Wife wears sweatpants every day.

[Anonymous]

I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

[Anonymous]

What do you wear?

[Anonymous]

In five tears, she'll be overweight and shopping at Dollar General.

[Anonymous]

It’s starting to piss you off???

I can see how you’d want her to do something different, and honestly if she doesn’t even want to dress up to go out on a date because she likes sweats I wonder about depression or body image issues. But good grief, it’s her body and for you to be pissed off about such a superficial thing shows an insane level of entitlement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

LOL. You can look other women, just don't touch. Is it really enough to piss you off?

[Anonymous]

I understand.
Single Mom in sweatpants/ pjs

[Anonymous]

Dammit Mike get off the computer and get back to work.

[Anonymous]

Athleisure is still in. I wear sweatpants to most places. I'm about to go to a restaurant tonight and spend $150 just on my meal and drinks, and I'll be doing it in sweatpants and a gucci sweatshirt. I'm a man but I can't have double standard for women

[Anonymous]

I’m in yoga pants most days. Even when I’m not teaching yoga. But, I do dress up if we go out on a date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

You are being ridiculous and controlling. It isn't a good look, op. Let your wife wear what she wants. She isn't your slave or servant.

[Anonymous]

You're a man wearing a Gucci sweatshirt?

[Anonymous]

Glad my DH isn’t a jerk like you.

[Anonymous]

Black sweatpants and black hoodies each and every day for my wife. She says its the best way to cover the excess weight. When we go out on a date, it's black pants and black turtleneck.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like there are two problems, and neither of them are the fact your wife wears sweatpants to WFH

(1) You have an unreasonable expectation of what your wife looks like while you are both home during the day. Before one or both of you went to an office every day, you probably saw each other in the morning before work and obviously after work, but most of the day you were apart. You might think you preferred what your wife was wearing then, but you barely saw her. She was at work. Now you are at home and you see her all day and you don't find her attire very exciting. While that might sound reasonable, this is a you-problem, not a her-problem. She is wearing what is conducive to her getting her work done. During the day, she should wear what she wants and you need to learn to not care and not look to her to be dressing for you during this time. It's not reasonable.

(2) You and your wife are in different places with regards to romance, including going out and dressing for each other. I think your suggestion of dressing up and going out to dinner was a really good one and I totally get it. During Covid, this is also my go-to when I feel like DH and I need to remember what it's like to feel some sizzle. The fact that she shot it down isn't necessarily wrong, but it's a problem that she doesn't seem to have any desire for what you are going for here. That's a disconnect.

If I were you, I'd talk to her specifically about how you would like to add a little bit more glamour to your love life by occasionally wearing nicer clothes, whether it's at home or going out or going to a friend's. I would emphasize to her that you don't want her to be uncomfortable (there are comfortable dress clothes, ftr), but that this is about recapturing some of the heat from pre-Covid times.

I would not say anything about what she wears during the day and I would get really comfortable with the idea that she might wear sweats at home forever during the day. Because that's her choice. Maybe buy her a couple pairs of cute joggers or something as a gift (not too tight), but I would be very careful not to communicate that you think she should dress up more at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're a man wearing a Gucci sweatshirt?

You didn't realize Gucci, Fendi, and other designer brands make clothes for men? Must be poor