Boyfriend might go on vacation with his ex

[Anonymous]

I’d be fine with it. It’s a big family gathering and he’s not going to be sneaking off with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there a chance he would allow you to pose as an Uber eats driver, name of Cathy, who delivers a couple of meals and sort of "gets to know" the family in a very friendly, informal way. That way you can get a looksee at what's going on, what the overall dynamic is, etc, etc etc. Thoughts?

Wth kind of idea is this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is there a chance he would allow you to pose as an Uber eats driver, name of Cathy, who delivers a couple of meals and sort of "gets to know" the family in a very friendly, informal way. That way you can get a looksee at what's going on, what the overall dynamic is, etc, etc etc. Thoughts?

NP. I hope this is meant as a joke. It's...a joke, right? Right?

If not, it's a horrible idea. Pure immature game-playing.

And in the event the OP and this boyfriend stay together, well, at some point OP is likely to meet his ex at a kid pickup or whatever, just crossing paths...and if the ex recognizes OP as "Cathy"? That's going to sour a decent relationship between the two exes, who do still have to co-parent. And if OP ever meets the BF's parents later and they also recognize "Cathy"? Hey, son, that was deceptive of you, and your GF seems possessive if she'd pretend like that....

Just, no.

PP, try to think away from the box. We think this idea has a lot of potential. When Cathy/Kathy shows up to deliver the Uber Eats yummies, why couldn't the boyfriend something along the lines of "Well, she was kind of cute... and nice, too" and just leave it at that.

And then when she brings another meals (something "ethnic" and tasty) he says "I know it sounds crazy, but... I think she's remarkable." Or something like that.

As far as the name, OP could use her own name, but Cathy/Kathy may be more believable. k?

Love this for you, OP.

And if you do decide to go along with this plan may I come and disguise myself as a long-lost uncle so I can witness the whole thing? I’ll wear a fake mustache and bring a newspaper so it’s not obvious that I’m there to spy.

Am only trying to help. But I see the Peanut Factory disagrees!

What?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like his family doesn’t know about the divorce.

Interesting idea...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like his family doesn’t know about the divorce.

Interesting idea...

which will make it all the more hilarious when Cathy/Kathy shows up and OP’s boyfriend starts to drop hints about how intriguing and beguiling she is, as she hands over his ethnic food Uber order.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like his family doesn’t know about the divorce.

Interesting idea...

which will make it all the more hilarious when Cathy/Kathy shows up and OP’s boyfriend starts to drop hints about how intriguing and beguiling she is, as she hands over his ethnic food Uber order.

No, it doesn’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is there a chance he would allow you to pose as an Uber eats driver, name of Cathy, who delivers a couple of meals and sort of "gets to know" the family in a very friendly, informal way. That way you can get a looksee at what's going on, what the overall dynamic is, etc, etc etc. Thoughts?

NP. I hope this is meant as a joke. It's...a joke, right? Right?

If not, it's a horrible idea. Pure immature game-playing.

And in the event the OP and this boyfriend stay together, well, at some point OP is likely to meet his ex at a kid pickup or whatever, just crossing paths...and if the ex recognizes OP as "Cathy"? That's going to sour a decent relationship between the two exes, who do still have to co-parent. And if OP ever meets the BF's parents later and they also recognize "Cathy"? Hey, son, that was deceptive of you, and your GF seems possessive if she'd pretend like that....

Just, no.

PP, try to think away from the box. We think this idea has a lot of potential. When Cathy/Kathy shows up to deliver the Uber Eats yummies, why couldn't the boyfriend something along the lines of "Well, she was kind of cute... and nice, too" and just leave it at that.

And then when she brings another meals (something "ethnic" and tasty) he says "I know it sounds crazy, but... I think she's remarkable." Or something like that.

As far as the name, OP could use her own name, but Cathy/Kathy may be more believable. k?

Love this for you, OP.

And if you do decide to go along with this plan may I come and disguise myself as a long-lost uncle so I can witness the whole thing? I’ll wear a fake mustache and bring a newspaper so it’s not obvious that I’m there to spy.

