Wife wears sweatpants every day.

[Anonymous]

If the biggest of your issues during the pandemic is that your wife wears sweats, count yourself lucky.

It sounds to me like you’re bored and finding stuff to pick on. Maybe she is in sweats because the situation is depressing and yet she has to carry on and take care of everyone every damn day. Buy her a cute cashmere lounge set for Valentine’s Day and call it a night.

[Anonymous]

I would be more worried that she declined the date. I personally don't wear sweatpants and didn't while married. Maybe Covid has her down. Ask her what's up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

Yes, you are being ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

to op

[Anonymous]

On days my dh works from home, he wears sweat pants. Seeing him in such casual attire stresses me out for some reason. I'm a sahm and have showered, styled my hair and dressed myself in structured clothing every single day without fail all through the pandemic. I do it for myself. I refuse to be a slob or let myself go to sh1t even though everyone else apparently is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Piss you off" is a bit wrongheaded, imo, but you're not wrong that this shows lack of effort. I dress up for my DH every day and I have worked remote for the better part of a year.

I'm much more likely to step it up from my athleisure if my husband asks nicely. A little reminder that you lover her and find her attractive and want her to wear something special for you will likely work much better than telling her that you're pissed and want her to put in some effort

[Anonymous]

OP, have you both been working at home? For TWO YEARS? With elementary aged kids? DH and I have three, both WFH, and while we generally get along really well still, after this long it’s tough.

So, yes, you’re being unreasonable. Also, leave the house sometimes. By yourself.

[Anonymous]

Just go fap it out and blow off some steam, bro.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On days my dh works from home, he wears sweat pants. Seeing him in such casual attire stresses me out for some reason. I'm a sahm and have showered, styled my hair and dressed myself in structured clothing every single day without fail all through the pandemic. I do it for myself. I refuse to be a slob or let myself go to sh1t even though everyone else apparently is.

You do realize you have serious anxiety, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s starting to piss you off???

I can see how you’d want her to do something different, and honestly if she doesn’t even want to dress up to go out on a date because she likes sweats I wonder about depression or body image issues. But good grief, it’s her body and for you to be pissed off about such a superficial thing shows an insane level of entitlement.

Whatever. I'd be pissed if my husband was in sweats all day every day and didn't want to dress up to go out. You're buggin'.

I agree, I would be pissed if my husband becomes a slob too.


OP- Get your wife some Yoga pants, they're still comfy be dressier than sweatpants.

[Anonymous]

Compliment specific outfits, OP. It's really the only way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On days my dh works from home, he wears sweat pants. Seeing him in such casual attire stresses me out for some reason. I'm a sahm and have showered, styled my hair and dressed myself in structured clothing every single day without fail all through the pandemic. I do it for myself. I refuse to be a slob or let myself go to sh1t even though everyone else apparently is.

You do realize you have serious anxiety, right?

Also just sounds like you have nothing to do, unlike the OP's DW who is working, as is your DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

Is she hot? If so, then don't worry about it. My wife wears sweat pants all the time, but as soon as the kids are out of the house for school, we slide them off, and then who cares what she had been wearing?

Yes, she is pretty hot without really trying. We both exercise a lot. We both work demanding jobs. It is just that since COVID happened, my wife went from low maintenance to a bit slovenly. This is obviously not the biggest problem in the world or in a marriage, but it is starting to annoy me because I have always liked dressing up once in a while. It breaks up the routine, and it is one of the reasons I went back to the office as soon as I could.

Yeah, I think you are going to have to let the sweatpants during WFH go. You're going to the office, so dress up and go.

The night out thing is different. I think it's fine and probably good to have a conversation, but I also think you may need to be a little understanding - some people have fundamentally changed during the pandemic. I can't WFH and was out of my office on medical leave from like March to June 2020. I found that I didn't miss work, like at all, and that I'd much rather be chilling at home, taking care of stuff, being home for the kids. I have found that getting dressed up to go out is not something I really like doing anymore. But if my husband sat me down and said he'd really like to start going out again and he wanted to spend time alone with me I would get it together and gladly go.

[Anonymous]

My husband loves my butt in sweatpants... lol

[Anonymous]

I don’t wear pants. Count your blessings.