Options to get freshman dc out of a really bad roommate situation? Airbnb?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

[Anonymous]

OP again. DC says they treat DC’s shared room as being part of the party area just like the other rooms—so it could be late and the lights are off, but kids are walking in and out of DC’s immediate room.

[Anonymous]

I think your kid has to handle it. You can coach him to talk to the RAs or the school, and you can provide money if he says I really need an Air BnB for the week before finals and I found one and it’s $X. But I don’t think you should be swooping in. The other roommates are human beings, he needs to negotiate with them unless he has special needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

Sorting this out himself is absolutely a part of life. Are you going to swoop in when his boss is being unfair too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

When I went to college freshman were required to live in the dorms, but there was one girl whose family had rented her a house with a full time housekeeper/butler type person. So you can do whatever you want.

But historically sharing a room is part of life and certainly part of going to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

When I went to college freshman were required to live in the dorms, but there was one girl whose family had rented her a house with a full time housekeeper/butler type person. So you can do whatever you want.

But historically sharing a room is part of life and certainly part of going to college.

Sharing a room (versus a private room in an apartment) with a stranger is part of life? Or in OP’s case, essentially sharing a room with multiple strangers is “part of life”? In what universe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

At my DC’s school the dorms are like maximum security prisons. After 9:30pm each day there’s a security guard checking everyone’s name and ID who walks in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

Sorting this out himself is absolutely a part of life. Are you going to swoop in when his boss is being unfair too?

This is a ridiculous statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

Really? You don't think that the actual real life situation your kid is in is part of life? I Had roommates on and off till about 26. Your kid sounds like a baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

When I went to college freshman were required to live in the dorms, but there was one girl whose family had rented her a house with a full time housekeeper/butler type person. So you can do whatever you want.

But historically sharing a room is part of life and certainly part of going to college.

Sharing a room (versus a private room in an apartment) with a stranger is part of life? Or in OP’s case, essentially sharing a room with multiple strangers is “part of life”? In what universe?

In the universe of this kids actual situation. Are you joking?

[Anonymous]

I disagree with the people who say your freshman needs to fix this. No. No way, because university housing offices are literally trained to ignore housing complaints that come from students.

Parent complaints are different--you call, write an email. If they don't move your child, preferably to a private room, keep escalating. Escalate up to the president if you have to. Your kid deserves a safe space conducive to studying. It's BS that they can't move, especially when they already moved your kid this year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

Really? You don't think that the actual real life situation your kid is in is part of life? I Had roommates on and off till about 26. Your kid sounds like a baby.

You shared a room, not just an apartment, until you were 26?

[Anonymous]

There are two months left in the year.

Your child should be speaking up TO THEIR ROOMMATES, not to the college. My goodness, the snowflakes. This is interpersonal relationship and accountability 101, folks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This needs to be up to him. He's not in danger, just inconvenienced. He could take a nap during the day and then stay up later. That may not be his preference, but it's part of group living. And if he really doesn't like it, he can go talk to the RA or housing. Housing may be less resistant if he finds someone willing to switch with him so they don't have to do anything but reassign the room cards.

He could also find a friend who will let him crash on their floor or couch. Truthfully, this is how most college kids would solve it.

OP here—the sleep schedule is an issue too. DC is on a totally different sleep schedule than them; DC gets up and leaves around 7am each day. DC has
overheard the other kids say they’re annoyed by that and the alarm. There days when DC will walk into the room in the middle of the day and the rest of the kids in the suite are sleeping. Messy situation all around. I don’t really consider sharing a room (not just an apartment/suite) with a stranger to be “part of life.”

Really? You don't think that the actual real life situation your kid is in is part of life? I Had roommates on and off till about 26. Your kid sounds like a baby.

You shared a room, not just an apartment, until you were 26?

On and off yes. Whether with friends or lovers. Life is expensive in big cities when earning a low salary right out of school.
Will you buy your child a SFH or something? If your solution is to fix all their problems, just buy them their own home now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are two months left in the year.

Your child should be speaking up TO THEIR ROOMMATES, not to the college. My goodness, the snowflakes. This is interpersonal relationship and accountability 101, folks.

What’s that going to do besides cause awkwardness? It sounds like OP’s kid is outnumbered. They aren’t going to change their shitty lifestyles.