Boyfriend might go on vacation with his ex

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Anonymous wrote:Is there a chance he would allow you to pose as an Uber eats driver, name of Cathy, who delivers a couple of meals and sort of "gets to know" the family in a very friendly, informal way. That way you can get a looksee at what's going on, what the overall dynamic is, etc, etc etc. Thoughts?

NP. I hope this is meant as a joke. It's...a joke, right? Right?

If not, it's a horrible idea. Pure immature game-playing.

And in the event the OP and this boyfriend stay together, well, at some point OP is likely to meet his ex at a kid pickup or whatever, just crossing paths...and if the ex recognizes OP as "Cathy"? That's going to sour a decent relationship between the two exes, who do still have to co-parent. And if OP ever meets the BF's parents later and they also recognize "Cathy"? Hey, son, that was deceptive of you, and your GF seems possessive if she'd pretend like that....

Just, no.

PP, try to think away from the box. We think this idea has a lot of potential. When Cathy/Kathy shows up to deliver the Uber Eats yummies, why couldn't the boyfriend something along the lines of "Well, she was kind of cute... and nice, too" and just leave it at that.

And then when she brings another meals (something "ethnic" and tasty) he says "I know it sounds crazy, but... I think she's remarkable." Or something like that.

As far as the name, OP could use her own name, but Cathy/Kathy may be more believable. k?

So the man is supposed to pretend even after this absurd role-play game that this was their first meeting, and that he then went on to contact her, after this vacation, and start dating her.

This is beyond immature, k?

But your details are cute. "Something 'ethnic' and tasty"! "I know it sounds crazy but...I think she's remarkable." What a great line of dialogue. Go write it as romantic fiction, which is all it is. It's not how grown-ups behave in the real world. But maybe you self-publish it online! You could be the next whoever that Twilight writer is!

Who is this "we" that you're referring to, hm? Is it you, yourself & you??
Nobody thinks this idea has potential -- its one of the worst ideas I've ever seen on DCUM.

Your silly, immature manipulations & fantasies are the main reason that we women get called names like "psycho", "stalker" or "stage 5 clinger".

"Cathy" is exhibit A... she's a textbook stalker, psycho, stage 5 clinger.

Oh, and it's not "think away from the box" -- how old ARE you anyway??

I was really hoping there was gonna be an /s at the end of your post -- please tell me you're a troll?

Now hold on (and I don;t mean hold "one") I mean hold on. Our idea was for OP to (with BF/BFF's support) take on the roll of an Uber Eats driver (maybe) by the name of Cathy
to deliver a couple of yummy meals to the family (no big whoop) and that would give me a chance to get a little Look-see at the situation and just what was going on with the Ex-x in question.

We thought it would provide some flexibility to have more meals delivered if maybe the boyfriend would after one of her deliveries say something like "I dont what it is, but I want to see more of her. I'd just like to see her again." Or whathaveyou.

If you cant get your deduce or induce the reason and strategy here I cannot help U. Thank u just the same though.

[Anonymous]

^ ^ give HER, not me. thank u

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a chance he would allow you to pose as an Uber eats driver, name of Cathy, who delivers a couple of meals and sort of "gets to know" the family in a very friendly, informal way. That way you can get a looksee at what's going on, what the overall dynamic is, etc, etc etc. Thoughts?

NP. I hope this is meant as a joke. It's...a joke, right? Right?

If not, it's a horrible idea. Pure immature game-playing.

And in the event the OP and this boyfriend stay together, well, at some point OP is likely to meet his ex at a kid pickup or whatever, just crossing paths...and if the ex recognizes OP as "Cathy"? That's going to sour a decent relationship between the two exes, who do still have to co-parent. And if OP ever meets the BF's parents later and they also recognize "Cathy"? Hey, son, that was deceptive of you, and your GF seems possessive if she'd pretend like that....

Just, no.

PP, try to think away from the box. We think this idea has a lot of potential. When Cathy/Kathy shows up to deliver the Uber Eats yummies, why couldn't the boyfriend something along the lines of "Well, she was kind of cute... and nice, too" and just leave it at that.

And then when she brings another meals (something "ethnic" and tasty) he says "I know it sounds crazy, but... I think she's remarkable." Or something like that.

As far as the name, OP could use her own name, but Cathy/Kathy may be more believable. k?

So the man is supposed to pretend even after this absurd role-play game that this was their first meeting, and that he then went on to contact her, after this vacation, and start dating her.

This is beyond immature, k?

But your details are cute. "Something 'ethnic' and tasty"! "I know it sounds crazy but...I think she's remarkable." What a great line of dialogue. Go write it as romantic fiction, which is all it is. It's not how grown-ups behave in the real world. But maybe you self-publish it online! You could be the next whoever that Twilight writer is!

