Wife’s Behavior Confirms I Should Divorce Her

[Anonymous]

She sounds awful. File tomorrow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound really bratty and angry. Have you ever considered marriage counseling? Or reading some John Gray? He writes intelligently about the differences in communication both men and women need to make. If you have a lot of money and all the people she knows are wearing 4k bags, I see why she would want the same. You seem to only want to win and be right.

Doesn't sound bratty at all. I'd be angry too if that's how I was treated. Sounds like his wife is just an ungrateful c@nt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound really bratty and angry. Have you ever considered marriage counseling? Or reading some John Gray? He writes intelligently about the differences in communication both men and women need to make. If you have a lot of money and all the people she knows are wearing 4k bags, I see why she would want the same. You seem to only want to win and be right.

Doesn't sound bratty at all. I'd be angry too if that's how I was treated. Sounds like his wife is just an ungrateful c@nt.

Throwing a tantrum in public over a luxury item is the height of bratty. PP is clearly an entitled turd. The bolded is some grade A horse malarkey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since you clearly don’t like your wife at all, yes, of course file for divorce. But why do you say she is “living for free” in a house you pay for when she has her own career?

He talks that way because he’s a narc jerk flying about ever few years for his FSO job while ignoring his wife and kids.

[Anonymous]

Then do? Cool story, bro.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you assume that? I pay the mortgage. So, she’s living rent free in the house, which, by the way, I don’t want. She can keep it.

I’ll take have if $4 million. She’ll be ok, as will I.

She's your wife, so there's no rent. The house is hers just as much as it's yours. Yo think because you throw some money at her you deserve having your ass kissed. PP clocked your type. Insufferable narcssitic ahole.

He really doesn’t get it. Marital assets and expenses, what a dip. I don’t think anyone would be surprised at a divorce here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quick background. I’m a Foreign Servíce Officer married for 23 years. My wife has not accompanied me on assignments for the past few years as she pursues her own career. I have been considering divorce for some time. She is just an unhappy person and when she is around me she brings out the worst in me. I’m irritable and angry all the time, under stress. When she is not around, I’m calm and feel at peace. During this current assignment during COVID I’ve really started taking care of myself: exercising more, improved diet and I’ve lost about 16 lbs in the last six months.

Recently, she came to visit me at post. Her behavior while here confirmed for me I cannot live with her. She was constantly verbally abusive and demeaning me. She lost her temper last night b/c we were in an upscale department store and they closed the registers before she could complete her purchase. This led to a 20 minute tirade where I “ruin everything” and am just an “asshole.” She has no capacity for gratitude, complaining that I won’t drop $4K on a purse for her like other “husbands she knows.”

She forgets that she lives for free in a house I pay for, etc. She needs to grow up. She is narcissistic, spoiled and entitled. She has been making noises about quitting her job and joining me at post, but here she can tool around on her motorcycle. I don’t want her here. I need to file for divorce ASAP to keep her from coming here and ruining my day-to-day life.

You or her or both of you have serious underlying issues if your verbal communication is this terrible.

I’d assume you could mediate a separation in less than a week, split everything 50/50, she gets the kid through high school, done.

[Anonymous]

Don’t discount the sacrifices your wife made for your career. Being an EFM sucks. You are basically an appendage.

[Anonymous]

Yes. You both sound miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t discount the sacrifices your wife made for your career. Being an EFM sucks. You are basically an appendage.

Reading skills people. Did you catch she makes $230K per year. Most EFMs would kill to even 25 percent of that rather than send me sh*tty CLO job. Appears OP’s wife has been able to make her career work while trailing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t you already gin up a lawyer a month ago when you posted this? Weren’t you protecting your daughter and then serving the divorce papers?

What happened with your plan last month OP?

Stop neglecting and pestering your wife and divorce already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t discount the sacrifices your wife made for your career. Being an EFM sucks. You are basically an appendage.

Reading skills people. Did you catch she makes $230K per year. Most EFMs would kill to even 25 percent of that rather than send me sh*tty CLO job. Appears OP’s wife has been able to make her career work while trailing.

Last time he said they live sort, she and the daughter don’t come. She’s basically starved of interaction from him and looks like arguments and put downs are the only type of attention he gives her. I hope she wakes up and divorces him.

[Anonymous]

I love it when peolpe richer than me have problems! This is great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The store closed at 9 pm. It was 9:15 when she went to pay. I had told her they were shutting down. But she had to keep shopping.

As to verbal abuse, let’s turn the tables and ask whether you would put up with being yelled at and called nasty names in public because your DH was having a fit over some stupid thing? I don’t think so. My W cannot regulate her emotional responses.

I’ll accept lifetime alimony from her. She made $230K last year. She doesn’t need it.

Woman FSO here. I don't know why everyone here is piling on. She sounds like a nightmare.

We've done unaccompanied posts (including right now). It may be the only way we can make it through - ha!

Anyway - go ahead and file. Don't let her come to post. Talk to Management/HR about dropping her from your orders.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The store closed at 9 pm. It was 9:15 when she went to pay. I had told her they were shutting down. But she had to keep shopping.

As to verbal abuse, let’s turn the tables and ask whether you would put up with being yelled at and called nasty names in public because your DH was having a fit over some stupid thing? I don’t think so. My W cannot regulate her emotional responses.

I’ll accept lifetime alimony from her. She made $230K last year. She doesn’t need it.

So now we know the real reason you want to divorce.