge card. Big difference.

I’d still be more impressed if they paid with straight cash, though.

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Anonymous wrote:Meh I’d be more impressed if you paid in all cash. I’d never be jealous of someone who pays with a credit card, no matter what.

Well, it’s not actually a credit card since you can’t carry a balance. It’s a charge card. Big difference.

I’d still be more impressed if they paid with straight cash, though. [/quote

How would I obtained said cash? I had no debit card.

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Anonymous wrote:I have that card and we are not rich. DH has a business and I have one of the cards. I had no idea there were issues with it until reading this post.

If my friends joked about it I would likely say something like - yes, we are fancy like that. And then let it go.

You're right. This is what I should have said - I've just been ignoring it, which I thought was what you did when you want people to drop something!

It’s obviously still bothering you and they are still bringing it up. Say it next time and laugh it off. And keep it light every time they bring it up in the figure. Hell, even sing the Fancy like Applebees song. That’s how I would handle it if it bothered me.