Am only trying to help. But I see the Peanut Factory disagrees!

What?

All that was meant by the idea below is "If you want to make an omelette, you need to go to the store and Buy Some Eggs." A favorite teacher used to say "There's no 'I' in idea" and if you don't get it, forget it.

Is there a chance he would allow you to pose as an Uber Eats driver, name of Cathy, who delivers a couple of meals and sort of "gets to know" the family in a very friendly, informal way. That way you can get a looksee at what's going on, what the overall dynamic is, etc, etc etc.

[Anonymous]

Me and my ex-h still have sex, so there's that. Take from that what you will.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is there a chance he would allow you to pose as an Uber eats driver, name of Cathy, who delivers a couple of meals and sort of "gets to know" the family in a very friendly, informal way. That way you can get a looksee at what's going on, what the overall dynamic is, etc, etc etc. Thoughts?

NP. I hope this is meant as a joke. It's...a joke, right? Right?

If not, it's a horrible idea. Pure immature game-playing.

And in the event the OP and this boyfriend stay together, well, at some point OP is likely to meet his ex at a kid pickup or whatever, just crossing paths...and if the ex recognizes OP as "Cathy"? That's going to sour a decent relationship between the two exes, who do still have to co-parent. And if OP ever meets the BF's parents later and they also recognize "Cathy"? Hey, son, that was deceptive of you, and your GF seems possessive if she'd pretend like that....

Just, no.

PP, try to think away from the box. We think this idea has a lot of potential. When Cathy/Kathy shows up to deliver the Uber Eats yummies, why couldn't the boyfriend something along the lines of "Well, she was kind of cute... and nice, too" and just leave it at that.

And then when she brings another meals (something "ethnic" and tasty) he says "I know it sounds crazy, but... I think she's remarkable." Or something like that.

As far as the name, OP could use her own name, but Cathy/Kathy may be more believable. k?

Love this for you, OP.

And if you do decide to go along with this plan may I come and disguise myself as a long-lost uncle so I can witness the whole thing? I’ll wear a fake mustache and bring a newspaper so it’s not obvious that I’m there to spy.

Am only trying to help. But I see the Peanut Factory disagrees!

What?

All that was meant by the idea below is "If you want to make an omelette, you need to go to the store and Buy Some Eggs." A favorite teacher used to say "There's no 'I' in idea" and if you don't get it, forget it.

Is there a chance he would allow you to pose as an Uber Eats driver, name of Cathy, who delivers a couple of meals and sort of "gets to know" the family in a very friendly, informal way. That way you can get a looksee at what's going on, what the overall dynamic is, etc, etc etc.

You’re really not making any sense. What are you trying to say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there a chance he would allow you to pose as an Uber eats driver, name of Cathy, who delivers a couple of meals and sort of "gets to know" the family in a very friendly, informal way. That way you can get a looksee at what's going on, what the overall dynamic is, etc, etc etc. Thoughts?

You're an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me and my ex-h still have sex, so there's that. Take from that what you will.

Will be easy for the boyfriend since chances are his family doesn’t know he’s divorced.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Me and my ex-h still have sex, so there's that. Take from that what you will.

Will be easy for the boyfriend since chances are his family doesn’t know he’s divorced.

But the kids do. How could they hide it???

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Me and my ex-h still have sex, so there's that. Take from that what you will.

Will be easy for the boyfriend since chances are his family doesn’t know he’s divorced.

But the kids do. How could they hide it???

Are you OP?

[Anonymous]

OP you need to proceed very carefully here. You are seven months into a relationship with a man who is not setting boundaries with an ex. If your ex partner has cancer you offered to take the kids more often. Or you are generous with child support. You don’t bring them on your family vacation. This is all wrong. People who are labeling you as somehow not having compassion don’t understand healthy boundaries. If you both have a small kids you need to really watch it here. This will not end well. I’m sorry, bc it sounds like you like him. But this has red flags all over it.

[Anonymous]

Are you certain he's actually divorced?