Honest question: what is the parent/caregiver’s rationale in letting their child…

[Anonymous]

… stand right in front of the book being read at library storytime thus blocking the view of the book from all the other kids? I mean, it’s obvious that the other kids can’t see the book. I get that it’s not a huge issue in light of our troubled world but I’m genuinely curious in knowing what that parent watching is thinking.

Same with the parent who doesn’t stop their child from taking the glasses off the music teacher during the class.

Yes, the librarian and music teacher correct the child but why should they have to when they parent is right there watching?

[Anonymous]

I have no clue. I posted last week about two large mothers carrying toddlers who walked in front of my toddler and preschooler (we arrived early to see a band perform in the park) and stood there talking to each other while my kids couldn’t see.

Honestly, I have no clue.

[Anonymous]

OMG I have no idea. Maybe they are just afraid and aren't sure what to do? Maybe they aren't very smart and think the other kids can see the book? Maybe the kid is SN and they think he will have a meltdown if the parent corrects him? (Sometimes kids respond much better to other adults than to parents)

How often have you seen this happen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG I have no idea. Maybe they are just afraid and aren't sure what to do? Maybe they aren't very smart and think the other kids can see the book? Maybe the kid is SN and they think he will have a meltdown if the parent corrects him? (Sometimes kids respond much better to other adults than to parents)

How often have you seen this happen?

Pretty much every time (one a week in storytime) and it’s always the librarian who has to stop and ask the kid to sit down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG I have no idea. Maybe they are just afraid and aren't sure what to do? Maybe they aren't very smart and think the other kids can see the book? Maybe the kid is SN and they think he will have a meltdown if the parent corrects him? (Sometimes kids respond much better to other adults than to parents)

How often have you seen this happen?

Pretty much every time (one a week in storytime) and it’s always the librarian who has to stop and ask the kid to sit down.

Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no clue. I posted last week about two large mothers carrying toddlers who walked in front of my toddler and preschooler (we arrived early to see a band perform in the park) and stood there talking to each other while my kids couldn’t see.

Honestly, I have no clue.

Large?

[Anonymous]

Laziness, incompetence and phone addiction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG I have no idea. Maybe they are just afraid and aren't sure what to do? Maybe they aren't very smart and think the other kids can see the book? Maybe the kid is SN and they think he will have a meltdown if the parent corrects him? (Sometimes kids respond much better to other adults than to parents)

How often have you seen this happen?

Pretty much every time (one a week in storytime) and it’s always the librarian who has to stop and ask the kid to sit down.

+1. I’ve seen librarians hold the book way up over their head while the standing kid then started grabbing at the book and the mother did nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no clue. I posted last week about two large mothers carrying toddlers who walked in front of my toddler and preschooler (we arrived early to see a band perform in the park) and stood there talking to each other while my kids couldn’t see.

Honestly, I have no clue.

Large?

Yes, they were both quite wide. My kids couldn’t see past them even when they stood up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG I have no idea. Maybe they are just afraid and aren't sure what to do? Maybe they aren't very smart and think the other kids can see the book? Maybe the kid is SN and they think he will have a meltdown if the parent corrects him? (Sometimes kids respond much better to other adults than to parents)

How often have you seen this happen?

This doesn’t happen where you live?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG I have no idea. Maybe they are just afraid and aren't sure what to do? Maybe they aren't very smart and think the other kids can see the book? Maybe the kid is SN and they think he will have a meltdown if the parent corrects him? (Sometimes kids respond much better to other adults than to parents)

How often have you seen this happen?

Pretty much every time (one a week in storytime) and it’s always the librarian who has to stop and ask the kid to sit down.

+1. I’ve seen librarians hold the book way up over their head while the standing kid then started grabbing at the book and the mother did nothing.

Wow. I wonder if they are trying to do gentle parenting but are completely missing the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG I have no idea. Maybe they are just afraid and aren't sure what to do? Maybe they aren't very smart and think the other kids can see the book? Maybe the kid is SN and they think he will have a meltdown if the parent corrects him? (Sometimes kids respond much better to other adults than to parents)

How often have you seen this happen?

This doesn’t happen where you live?

I don't go to story time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG I have no idea. Maybe they are just afraid and aren't sure what to do? Maybe they aren't very smart and think the other kids can see the book? Maybe the kid is SN and they think he will have a meltdown if the parent corrects him? (Sometimes kids respond much better to other adults than to parents)

How often have you seen this happen?

This doesn’t happen where you live?

It happens at our story time too. There’s always one kid at least and the parent does nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG I have no idea. Maybe they are just afraid and aren't sure what to do? Maybe they aren't very smart and think the other kids can see the book? Maybe the kid is SN and they think he will have a meltdown if the parent corrects him? (Sometimes kids respond much better to other adults than to parents)

How often have you seen this happen?

Pretty much every time (one a week in storytime) and it’s always the librarian who has to stop and ask the kid to sit down.

+1. I’ve seen librarians hold the book way up over their head while the standing kid then started grabbing at the book and the mother did nothing.

Wow. I wonder if they are trying to do gentle parenting but are completely missing the point.

Gentle parenting isn’t about letting your child do something disruptive and unfair to a room full of other children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG I have no idea. Maybe they are just afraid and aren't sure what to do? Maybe they aren't very smart and think the other kids can see the book? Maybe the kid is SN and they think he will have a meltdown if the parent corrects him? (Sometimes kids respond much better to other adults than to parents)

How often have you seen this happen?

Pretty much every time (one a week in storytime) and it’s always the librarian who has to stop and ask the kid to sit down.

+1. I’ve seen librarians hold the book way up over their head while the standing kid then started grabbing at the book and the mother did nothing.

Wow. I wonder if they are trying to do gentle parenting but are completely missing the point.

Gentle parenting isn’t about letting your child do something disruptive and unfair to a room full of other children.

PP here and that's what I'm saying. Lots of people confuse gentle parenting for permissive parenting.