Wife’s Behavior Confirms I Should Divorce Her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP isn’t going to file for divorce. He never does. He’ll be back next month with some new tale of woe, because he doesn’t actually want to leave his marriage. What he wants is to be a victim, and if he leaves his wife he loses the victim narrative.

All the tales of victimhood...over and over.

Dude, you sound quite narcissistic and unpleasant yourself.

Easy to blame all your woes on your wife but, wherever you go, there you are. You are never going to be happy without some serious work on yourself, your outlook and your thought patterns.

I can clock your posts in the first few lines, you never show any change or insight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t discount the sacrifices your wife made for your career. Being an EFM sucks. You are basically an appendage.

Reading skills people. Did you catch she makes $230K per year. Most EFMs would kill to even 25 percent of that rather than send me sh*tty CLO job. Appears OP’s wife has been able to make her career work while trailing.

Fine. But if she really has been trailing for 23 years, andespecially has kids, she would very likely be making even way more.

The OP's wife sounds like she's a genuine winner and successful person, whereas OP sounds like a total loser. Maybe that's where the resentment is. OP's wife can afford that 4k bag, he certainly cant, and that's why he got triggered.

Quite likely.

There is a daughter, yes? Think HS or college aged?

OP likely alienates people IRL and posts here so repetitively that complete strangers know all these details of his life.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if all the nasty posts are his wife or her friends. Seem so out of touch, holy crap. Really yall?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you assume that? I pay the mortgage. So, she’s living rent free in the house, which, by the way, I don’t want. She can keep it.

I’ll take have if $4 million. She’ll be ok, as will I.

The mortgage belongs to both of you, as does both of your individual earnings, and your house. You sound terrible OP. She is obviously miserable too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if all the nasty posts are his wife or her friends. Seem so out of touch, holy crap. Really yall?

You really fixate on your wife, huh? Like she's some all powerful demon. Guarantee she doesnt know or care her loser husband spends his days whining about her on a parenting/mommy forum. Youre just a bottom of the barrel person OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love DCUM. If a man is alone in a forest, with no women around is he still wrong?

He’s prob dead due to zero survival skills or common sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is a pathetic, meagre salary? You have no idea what OP earns more whether he has other sources of income. If he’s at the 01 or SFS level he’s not doing too bad.

Likewise, I guess the salaries of our senior military officers are “pathetic and meagre.” Obviously, no one here has served or is serving in a military or civilian capacity to treat the people keeping us safe from harm with disrespect.

Success is not measured by the size of your wallet.

Sfs Sidwell friends school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quick background. I’m a Foreign Servíce Officer married for 23 years. My wife has not accompanied me on assignments for the past few years as she pursues her own career. I have been considering divorce for some time. She is just an unhappy person and when she is around me she brings out the worst in me. I’m irritable and angry all the time, under stress. When she is not around, I’m calm and feel at peace. During this current assignment during COVID I’ve really started taking care of myself: exercising more, improved diet and I’ve lost about 16 lbs in the last six months.

Recently, she came to visit me at post. Her behavior while here confirmed for me I cannot live with her. She was constantly verbally abusive and demeaning me. She lost her temper last night b/c we were in an upscale department store and they closed the registers before she could complete her purchase. This led to a 20 minute tirade where I “ruin everything” and am just an “asshole.” She has no capacity for gratitude, complaining that I won’t drop $4K on a purse for her like other “husbands she knows.”

She forgets that she lives for free in a house I pay for, etc. She needs to grow up. She is narcissistic, spoiled and entitled. She has been making noises about quitting her job and joining me at post, but here she can tool around on her motorcycle. I don’t want her here. I need to file for divorce ASAP to keep her from coming here and ruining my day-to-day life.

“Quick background”

Lol

Dude, you post your “quick background” bio and same stuff every month! How many overseas FSO men married for 23 yrs, overseas now, 1 daughter, 1 working wife you hate are there?!?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if all the nasty posts are his wife or her friends. Seem so out of touch, holy crap. Really yall?

You really fixate on your wife, huh? Like she's some all powerful demon. Guarantee she doesnt know or care her loser husband spends his days whining about her on a parenting/mommy forum. Youre just a bottom of the barrel person OP

OP - I present to you Exhibit B ^^ proving the lack of discernment skills of posters in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Posters here generally be like:

"We demand equality for women and want to dismantle this misogynistic system."

But on DCUM they be like:

"DH cheated? She should leave the husband's a$$, that loser!"

"Wife cheated, had criminal charges too? She should leave the husband's a$$, that loser!"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The store closed at 9 pm. It was 9:15 when she went to pay. I had told her they were shutting down. But she had to keep shopping.

As to verbal abuse, let’s turn the tables and ask whether you would put up with being yelled at and called nasty names in public because your DH was having a fit over some stupid thing? I don’t think so. My W cannot regulate her emotional responses.

I’ll accept lifetime alimony from her. She made $230K last year. She doesn’t need it.

So you were antagonizing instead of helping when shopping. Basically goading her into a negative reaction.

He is not responsible for her reaction!!! You’d never tell a woman that is this was reversed.
(I’m female)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if all the nasty posts are his wife or her friends. Seem so out of touch, holy crap. Really yall?

You really fixate on your wife, huh? Like she's some all powerful demon. Guarantee she doesnt know or care her loser husband spends his days whining about her on a parenting/mommy forum. Youre just a bottom of the barrel person OP

+1
But maybe her friends do know he's a loser and can pinpoint his tone whenever he shows up. What an embarrassing person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone piling on OP? He’s miserable in his marriage, and his wife is verbally abusive. Their marriage has run its course. I don’t see any reason why they shouldn’t divorce.

Because it's DCUM and the male is always at fault. If you reversed the genders, the responses would be a lot different.

[Anonymous]

All I want to know is why OP considers the house his house, that she should be grateful to live in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All I want to know is why OP considers the house his house, that she should be grateful to live in.

Because usually in the FS the housing is provided by the government overseas.