Wife wears sweatpants every day.

[Anonymous]

First post:

OP, it is likely that the cute little bottom she brought into the marriage has been replaced by a Tysons Mall-sized backside. She cannot fit into anything other than pants that provide a great deal of room to land the 747, so to speak.

Would please encourage her to try to get back in pre-marriage shape? Perhaps she could try belly dancing, or a class at Sport&Health (there are some great ones such as GMBSA (Get My Butt Small Again) training.)

With your help, she will be dressing up in no time (you may have to help her get off the couch first.) If this does not work, she may have Low-E and should get her estrogen levels checked.

<Hugs>

Second post:

dp Reading is fundamental and op did not say his wife was fat. Maybe you are talking about yourself? This is op:" Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. " Just because someone doesn't want to get dressed up does not mean they are fat or need her estrogen levels checked. Sometimes it just means she wants to be comfortable! And who can blame her?

The first post is the one with sarcasm. My surprise was the second poster did not understand it.

Do you really think there is a class at Sport&Health called Get My Butt Small Again or that the sweatpants wearing DW could be suffering from Low-E?

[Anonymous]

OP I agree with prior posters who suggest that your wife might have depression if she really doesn't want to go anywhere that would require changing out of sweatpants. Soften your heart, see how she is doing. You know, love her.

[Anonymous]

That would annoy me, too. Having standards and aesthetic preferences doesn't make OP a jerk. But he seems to have triggered all the people who like to schlump around all day every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That would annoy me, too. Having standards and aesthetic preferences doesn't make OP a jerk. But he seems to have triggered all the people who like to schlump around all day every day.

Agreed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. Women are sick of having their value defined by their appearance. American men are upset that women in general have gained weight and don’t dress to please the male gaze. Wearing sweatpants is a big middle finger at society’s expectations that women should always want to be attractive to men.

Translation: I’m fat, men don’t look at me and it’s all their fault.

[Anonymous]

Have we clarified if she’s wasting like gray baggy sweatpants or is she wearing lululemon leggings/juicy couture velour track suits? Is sweat pants a generic term for Athleisure or is she legitimately wearing old school sweat pants? If my husband had been wearing baggy gray sweatpants for two years I’d definitely feel a bit confused ….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First post:

OP, it is likely that the cute little bottom she brought into the marriage has been replaced by a Tysons Mall-sized backside. She cannot fit into anything other than pants that provide a great deal of room to land the 747, so to speak.

Would please encourage her to try to get back in pre-marriage shape? Perhaps she could try belly dancing, or a class at Sport&Health (there are some great ones such as GMBSA (Get My Butt Small Again) training.)

With your help, she will be dressing up in no time (you may have to help her get off the couch first.) If this does not work, she may have Low-E and should get her estrogen levels checked.

<Hugs>

Second post:

dp Reading is fundamental and op did not say his wife was fat. Maybe you are talking about yourself? This is op:" Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. " Just because someone doesn't want to get dressed up does not mean they are fat or need her estrogen levels checked. Sometimes it just means she wants to be comfortable! And who can blame her?

The first post is the one with sarcasm. My surprise was the second poster did not understand it.

Do you really think there is a class at Sport&Health called Get My Butt Small Again or that the sweatpants wearing DW could be suffering from Low-E?

Not involved in those posts, but the first post was stupid and not even slightly funny. Feels like you’re trying to get another bite at the apple by reviving your post that everyone else ignored. We’re not confused by your clever sarcasm. You’re just a f king dork. GMBSA.

[Anonymous]

Can she upgrade to Zyia unwind or cozy oggers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can she upgrade to Zyia unwind or cozy oggers?

Joggers. ugh

[Anonymous]

OP, I got really comfortable during quarantine as well and my partner was annoyed my lack of effort. I didn't bother because I didn't think he cared about that. Once he vocalized why it bothered him, I switched up immediately.

I think you should have a discussion about it and explain why it matters to you. I wish he'd said something sooner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In five tears, she'll be overweight and shopping at Dollar General.

NOT Dollar GENERAL!! You cannot even make it Dollar Tree. LMAO! This made my day. ETA: It is years not tears. That could be tomorrow if wife keeps wearing sweats.

[Anonymous]

I understand. My husband wears sweats all the time and looks like a damn bum. I HATE it! I wear dresses, jeans, suits, tailored pants and only sometimes a few leggings. But, I feel you. Tell her to stop being a slob! And, I have an average body type but nothing amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

Superficial and shallow much? She doesn’t need to doll up unless she wants to. If you really want her to then make her feel desired and gift her beautiful things and take her to nice places so she would want to dress up and when she does, show her genuine admiration and appreciation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

Superficial and shallow much? She doesn’t need to doll up unless she wants to. If you really want her to then make her feel desired and gift her beautiful things and take her to nice places so she would want to dress up and when she does, show her genuine admiration and appreciation.

Everybody is superficial in relationships, if that means they care occasionally about how a partner looks. But he's not saying he's going to divorce his wife or have an affair because she wears sweatpants. He just doesn't like that she wants to do it all the time, and even on a date.

[Anonymous]

She should wear what she wants while she is working/during the day. It is mature to be comfortable. It is immature and insecure to be "glamorous" in your own home, with someone you have been with for years.

I think your suggestion to go on a date was nice. Ask her why she did not want to do it and if you can put it on the calendar for another time.