18 yo son spent the night at a date's apartment

[Anonymous]

Maybe you're looking for others who will support you in your efforts to control your legally adult child. I'm sure there are a few here who will. However, as someone who has already raised my kids well into adulthood I advise you not do that.

Hopefully you have raised them to be independent and self-reliant as well as courteous toward their parents. Now let them do it. You may not agree with some decisions but that doesn't mean you should step in and try to control their behavior. A conversation is okay but that ought to be the extent of it.

I did not have to do this but if you really disagree with some dangerous or risky behavior you could withdraw financial and housing support that you provide, but even then the final decision whether to abide by your wishes or move out and give up your help is up to them.

[Anonymous]

He told you not to wait up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BFD op. Unclench your pearls.

If it was your 18-yr old daughter out getting railed by some dude she just met I bet you wouldn't be such acting like such a jack off right now.

+1

Yep!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adoption is a choice.

I know it’s hard to understand, but there are women who are not interested in being incubators for others.

Then be sure to have sex responsibly every time. Get on the pill, ladies. Carry your own condoms. This should have been prior to yesterday's news.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BFD op. Unclench your pearls.

If it was your 18-yr old daughter out getting railed by some dude she just met I bet you wouldn't be such acting like such a jack off right now.

+1

Yep!

Nope. What’s the difference?

[Anonymous]

he's 18 he can do what he wants.

[Anonymous]

He is 18, OP. There is nothing you can do. Cut the apron strings, he'll be happier and you will learn to grow up. I have six children (five adults, one teenager), and my rule is "You are free on your 18th bd, so do not expect me to hold your hand". Why would you want to control an adult? That is my main question.

[Anonymous]

He was just thinkin with his d!ck.

Get used to it, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adoption is a choice.

I know it’s hard to understand, but there are women who are not interested in being incubators for others.

That is why it is a CHOICE, not a mandate.

-- mom of 3 adopted kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Welcome to Soiling the Nest.

You’re in for a summer of him acting like a jackass. He will do everything to make you pissed off at him. You’ll put consequences and rules in place that will then piss him off. It will make the separation in August be easier because you’ll both be so sick of each other.

How is he getting to and from this girlfriend’s house? Your car?

Op here, he took the metro

Hurrah for public transit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They went out for dinner and I had asked him to text me if he thought he'd be later than 11, I got a text at 1145 saying he'd be out late and not to wait up and I got another one at 1 am say "I'll see you in the morning". He got home the next morning around 8 am, looking entirely to pleased with himself. I'm definitely not happy about this, he's had girlfriend's before so I don't think he's a Saint, but i think we're headed for some post graduation conflict

He's my oldest so I'm a bit out of my depth on what to do

Yeah, it's tough because it's the first time he's doing something like this while still living at home. He's your baby, and I get it but he's 18 and seems responsible. Just set some basic ground rules until he's off to college. Next summer you won't feel worry as much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you upset, did you get a gate pass to get him on a flight a few months ago or something?

Ha ha ha! I know exactly what thread you are talking about. That OP seemed like a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BFD op. Unclench your pearls.

If it was your 18-yr old daughter out getting railed by some dude she just met I bet you wouldn't be such acting like such a jack off right now.

I didn't know justice Kavanaugh was a poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is 18. He should not have a curfew. Him having sex with his girlfriend is totally normal. There should be no conflict.

No curfew? So you think no boundaries is the way to go?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adoption is a choice.

How many kids do you foster? How many have you adopted? Have you made that choice? Oh why? Perhaps every forced birth voter should also be required to foster or adopt. (Not that I think these poor kids need these jerks, but)