Options to get freshman dc out of a really bad roommate situation? Airbnb?

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Anonymous wrote:I am the poster above and I also work at a university. I’m speaking from experience. If the university refuses to accommodated diagnosed disability, then there will be legal issues

I’m the pp with asthma.? I should have done this in college.

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So your child heard their roommates complaining about their morning alarm, and called mommy to complain and have her fix it? Why didn't they address that directly with the roommates?

Sounds like DC is firmly on the victim triangle and Mom is the rescuer.

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Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

Really? You don't think that the actual real life situation your kid is in is part of life? I Had roommates on and off till about 26. Your kid sounds like a baby.

You shared a room, not just an apartment, until you were 26?

On and off yes. Whether with friends or lovers. Life is expensive in big cities when earning a low salary right out of school.
Will you buy your child a SFH or something? If your solution is to fix all their problems, just buy them their own home now.

It’s normal to share an apartment, but not to share an actual room. Most adults with roommates each have private rooms with a shared kitchen.

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Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

Really? You don't think that the actual real life situation your kid is in is part of life? I Had roommates on and off till about 26. Your kid sounds like a baby.

You shared a room, not just an apartment, until you were 26?

On and off yes. Whether with friends or lovers. Life is expensive in big cities when earning a low salary right out of school.
Will you buy your child a SFH or something? If your solution is to fix all their problems, just buy them their own home now.

It’s normal to share an apartment, but not to share an actual room. Most adults with roommates each have private rooms with a shared kitchen.

Okay. But is is entirely normal in college, which is where DC is living and failing to speak up for themselves.

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Kids need to be able to sleep at night in their dorms and the RAs should be enforcing that more.

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Can he record what he hears from his room if the RA can not hear it? Do a video call?

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Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

Really? You don't think that the actual real life situation your kid is in is part of life? I Had roommates on and off till about 26. Your kid sounds like a baby.

You shared a room, not just an apartment, until you were 26?

On and off yes. Whether with friends or lovers. Life is expensive in big cities when earning a low salary right out of school.
Will you buy your child a SFH or something? If your solution is to fix all their problems, just buy them their own home now.

It’s normal to share an apartment, but not to share an actual room. Most adults with roommates each have private rooms with a shared kitchen.

Okay. But is is entirely normal in college, which is where DC is living and failing to speak up for themselves.

Generally it’s only normal for freshman year, one year of one’s life. So it’s not something people should need to “adapt” to.

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Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

Really? You don't think that the actual real life situation your kid is in is part of life? I Had roommates on and off till about 26. Your kid sounds like a baby.

You shared a room, not just an apartment, until you were 26?

On and off yes. Whether with friends or lovers. Life is expensive in big cities when earning a low salary right out of school.
Will you buy your child a SFH or something? If your solution is to fix all their problems, just buy them their own home now.

It’s normal to share an apartment, but not to share an actual room. Most adults with roommates each have private rooms with a shared kitchen.

It is normal in high cost of living areas. My sister shared her Brooklyn 2 bedroom apartment with 3 roommates well into her late 20s. At one point there was even a 5th person sleeping on the couch for a few months.

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Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

Really? You don't think that the actual real life situation your kid is in is part of life? I Had roommates on and off till about 26. Your kid sounds like a baby.

You shared a room, not just an apartment, until you were 26?

On and off yes. Whether with friends or lovers. Life is expensive in big cities when earning a low salary right out of school.
Will you buy your child a SFH or something? If your solution is to fix all their problems, just buy them their own home now.

It’s normal to share an apartment, but not to share an actual room. Most adults with roommates each have private rooms with a shared kitchen.

You are very sweet, living in your bubble. Keep on posting!

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Anonymous wrote:There are two months left in the year.

Your child should be speaking up TO THEIR ROOMMATES, not to the college. My goodness, the snowflakes. This is interpersonal relationship and accountability 101, folks.

What’s that going to do besides cause awkwardness? It sounds like OP’s kid is outnumbered. They aren’t going to change their shitty lifestyles.

There are deals that could be struck. For instance, keep your party out of my room after 10 PM. I'll be sure to turn off my alarm after the first beep.

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Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

Really? You don't think that the actual real life situation your kid is in is part of life? I Had roommates on and off till about 26. Your kid sounds like a baby.

You shared a room, not just an apartment, until you were 26?

On and off yes. Whether with friends or lovers. Life is expensive in big cities when earning a low salary right out of school.
Will you buy your child a SFH or something? If your solution is to fix all their problems, just buy them their own home now.

It’s normal to share an apartment, but not to share an actual room. Most adults with roommates each have private rooms with a shared kitchen.

Okay. But is is entirely normal in college, which is where DC is living and failing to speak up for themselves.

Exactly. This is part of what you learn in college. How to advocate for yourself. How to solve problems. How to get along with others. How not to call your mom for every inconvenience.

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Anonymous wrote:There are two months left in the year.

Your child should be speaking up TO THEIR ROOMMATES, not to the college. My goodness, the snowflakes. This is interpersonal relationship and accountability 101, folks.

What’s that going to do besides cause awkwardness? It sounds like OP’s kid is outnumbered. They aren’t going to change their shitty lifestyles.

There are deals that could be struck. For instance, keep your party out of my room after 10 PM. I'll be sure to turn off my alarm after the first beep.

OP here. I haven’t been posting. This is a good, specific suggestion.

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Anonymous wrote:There are two months left in the year.

Your child should be speaking up TO THEIR ROOMMATES, not to the college. My goodness, the snowflakes. This is interpersonal relationship and accountability 101, folks.

What’s that going to do besides cause awkwardness? It sounds like OP’s kid is outnumbered. They aren’t going to change their shitty lifestyles.

How many college students do you know who got up everyday (even the weekends) with a 7a alarm? Maybe OP's kid is not the norm. I would not expect housing to fix this kind of problem. Kid is just going to have to suck it up until the end of year. If kid was resourceful they'd already be sleeping somewhere else most nights.

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Anonymous wrote:There are two months left in the year.

Your child should be speaking up TO THEIR ROOMMATES, not to the college. My goodness, the snowflakes. This is interpersonal relationship and accountability 101, folks.

What’s that going to do besides cause awkwardness? It sounds like OP’s kid is outnumbered. They aren’t going to change their shitty lifestyles.

How many college students do you know who got up everyday (even the weekends) with a 7a alarm? Maybe OP's kid is not the norm. I would not expect housing to fix this kind of problem. Kid is just going to have to suck it up until the end of year. If kid was resourceful they'd already be sleeping somewhere else most nights.

NP. I know this may come as a shock to you, but some kids are shy and seriously struggle socially in college. Some kids don’t have any real friends. But glad to know you had an entire network of friends as a freshman to crash with!

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In my country the dorms had curfews. It was for the best.