Honest question: what is the parent/caregiver’s rationale in letting their child…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just teach your kid to raise his hand and say excuse me I can’t see.

Say it to whom? My 3.5 yr old does raise his hand and tells the kid and the librarian he can’t see the book. The librarian asks the child to sit. The child doesn’t. What’s the librarian supposed to do - physically bend the kid in half and make him sit down?

Stop expecting other people to do your job.

No, that's where the librarian should act like the authority figure to the adult with the child, ask them to take care of their child or leave until next time.

And what are you doing while your child is standing up, walking up to the book, and then standing there blocking the rest of the kids view? Shouldn’t you be teaching your child to be fair and considerate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Their child is just. So. Precious!

Everything that child does--the parent is absolutely in awe that their child can do that!

He's so amazing! Doesn't everyone in the world realize how PERFECT their child is?

And they post a picture of it, "Amelia has such compassion for the written word, she's the only toddler who cares about the book at storytime! Love my little bookworm."

Jesus, this is so true!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just teach your kid to raise his hand and say excuse me I can’t see.

They can't talk yet.

Wait, why are you taking a child who can't talk to storytime?

I always took my kids as babies to story time.

You can read to babies at home, there's no benefit to sitting on the floor with an infant in your lap during storytime. Mobile toddlers who aren't speaking yet (most of the time) don't have the focus to sit on their butts and listen to a full story. Once they're at least 18-24 months, they are more capable of sitting still and listening.

I thought we were talking about 2-4, for goodness sake!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:… stand right in front of the book being read at library storytime thus blocking the view of the book from all the other kids? I mean, it’s obvious that the other kids can’t see the book. I get that it’s not a huge issue in light of our troubled world but I’m genuinely curious in knowing what that parent watching is thinking.

Same with the parent who doesn’t stop their child from taking the glasses off the music teacher during the class.

Yes, the librarian and music teacher correct the child but why should they have to when they parent is right there watching?

Well, I'm in the camp of allowing the authority figure at the moment (librarian and music teacher, in those scenarios) to correct the child once, then if the child ignores or refuses, I step in. They need to understand that other adults have the right to correct them, and if I jump in immediately, that undercuts their authority. However, if the teacher or other adult didn't say anything, I would act. No, I don't think that the behavior should continue, even if it's age-appropriate.

You should be teaching and encouraging good behavior long before your child is standing in front of the book!

I do... but I also don't undercut the authority figure of the moment...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just teach your kid to raise his hand and say excuse me I can’t see.

Say it to whom? My 3.5 yr old does raise his hand and tells the kid and the librarian he can’t see the book. The librarian asks the child to sit. The child doesn’t. What’s the librarian supposed to do - physically bend the kid in half and make him sit down?

Stop expecting other people to do your job.

No, that's where the librarian should act like the authority figure to the adult with the child, ask them to take care of their child or leave until next time.

And what are you doing while your child is standing up, walking up to the book, and then standing there blocking the rest of the kids view? Shouldn’t you be teaching your child to be fair and considerate?

I'm 10.15... no child with me ever blocked the book. As I said, if the librarian corrects the child, child refuses or ignores, then the librarian should address the adult (parent or nanny) with the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no clue. I posted last week about two large mothers carrying toddlers who walked in front of my toddler and preschooler (we arrived early to see a band perform in the park) and stood there talking to each other while my kids couldn’t see.

Honestly, I have no clue.

Be honest: any adult sized person would've blocked your view. You just like pointing out that they were fat. Why didn't you ask them to move so you could see?

"Excuse me, would you mind holding your conversation somewhere where you're not blocking our view of the band? Thank you!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just teach your kid to raise his hand and say excuse me I can’t see.

They can't talk yet.

Wait, why are you taking a child who can't talk to storytime?

I always took my kids as babies to story time.

You can read to babies at home, there's no benefit to sitting on the floor with an infant in your lap during storytime. Mobile toddlers who aren't speaking yet (most of the time) don't have the focus to sit on their butts and listen to a full story. Once they're at least 18-24 months, they are more capable of sitting still and listening.

I thought we were talking about 2-4, for goodness sake!

What’s it to you? My kids always loved story time. I loved taking them as babies, too. They always listened to the whole book.

And lots of 2 yr olds can’t talk well enough to ask another kid to sit down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just teach your kid to raise his hand and say excuse me I can’t see.

