Honest question: what is the parent/caregiver’s rationale in letting their child…

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Anonymous wrote:I have been that parent with my oldest. It typically happened when the kids were sitting in the front and the parents in the back, so I was physically separated from my child whenever he walked up in front of the book. I always felt like my getting up and physically moving my child or yelling at him from across the room was more disruptive than letting him stand there or the librarian saying something.
Plus, this is what other parents seemed to be doing. I never saw anyone else getting up and moving their child.

**This child was later diagnosed with ASD, which is probably why he didn’t pick up on the social cues not to get in front of the book (and why he didn’t respond to the evil eye from myself or the librarian).

It’s not. Now you know.

Are you sure? I mean, my kid is 15 now, so it’s kind of a moot point for me, but how disruptive is it to have someone who is three feet tall and 40lbs standing up vs someone who is six feet tall and 180lbs? I’m not sure that having mom’s and dad’s getting up and messing with their kids during story time would be a lot less disruptive.

Yes, I am sure it is less disruptive. It’s what parents do. It takes seven to ten seconds to get your kid to sit or come back with you vs a full five minutes of my petite little kid straining to see the book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been that parent with my oldest. It typically happened when the kids were sitting in the front and the parents in the back, so I was physically separated from my child whenever he walked up in front of the book. I always felt like my getting up and physically moving my child or yelling at him from across the room was more disruptive than letting him stand there or the librarian saying something.
Plus, this is what other parents seemed to be doing. I never saw anyone else getting up and moving their child.

**This child was later diagnosed with ASD, which is probably why he didn’t pick up on the social cues not to get in front of the book (and why he didn’t respond to the evil eye from myself or the librarian).

It’s not. Now you know.

Are you sure? I mean, my kid is 15 now, so it’s kind of a moot point for me, but how disruptive is it to have someone who is three feet tall and 40lbs standing up vs someone who is six feet tall and 180lbs? I’m not sure that having mom’s and dad’s getting up and messing with their kids during story time would be a lot less disruptive.

Yes, I am sure it is less disruptive. It’s what parents do. It takes seven to ten seconds to get your kid to sit or come back with you vs a full five minutes of my petite little kid straining to see the book.

Plus it’s instructive for the whole room of kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:… stand right in front of the book being read at library storytime thus blocking the view of the book from all the other kids? I mean, it’s obvious that the other kids can’t see the book. I get that it’s not a huge issue in light of our troubled world but I’m genuinely curious in knowing what that parent watching is thinking.

Same with the parent who doesn’t stop their child from taking the glasses off the music teacher during the class.

Yes, the librarian and music teacher correct the child but why should they have to when they parent is right there watching?

The librarian should have asked the parent thave child sit with them and told them the other children also wanted to see her while she read. If the kid is SN still no excuse. For the music teacher, same thing.

Library should also have a sign stating that all children are to sit with parent/caregiver during story and music time. No exceptions.
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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been that parent with my oldest. It typically happened when the kids were sitting in the front and the parents in the back, so I was physically separated from my child whenever he walked up in front of the book. I always felt like my getting up and physically moving my child or yelling at him from across the room was more disruptive than letting him stand there or the librarian saying something.
Plus, this is what other parents seemed to be doing. I never saw anyone else getting up and moving their child.

**This child was later diagnosed with ASD, which is probably why he didn’t pick up on the social cues not to get in front of the book (and why he didn’t respond to the evil eye from myself or the librarian).

I am so sick of hearing all these excuses for bad parenting and spoiled brats. Libraries are not playgrounds so why are you allowing your child free range in a library setting. The same goes for restaurants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:… stand right in front of the book being read at library storytime thus blocking the view of the book from all the other kids? I mean, it’s obvious that the other kids can’t see the book. I get that it’s not a huge issue in light of our troubled world but I’m genuinely curious in knowing what that parent watching is thinking.

Same with the parent who doesn’t stop their child from taking the glasses off the music teacher during the class.

Yes, the librarian and music teacher correct the child but why should they have to when they parent is right there watching?

The librarian should have asked the parent thave child sit with them and told them the other children also wanted to see her while she read. If the kid is SN still no excuse. For the music teacher, same thing.

Library should also have a sign stating that all children are to sit with parent/caregiver during story and music time. No exceptions.
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The librarians and music teacher should not have to handle discipline when the parent is in the freaking room!!!!

[Anonymous]

Exhausted. Overwhelmed. Short on child care. Be kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Exhausted. Overwhelmed. Short on child care. Be kind.

