18 yo son spent the night at a date's apartment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They went out for dinner and I had asked him to text me if he thought he'd be later than 11, I got a text at 1145 saying he'd be out late and not to wait up and I got another one at 1 am say "I'll see you in the morning". He got home the next morning around 8 am, looking entirely to pleased with himself. I'm definitely not happy about this, he's had girlfriend's before so I don't think he's a Saint, but i think we're headed for some post graduation conflict

He's my oldest so I'm a bit out of my depth on what to do

Does he think he can support a family?
Perhaps allow him to practice supporting just himself.

Teens have sex. Most don’t get pregnant.

[Anonymous]

OP, from your post, it is not clear ... what is the exact problem. What, precisely, surprises you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op you should be happy you have an attractive son that is sexually desired.

Would you rather he be an incel?

Are you a man? This is a very weird take on the situation!

[Anonymous]

He was traveling by metro, which closes at a certain time.

That could be why he spent the night (vs just rolling in very early AM).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They went out for dinner and I had asked him to text me if he thought he'd be later than 11, I got a text at 1145 saying he'd be out late and not to wait up and I got another one at 1 am say "I'll see you in the morning". He got home the next morning around 8 am, looking entirely to pleased with himself. I'm definitely not happy about this, he's had girlfriend's before so I don't think he's a Saint, but i think we're headed for some post graduation conflict

He's my oldest so I'm a bit out of my depth on what to do

I don’t care about the 18 is an adult. They are still young and need the structure from their parents.
I let my DS stay out all the time but he needs to let me know where he will sleep.
It’s more with his friends that are girls and boys.
Not sure how I’d feel about a date. Was it a one night stand?
That I would not like!

Wrong. 18 is an adult. Butt out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He is 18. He should not have a curfew. Him having sex with his girlfriend is totally normal. There should be no conflict.

No curfew? So you think no boundaries is the way to go?

DP. An 18-year-old is an adult and does not need boundaries.

[Anonymous]

I just noticed that the original post is from June 2022!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They went out for dinner and I had asked him to text me if he thought he'd be later than 11, I got a text at 1145 saying he'd be out late and not to wait up and I got another one at 1 am say "I'll see you in the morning". He got home the next morning around 8 am, looking entirely to pleased with himself. I'm definitely not happy about this, he's had girlfriend's before so I don't think he's a Saint, but i think we're headed for some post graduation conflict

He's my oldest so I'm a bit out of my depth on what to do

Does he think he can support a family?
Perhaps allow him to practice supporting just himself.

Teens have sex. Most don’t get pregnant.

At least half of teens can’t get pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just noticed that the original post is from June 2022!

Exactly, the grandbaby has already been born!

[Anonymous]

My 20 y/o DD has an IUD and has declared for many years that she plans to be “childfree.” She is bisexual. I would not be surprised if she were to find a way (on her own) to get a tubal ligation in the near future.

So I’m not worried about becoming a grandma anytime soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is an adult, OP.

.....STILL living at home. There are rules at home.

What are you trying to accomplish with pointless rules, like a curfew for an 18 year old? Other than being controlling for the sake of being controlling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is an adult, OP.

.....STILL living at home. There are rules at home.

Meh. He’s going to have a lot of sex this upcoming fall, and then come home for the winter. And repeat in the following season.

[Anonymous]

Do you all forbid your adult sons from having sex with anyone until they're making $500K and have a cool $10m in an IRA?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is an adult, OP.

.....STILL living at home. There are rules at home.

What are you trying to accomplish with pointless rules, like a curfew for an 18 year old? Other than being controlling for the sake of being controlling.

Know this would not work for all, but to for us worked to encourage launch by: our house, our car, our rules. If not our house, not our car, their choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s fine for eighteen year olds to have a curfew when they are living at home. Gives them incentive to launch and get their own place after college

Agree