Who is this "we" that you're referring to, hm? Is it you, yourself & you??
Nobody thinks this idea has potential -- its one of the worst ideas I've ever seen on DCUM.

Your silly, immature manipulations & fantasies are the main reason that we women get called names like "psycho", "stalker" or "stage 5 clinger".

"Cathy" is exhibit A... she's a textbook stalker, psycho, stage 5 clinger.

Oh, and it's not "think away from the box" -- how old ARE you anyway??

I was really hoping there was gonna be an /s at the end of your post -- please tell me you're a troll?

Now hold on (and I don;t mean hold "one") I mean hold on. Our idea was for OP to (with BF/BFF's support) take on the roll of an Uber Eats driver (maybe) by the name of Cathy
to deliver a couple of yummy meals to the family (no big whoop) and that would give me a chance to get a little Look-see at the situation and just what was going on with the Ex-x in question.

We thought it would provide some flexibility to have more meals delivered if maybe the boyfriend would after one of her deliveries say something like "I dont what it is, but I want to see more of her. I'd just like to see her again." Or whathaveyou.

If you cant get your deduce or induce the reason and strategy here I cannot help U. Thank u just the same though.

Or he name could be Jen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a chance he would allow you to pose as an Uber eats driver, name of Cathy, who delivers a couple of meals and sort of "gets to know" the family in a very friendly, informal way. That way you can get a looksee at what's going on, what the overall dynamic is, etc, etc etc. Thoughts?

NP. I hope this is meant as a joke. It's...a joke, right? Right?

If not, it's a horrible idea. Pure immature game-playing.

And in the event the OP and this boyfriend stay together, well, at some point OP is likely to meet his ex at a kid pickup or whatever, just crossing paths...and if the ex recognizes OP as "Cathy"? That's going to sour a decent relationship between the two exes, who do still have to co-parent. And if OP ever meets the BF's parents later and they also recognize "Cathy"? Hey, son, that was deceptive of you, and your GF seems possessive if she'd pretend like that....

Just, no.

PP, try to think away from the box. We think this idea has a lot of potential. When Cathy/Kathy shows up to deliver the Uber Eats yummies, why couldn't the boyfriend something along the lines of "Well, she was kind of cute... and nice, too" and just leave it at that.

And then when she brings another meals (something "ethnic" and tasty) he says "I know it sounds crazy, but... I think she's remarkable." Or something like that.

As far as the name, OP could use her own name, but Cathy/Kathy may be more believable. k?

So the man is supposed to pretend even after this absurd role-play game that this was their first meeting, and that he then went on to contact her, after this vacation, and start dating her.

This is beyond immature, k?

But your details are cute. "Something 'ethnic' and tasty"! "I know it sounds crazy but...I think she's remarkable." What a great line of dialogue. Go write it as romantic fiction, which is all it is. It's not how grown-ups behave in the real world. But maybe you self-publish it online! You could be the next whoever that Twilight writer is!

Who is this "we" that you're referring to, hm? Is it you, yourself & you??
Nobody thinks this idea has potential -- its one of the worst ideas I've ever seen on DCUM.

Your silly, immature manipulations & fantasies are the main reason that we women get called names like "psycho", "stalker" or "stage 5 clinger".

"Cathy" is exhibit A... she's a textbook stalker, psycho, stage 5 clinger.

Oh, and it's not "think away from the box" -- how old ARE you anyway??

I was really hoping there was gonna be an /s at the end of your post -- please tell me you're a troll?

Now hold on (and I don;t mean hold "one") I mean hold on. Our idea was for OP to (with BF/BFF's support) take on the roll of an Uber Eats driver (maybe) by the name of Cathy
to deliver a couple of yummy meals to the family (no big whoop) and that would give me a chance to get a little Look-see at the situation and just what was going on with the Ex-x in question.

We thought it would provide some flexibility to have more meals delivered if maybe the boyfriend would after one of her deliveries say something like "I dont what it is, but I want to see more of her. I'd just like to see her again." Or whathaveyou.

If you cant get your deduce or induce the reason and strategy here I cannot help U. Thank u just the same though.

Or maybe, even better, OP can pretend to be a plumber. She can wear a loose uniform hiding her feminine physique and a baseball hat hiding her hair. BF will pretend that the toilet in his room is broken. She will come into his room to fix it (wink wink) and after that BF will offer her refreshments in the living room and strike a casual conversation. This should afford for a better look-see opportunity. Next day, OP should wear something completely different (a wig with long hair is recommended, ie the opposite of the baseball hat - to eliminate any chance of exposure) and pretend to be a sales person selling timeshare at the vacation spot. Another great opportunity to come in and see the family. They have some face tape online that allows actors to modify face - highly recommend!