No! I am exhausted, overwhelmed, have zero childcare and I want my kid to be able to see the damn book! I taught my child and you can teach yours or take him/her out.

I sm so fricking sick of the excuses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Exhausted. Overwhelmed. Short on child care. Be kind.

If you are incapable of being in charge of your child(ren), don't have them. I have seen children in restaurants who can only be described as fetal. They certainly aren't exhausted or overwhelmed from parenting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Exhausted. Overwhelmed. Short on child care. Be kind.

If you are incapable of being in charge of your child(ren), don't have them. I have seen children in restaurants who can only be described as fetal. They certainly aren't exhausted or overwhelmed from parenting.

Feral not fetal ^^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Exhausted. Overwhelmed. Short on child care. Be kind.

Oh, grow up! You think the parents of the other kids (who are sitting and trying to enjoy the class or story time) aren’t exhausted and overwhelmed too?!

Do your fricking job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been that parent with my oldest. It typically happened when the kids were sitting in the front and the parents in the back, so I was physically separated from my child whenever he walked up in front of the book. I always felt like my getting up and physically moving my child or yelling at him from across the room was more disruptive than letting him stand there or the librarian saying something.
Plus, this is what other parents seemed to be doing. I never saw anyone else getting up and moving their child.

**This child was later diagnosed with ASD, which is probably why he didn’t pick up on the social cues not to get in front of the book (and why he didn’t respond to the evil eye from myself or the librarian).

I am so sick of hearing all these excuses for bad parenting and spoiled brats. Libraries are not playgrounds so why are you allowing your child free range in a library setting. The same goes for restaurants.

Well, as I said, he needed occasional reminders about socially appropriate behavior because he was three years old and autistic. What’s your excuse?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Exhausted. Overwhelmed. Short on child care. Be kind.

No! I am exhausted, overwhelmed, have zero childcare and I want my kid to be able to see the damn book! I taught my child and you can teach yours or take him/her out.

I sm so fricking sick of the excuses.

I don’t understand how your child can’t see the book. Most chairs are twenty inches high. Most librarian torsos are another 18-20 inches. Most preschoolers are under three feet tall. If the librarian holds the book at shoulder height, all of the kids should have an unobstructed view.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just teach your kid to raise his hand and say excuse me I can’t see.

Say it to whom? My 3.5 yr old does raise his hand and tells the kid and the librarian he can’t see the book. The librarian asks the child to sit. The child doesn’t. What’s the librarian supposed to do - physically bend the kid in half and make him sit down?

Stop expecting other people to do your job.

No, that's where the librarian should act like the authority figure to the adult with the child, ask them to take care of their child or leave until next time.

And what are you doing while your child is standing up, walking up to the book, and then standing there blocking the rest of the kids view? Shouldn’t you be teaching your child to be fair and considerate?

I'm 10.15... no child with me ever blocked the book. As I said, if the librarian corrects the child, child refuses or ignores, then the librarian should address the adult (parent or nanny) with the child.

And they should stop storytime to do this I guess?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:… stand right in front of the book being read at library storytime thus blocking the view of the book from all the other kids? I mean, it’s obvious that the other kids can’t see the book. I get that it’s not a huge issue in light of our troubled world but I’m genuinely curious in knowing what that parent watching is thinking.

Same with the parent who doesn’t stop their child from taking the glasses off the music teacher during the class.

Yes, the librarian and music teacher correct the child but why should they have to when they parent is right there watching?

The librarian should have asked the parent thave child sit with them and told them the other children also wanted to see her while she read. If the kid is SN still no excuse. For the music teacher, same thing.

Library should also have a sign stating that all children are to sit with parent/caregiver during story and music time. No exceptions.
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I agree. Whatever the rules are, the librarian should clearly state them at the beginning of story time so that all of the kids know what to do and the rules are easily enforced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exhausted. Overwhelmed. Short on child care. Be kind.

No! I am exhausted, overwhelmed, have zero childcare and I want my kid to be able to see the damn book! I taught my child and you can teach yours or take him/her out.

I sm so fricking sick of the excuses.

I don’t understand how your child can’t see the book. Most chairs are twenty inches high. Most librarian torsos are another 18-20 inches. Most preschoolers are under three feet tall. If the librarian holds the book at shoulder height, all of the kids should have an unobstructed view.

The kids in our library sit on the floor. I have never been to a storytime in any library where there were chairs.