SIL Said My Parenting Is “ Cold”.
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Anonymous
OP here. Posters asked and I answered. You can not come to my thread if you don’t like it. |
Anonymous
Give me a break. Most non-sleep trained babies cry for more than 5 minutes at that age. |
Anonymous
NP here. You don’t have to like that we say: you are a cold mother if you let your baby cry at 8 weeks and younger, and never hold for naps. You don’t have to come back if you don’t like it. SIL is right: you are cold. |
Anonymous
| From the Cleveland Clinic - “When should you start sleep training? Dr. Schwartz recommends to begin sleeping training when your baby is about four months old. At this age, babies are typically old enough to learn to self soothe, and may no longer require night feedings.” Poor baby! |
Anonymous
I never let my kids cry alone at all. I go to them right away no matter what age they are. They know they can always count on me… I have no clue what you are talking about. 5 minutes is a LONG time |
Anonymous
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You are fine OP. We didn’t hold our babies for naps either. Nor did we have dark rooms or quiet rooms. They slept in their own bassinet/crib/bed. We gave lots of love, baby wearing, playing and walks when they were awake and active.
Three kids, three different personalities, so I guess we got lucky. They were all easy learn to fall back asleep if they really weren’t wet/hungry/truly awake. |
Anonymous
What do you do in the car? Pull over? |
Anonymous
OP here. My baby was held for almost nap for 8 weeks. It was miserable and on all of us and we found something that works for us. We are all happy and my baby is much more happy now that he is well rested. You can still get off of my thread. |
Anonymous
Haha. Okay. I didn’t sleep train until 6 months but my baby has cried for 5 minutes when I was showering or using the bathroom. You mean to tell me your kid never cried for more than a second at all? I don’t believe it. |
Anonymous
+1. She thinks she’s magically better but I bet her kid cries a lot. I have had two kids - one sleep trained and one not. The non-sleep trained kid cried far more than my sleep trained kid. Both were fussy newborns. My sleep trained baby cried far less than my child who needed me every time to calm them down. Even when holding, she cried. |
Anonymous
I am not sure it ever happened, but, yes, I would. We never drove much with any of my 3 kids when little and longest drives were usually to the pediatrician office and those days I would bring my husband or nanny with me (when the kids were little). About the naps, I have held my kids plenty of times of naps, I have slept with them, I slept on mattress next to their cribs, etc. I don’t think it matters if you hold them or not as long as they are happy. If they are not crying sleeping in their crib, then great! My kids slept in their beds and cribs plenty of times as well. I don’t understand why letting a kid sleep in his crib is “cold”…. On the other hand, letting him cry definitely is. |
Anonymous
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Don’t listen to those people. I sleep trained two kids and they are fine. First at 4 months and second at 8 weeks. One is an infant and one is a toddler. Both sweet angels.
I have a SIL who never sleep trained, did co-sleeping, baby wore. Guess who is always frazzled and has clingy kids vs who is happy? Her kids are so hard to get along with because they do nothing but whine and cry every time we get together. She constantly complains how exhausted she is but refuses to do anything about it. I’m over here very happy. Whenever she gives advice or says things, I just silently laugh and nod along because I know I’m much happier than she even though she thinks what I did was barbaric and cruel. |
Anonymous
OP let her kid fuss for 3-5 minutes. He will be fine. You slept on a mattress next to your kids crib? No way am I doing that. You likely having very clingy whiny kids. No way I would want that. |
Anonymous
Yep, I had a husband or nanny usually. If I didn’t, I would take the baby with me in the bathroom. My kids never cried ALONE longer than the time it took me to go to them. Of course there were times they were sick or hurt and they cried even when I held them so I am sure there have been a few occasions when they cried for 5 minutes or so. The cruelty, in my opinion, is in letting them cry ALONE and basically telling them that nobody is coming for them…. It must be horrible for these little babies and I could never do that to my kids… the end does not justify the means… |
Anonymous
I would be more concerned about a person not being able to handle a short car trip to the pediatrician rather than someone who let their baby cry for 5 minutes. |