Say it to whom? My 3.5 yr old does raise his hand and tells the kid and the librarian he can’t see the book. The librarian asks the child to sit. The child doesn’t. What’s the librarian supposed to do - physically bend the kid in half and make him sit down?

Stop expecting other people to do your job.

No, that's where the librarian should act like the authority figure to the adult with the child, ask them to take care of their child or leave until next time.

And what are you doing while your child is standing up, walking up to the book, and then standing there blocking the rest of the kids view? Shouldn’t you be teaching your child to be fair and considerate?

I'm 10.15... no child with me ever blocked the book. As I said, if the librarian corrects the child, child refuses or ignores, then the librarian should address the adult (parent or nanny) with the child.

That’s not the librarian’s job. Please don’t put them in that position.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just teach your kid to raise his hand and say excuse me I can’t see.

Say it to whom? My 3.5 yr old does raise his hand and tells the kid and the librarian he can’t see the book. The librarian asks the child to sit. The child doesn’t. What’s the librarian supposed to do - physically bend the kid in half and make him sit down?

Stop expecting other people to do your job.

No, that's where the librarian should act like the authority figure to the adult with the child, ask them to take care of their child or leave until next time.

And what are you doing while your child is standing up, walking up to the book, and then standing there blocking the rest of the kids view? Shouldn’t you be teaching your child to be fair and considerate?

I'm 10.15... no child with me ever blocked the book. As I said, if the librarian corrects the child, child refuses or ignores, then the librarian should address the adult (parent or nanny) with the child.

That’s not the librarian’s job. Please don’t put them in that position.

Seriously. Librarians don't get paid enough to deal with this shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Their child is just. So. Precious!

Everything that child does--the parent is absolutely in awe that their child can do that!

He's so amazing! Doesn't everyone in the world realize how PERFECT their child is?

And they post a picture of it, "Amelia has such compassion for the written word, she's the only toddler who cares about the book at storytime! Love my little bookworm."

Jesus, this is so true!

Yes, this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just teach your kid to raise his hand and say excuse me I can’t see.

Say it to whom? My 3.5 yr old does raise his hand and tells the kid and the librarian he can’t see the book. The librarian asks the child to sit. The child doesn’t. What’s the librarian supposed to do - physically bend the kid in half and make him sit down?

Stop expecting other people to do your job.

No, that's where the librarian should act like the authority figure to the adult with the child, ask them to take care of their child or leave until next time.

And what are you doing while your child is standing up, walking up to the book, and then standing there blocking the rest of the kids view? Shouldn’t you be teaching your child to be fair and considerate?

I'm 10.15... no child with me ever blocked the book. As I said, if the librarian corrects the child, child refuses or ignores, then the librarian should address the adult (parent or nanny) with the child.

That’s not the librarian’s job. Please don’t put them in that position.

Seriously. Librarians don't get paid enough to deal with this shit.

+2. And I want my kids to see librarians as accessible and open people who love to share books - not an authority figure.

[Anonymous]

Children's librarian supervisor here. The only complaints I've ever had about storytimes were when a member of my staff asked a disruptive child (or the child's adult) to move to the back of the room. No matter how gently you ask, people get defensive when they know their kids are misbehaving and they get called out on it. And the complaint is always "Why doesn't the librarian accept my child's age-appropriate behavior? Don't they know anything about child development?" Um, yes, it's age-appropriate for kids to do things they shouldn't, but that doesn't mean you don't redirect them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just teach your kid to raise his hand and say excuse me I can’t see.

They can't talk yet.

Wait, why are you taking a child who can't talk to storytime?

I always took my kids as babies to story time.

You can read to babies at home, there's no benefit to sitting on the floor with an infant in your lap during storytime. Mobile toddlers who aren't speaking yet (most of the time) don't have the focus to sit on their butts and listen to a full story. Once they're at least 18-24 months, they are more capable of sitting still and listening.

I thought we were talking about 2-4, for goodness sake!

FFS some kids have language delays. If child has enough attention to sit and listen to a book, they are welcome. No age or speaking restrictions.

[Anonymous]

I let my child stand during storytime but we're on the side and if he gets disruptive we leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just teach your kid to raise his hand and say excuse me I can’t see.

They can't talk yet.

Wait, why are you taking a child who can't talk to storytime?

?? there are storytimes for babies. Our public library has them several times a week for different age groups including infants.