Wife wears sweatpants every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She should wear what she wants while she is working/during the day. It is mature to be comfortable. It is immature and insecure to be "glamorous" in your own home, with someone you have been with for years.

I think your suggestion to go on a date was nice. Ask her why she did not want to do it and if you can put it on the calendar for another time.

What? Who is talking about being glamorous at home during work? If you think changing out of sweats is glamorous, I feel bad for you. It is called having standards and self respect. If you husband sat around in stained boxers and white tank top undershirts all day, you would think that's ok? You wouldn't want him to up his game a little? I doubt it.

[Anonymous]

Hmm. I came downstairs Friday in sweats and a white t-shirt and had to smack DH’s hands away to get to my coffee. He loves that look esp here in the covid with our kids at school and us WFH all day. Sweats come off reeaally easy.

Just another perspective. ; )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She should wear what she wants while she is working/during the day. It is mature to be comfortable. It is immature and insecure to be "glamorous" in your own home, with someone you have been with for years.

I think your suggestion to go on a date was nice. Ask her why she did not want to do it and if you can put it on the calendar for another time.

What? Who is talking about being glamorous at home during work? If you think changing out of sweats is glamorous, I feel bad for you. It is called having standards and self respect. If you husband sat around in stained boxers and white tank top undershirts all day, you would think that's ok? You wouldn't want him to up his game a little? I doubt it.

I’m not the poster you were responding too but here are my two cents. It’s one thing to be simple and casual and it’s entirely another thing to lack hygiene and basic grooming. Is she depressed? You should be more concerned about her not whining about your shallow standards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She should wear what she wants while she is working/during the day. It is mature to be comfortable. It is immature and insecure to be "glamorous" in your own home, with someone you have been with for years.

I think your suggestion to go on a date was nice. Ask her why she did not want to do it and if you can put it on the calendar for another time.

This^. Anyone feeling the need to be glamorous and dolled up all the time is neither normal nor comfortable or productive. Heck, over the top efforts at work are also a sign of hidden inferiority issues of not being enough.

[Anonymous]

My husband says all
Women (except me) wear sweatpants wrong and I should give them lessons. Gets them off me every time

[Anonymous]

What are sweatpants? I've never heard of those. Sounds low class.

[Anonymous]

OP how do you behave that your wife wants to avoid dates with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my husband says “we should go on a date” he means that I should figure out child care and make a reservation. Plan the date, well in advance, to somewhere fancy and let her figure out her own wardrobe. If she wears sweatpants and is comfortable with that, suck it up and have a good time anyway.

Bingo.

OP wants the date to be all about him. He’s treating his wife like an object. And wild guess, he’ll probably expect sex afterwards.

If she wants to go to Olive Garden in sweatpants, go and have fun. If you can only have fun with your spouse when they’re dressed up, something is wrong.

+1. This. OP, he does it matter what your wife wears. If she didn’t shower or brush teeth, that would be one thing. She likes comfortable clothes. Why does this bother you?

[Anonymous]

This thread has inspired me to go buy some sweatpants. Walmart has some cute ones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has inspired me to go buy some sweatpants. Walmart has some cute ones

Right - I bought more yoga pants and sweats just reading this thread. Haven't eaten in a restaurant in years at this point (kids under 5/no vax). Who are these people having date nights in a pandemic where they need to dress up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s starting to piss you off???

I can see how you’d want her to do something different, and honestly if she doesn’t even want to dress up to go out on a date because she likes sweats I wonder about depression or body image issues. But good grief, it’s her body and for you to be pissed off about such a superficial thing shows an insane level of entitlement.

Wait - if you ever objected to something your husband wears, then “ . . good grief, it’s HIS body and for you to be pissed off about such a superficial thing shows an insane level of entitlement.” ???

Really?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has inspired me to go buy some sweatpants. Walmart has some cute ones

Right - I bought more yoga pants and sweats just reading this thread. Haven't eaten in a restaurant in years at this point (kids under 5/no vax). Who are these people having date nights in a pandemic where they need to dress up?

I went out for dinner last week, not a date it was fun but honestly didn't feel like I was missing much like I'd be fine not going out for dinner the rest of the year🤷

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has inspired me to go buy some sweatpants. Walmart has some cute ones

Right - I bought more yoga pants and sweats just reading this thread. Haven't eaten in a restaurant in years at this point (kids under 5/no vax). Who are these people having date nights in a pandemic where they need to dress up?

I went out for dinner last week, not a date it was fun but honestly didn't feel like I was missing much like I'd be fine not going out for dinner the rest of the year🤷

Also I found this fleece lined jogging suit that's fabulous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has inspired me to go buy some sweatpants. Walmart has some cute ones

Right - I bought more yoga pants and sweats just reading this thread. Haven't eaten in a restaurant in years at this point (kids under 5/no vax). Who are these people having date nights in a pandemic where they need to dress up?

People here are so weird. Glad I married someone with s as like perspective and self respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has inspired me to go buy some sweatpants. Walmart has some cute ones

Right - I bought more yoga pants and sweats just reading this thread. Haven't eaten in a restaurant in years at this point (kids under 5/no vax). Who are these people having date nights in a pandemic where they need to dress up?

People here are so weird. Glad I married someone with s as like perspective and self respect.

Except it’s not “self” respect. It’s feeling like you have to be a certain way to appease others and help shape their opinion of you. Real self respect is understanding your own wants and needs and living those. OP’s wife doesn’t lack self respect. She just wants to live her way.