Wife wears sweatpants every day.

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman, and really surprised by how many people jumped on the OP.. I disagree that A. sweatpants look good on anybody, B. OP can't express how he feels, and C. he can't ask for something to change so he feels better.

OP, I'd focus on the fact that your wife didn't want to get dressed up to go on a date. I would talk to her and say you're worried about her mental health because she doesn't want to go on a date with you, is she okay, does she need help finding a therapist to talk with, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman, and really surprised by how many people jumped on the OP.. I disagree that A. sweatpants look good on anybody, B. OP can't express how he feels, and C. he can't ask for something to change so he feels better.

OP, I'd focus on the fact that your wife didn't want to get dressed up to go on a date. I would talk to her and say you're worried about her mental health because she doesn't want to go on a date with you, is she okay, does she need help finding a therapist to talk with, etc.

OP here. I apologize for not being clear. My wife will go out on a date, but a date at a place where sweatpants are generally frowned upon is no-go.

[Anonymous]

An Open Letter to Sweatpants

https://medium.com/@lmbf/an-open-letter-to-sweatpants-dc048aa4ab2e

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Athleisure is still in. I wear sweatpants to most places. I'm about to go to a restaurant tonight and spend $150 just on my meal and drinks, and I'll be doing it in sweatpants and a gucci sweatshirt. I'm a man but I can't have double standard for women

Sweatpants are not athleisure. Sweatpants went out of style in the 80s. Didn’t know you could spend $150 on a meal at Taco Bell.

[Anonymous]

Your wife is finally comfortable and she doesn't want to be forced to be uncomfortable right now OP.

It would be like me trying to get my dh to stop wearing polo shirts; he loves polo shirts and is comfortable. We are still in the middle of a pandemic, so why fuss at him to wear something else?

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and all these women criticizing you need to sit down! Your wife would be writing in too if you stopped caring about how you looked or what you wore or refused to dress up on date night! Because it's a woman they all say you are entitled, superficial, etc. I say start wearing pajamas everyday or be honest with how you feel. These self righteous women need to just stop.

[Anonymous]

Did she really turn down a date because she doesn't want to change out of sweatpants? That sounds like a problem, if true, but it also doesn't sound...true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

Some women become lazy when comfortable. They don't try anymore. There's no motivation. It's sad.

[Anonymous]

Lol. Are you dh? I’ve been in shorts (summer) and sweatpants (winter) and flip flops since March 2020. I won’t ever wear anything else ever again.

[Anonymous]

Encourage her to go commando, for easy access after the kids have left for school!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On days my dh works from home, he wears sweat pants. Seeing him in such casual attire stresses me out for some reason. I'm a sahm and have showered, styled my hair and dressed myself in structured clothing every single day without fail all through the pandemic. I do it for myself. I refuse to be a slob or let myself go to sh1t even though everyone else apparently is.

You do realize you have serious anxiety, right?

Also just sounds like you have nothing to do, unlike the OP's DW who is working, as is your DH.

What DO I do all day?! I don't have anxiety and I have plenty to do. I happen to like looking pulled together each day. I suppose you could call it a value. You may value something I don't care about. I certainly wouldn't begrudge you something which brings you happiness. I also exercise, eat well and take daily walks with friends. Taking care of my family and home, having healthful habits, maintaining relationships and looking nice are some of the things which bring me happiness. What do you like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On days my dh works from home, he wears sweat pants. Seeing him in such casual attire stresses me out for some reason. I'm a sahm and have showered, styled my hair and dressed myself in structured clothing every single day without fail all through the pandemic. I do it for myself. I refuse to be a slob or let myself go to sh1t even though everyone else apparently is.

You do realize you have serious anxiety, right?

Also just sounds like you have nothing to do, unlike the OP's DW who is working, as is your DH.

It takes the same amount of time to put on actual pants as it does to pull on sweats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

Some women become lazy when comfortable. They don't try anymore. There's no motivation. It's sad.

It is the beginning of the end.

[Anonymous]

you know--if you hadn't said anything about dressing up to her, she probably would have done it. My husband asked me to go to dinner a couple months after the lockdowns in 2020. At first I put on sweats. then I saw him getting ready and dressed up. I was annoyed at first, but I quickly changed to match his level of dress up. We had an amazing night out too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman, and really surprised by how many people jumped on the OP.. I disagree that A. sweatpants look good on anybody, B. OP can't express how he feels, and C. he can't ask for something to change so he feels better.

OP, I'd focus on the fact that your wife didn't want to get dressed up to go on a date. I would talk to her and say you're worried about her mental health because she doesn't want to go on a date with you, is she okay, does she need help finding a therapist to talk with, etc.

OP here. I apologize for not being clear. My wife will go out on a date, but a date at a place where sweatpants are generally frowned upon is no-go.

So she'll go out on a date but will only wear sweats? I agree that's a bummer.