18 yo son spent the night at a date's apartment

[Anonymous]

I think there's nothing wrong with sharing concern about consequences, precautions, intentions, etc., but you really have no control over his decisions. He could've just told you he was crashing at a friend's but was honest about it, so that's good. I wd let it go, esp if he plans to move out soon. But in light of today's news, I might have a conversation about that.

[Anonymous]

He needs to wear a condom… the two things to be worried about are: STDs or the girl getting pregnant and wanting to keep it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They went out for dinner and I had asked him to text me if he thought he'd be later than 11, I got a text at 1145 saying he'd be out late and not to wait up and I got another one at 1 am say "I'll see you in the morning". He got home the next morning around 8 am, looking entirely to pleased with himself. I'm definitely not happy about this, he's had girlfriend's before so I don't think he's a Saint, but i think we're headed for some post graduation conflict

He's my oldest so I'm a bit out of my depth on what to do

I don’t care about the 18 is an adult. They are still young and need the structure from their parents.
I let my DS stay out all the time but he needs to let me know where he will sleep.
It’s more with his friends that are girls and boys.
Not sure how I’d feel about a date. Was it a one night stand?
That I would not like!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They went out for dinner and I had asked him to text me if he thought he'd be later than 11, I got a text at 1145 saying he'd be out late and not to wait up and I got another one at 1 am say "I'll see you in the morning". He got home the next morning around 8 am, looking entirely to pleased with himself. I'm definitely not happy about this, he's had girlfriend's before so I don't think he's a Saint, but i think we're headed for some post graduation conflict

He's my oldest so I'm a bit out of my depth on what to do

I don’t care about the 18 is an adult. They are still young and need the structure from their parents.
I let my DS stay out all the time but he needs to let me know where he will sleep.
It’s more with his friends that are girls and boys.
Not sure how I’d feel about a date. Was it a one night stand?
That I would not like!

HAHAHA.

[Anonymous]

What do you think happens in college?

[Anonymous]

What’s his next step? If it’s college in August you might view this quite different than if he’s living at home and working. Either way I think he was considerate in that he let you know his intent. He didn’t just stay out and leave you wondering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure he knows that Roe has been struck down and that he needs to use a condom every single time.

If you live in Virginia, Youngkin is coming for you. Tell your son to be careful or you will be a young Grandma!

[Anonymous]

He told you his plans and since he is an adult, you don't really get much of a say about this. I'd be happy he let me know where he was.

[Anonymous]

"What to do"? Gee Mom, there is nothing for you to do.

[Anonymous]

^ signed, a 60+yr old

[Anonymous]

I'm actually impressed that your son not only kept you in the loop but also let you know he'd be staying out all night. Other than making sure he's using condoms every time I wouldn't have any concerns. I have two boys, 22 & 17.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make sure he knows that Roe has been struck down and that he needs to use a condom every single time.

THIS. Y'all need to teach your boys that they are also responsible for birth control. Pill + Condom EVERY SINGLE TIME.

100% I said as much to my boys today. Your life will be over as you know it. Hopefully that gets them to the polls.

[Anonymous]

He told you his plans and since he is an adult, you don't really get much of a say about this. I'd be happy he let me know where he was.

I disagree. If my kid (of any age) is living rent-free in my house and eating my food, etc., I am totally entitled to make some rules surrounding that. At my house, they have to be home by a certain time because my house, my rules. FWIW, I have four kids in their twenties and none of them has ever complained about this. Of course, there were nights they slept at friends’ houses, but they always showed enough respect to let us know what was going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He needs to wear a condom… the two things to be worried about are: STDs or the girl getting pregnant and wanting to keep it

HAVING to keep it. No choice.

[Anonymous]

Adoption is a choice.