18 yo son spent the night at a date's apartment

[Anonymous]

You taught him well, OP. He texted you at 11:45pm to tell you he won't be coming home because you asked him to. Now, it is time to let him go.
The only thing you can do is to make sure he doesn't do drugs, drinking, gambling or violence or get someone pregnant. And you have to say, do you really want to be a dad at 19 or 20?!! It is a big responsibility.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He is an adult, OP.

.....STILL living at home. There are rules at home.

What are you trying to accomplish with pointless rules, like a curfew for an 18 year old? Other than being controlling for the sake of being controlling.

Know this would not work for all, but to for us worked to encourage launch by: our house, our car, our rules. If not our house, not our car, their choices.

OP’s kid took metro. And stayed out overnight because it stops running at a certain hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You taught him well, OP. He texted you at 11:45pm to tell you he won't be coming home because you asked him to. Now, it is time to let him go.
The only thing you can do is to make sure he doesn't do drugs, drinking, gambling or violence or get someone pregnant. And you have to say, do you really want to be a dad at 19 or 20?!! It is a big responsibility.

Having sex doesn’t mean you’ll get pregnant or impregnate someone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He is an adult, OP.

.....STILL living at home. There are rules at home.

Ditto. He’s not in college yet. He’s living at home. Rules apply. I’m so tired of parents throwing out- they are 18 what am I going to do? You are still the parent. We don’t need to make it easy for kids to have one night stands. That doesn’t mean we don’t think it’s happening but in an effort to keep kid safe, we seem to be disregarding parenting at all.

Ok but what parenting needs to be done here except for the parent getting used to having a grown up son?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They went out for dinner and I had asked him to text me if he thought he'd be later than 11, I got a text at 1145 saying he'd be out late and not to wait up and I got another one at 1 am say "I'll see you in the morning". He got home the next morning around 8 am, looking entirely to pleased with himself. I'm definitely not happy about this, he's had girlfriend's before so I don't think he's a Saint, but i think we're headed for some post graduation conflict

He's my oldest so I'm a bit out of my depth on what to do

Buy a crib for the spare room, you will need it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They went out for dinner and I had asked him to text me if he thought he'd be later than 11, I got a text at 1145 saying he'd be out late and not to wait up and I got another one at 1 am say "I'll see you in the morning". He got home the next morning around 8 am, looking entirely to pleased with himself. I'm definitely not happy about this, he's had girlfriend's before so I don't think he's a Saint, but i think we're headed for some post graduation conflict

He's my oldest so I'm a bit out of my depth on what to do

Buy a crib for the spare room, you will need it!

18 year olds have sex. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They went out for dinner and I had asked him to text me if he thought he'd be later than 11, I got a text at 1145 saying he'd be out late and not to wait up and I got another one at 1 am say "I'll see you in the morning". He got home the next morning around 8 am, looking entirely to pleased with himself. I'm definitely not happy about this, he's had girlfriend's before so I don't think he's a Saint, but i think we're headed for some post graduation conflict

He's my oldest so I'm a bit out of my depth on what to do

Buy a crib for the spare room, you will need it!

18 year olds have sex. Get over it.

Yes, and 18 year olds conceive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They went out for dinner and I had asked him to text me if he thought he'd be later than 11, I got a text at 1145 saying he'd be out late and not to wait up and I got another one at 1 am say "I'll see you in the morning". He got home the next morning around 8 am, looking entirely to pleased with himself. I'm definitely not happy about this, he's had girlfriend's before so I don't think he's a Saint, but i think we're headed for some post graduation conflict

He's my oldest so I'm a bit out of my depth on what to do

Buy a crib for the spare room, you will need it!

18 year olds have sex. Get over it.

Yes, and 18 year olds conceive.

OP doesn’t live in a red state, given that she’s mentioned the metro.

[Anonymous]

Op should be thankful her son isn’t an incel

It’s better for him to stay overnight with a date all the time than stay at home playing video games

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Welcome to Soiling the Nest.

You’re in for a summer of him acting like a jackass. He will do everything to make you pissed off at him. You’ll put consequences and rules in place that will then piss him off. It will make the separation in August be easier because you’ll both be so sick of each other.

How is he getting to and from this girlfriend’s house? Your car?

WTAF?

It's just sex. It's normal teen behavior and not "jackass" behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure he knows that Roe has been struck down and that he needs to use a condom every single time.

And remind him now that he's 18 he should vote to protect women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op should be thankful her son isn’t an incel

It’s better for him to stay overnight with a date all the time than stay at home playing video games

💯

[Anonymous]

People try to restrict/prevent their kids from dating & having sex LONG past the normal age to start doing those things, and then wonder why their kid is 30 and soured on the idea of marrying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People try to restrict/prevent their kids from dating & having sex LONG past the normal age to start doing those things, and then wonder why their kid is 30 and soured on the idea of marrying.

This.

In 2023, boys especially should be having frequent consensual safe sex in their teens to practice and get skilled and build confidence

[Anonymous]

In 2023, boys especially should be having frequent consensual safe sex in their teens to practice and get skilled and build confidence

This is crazy. There is no “should” involving when someone should have sex and no one needs to “practice” for future relationships. They can get as skilled as they need to be with a partner they care about whenever that happens.