Men, if you have ever wanted to have an affair but didn't

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's always funny to me when women answer as men and I'm not saying all men cheat because they definitely don't but only one of the responses so far is written by a man

Unless you are Jeff, you have NO way of knowing that.

But you have revealed the script that okays in your head.

[Anonymous]

I cheated on my now wife years ago when we were dating, so not the same as an affair when married. It hurt her so badly, and it took so long for her to be able to trust me again, that I can’t ever put her through that again.

If I were ever to think about cheating, all I would have to do is to remember her face and how it looked when she found out I’d been cheating on her. I just couldn’t put her through that- plus, I know I’ve used up my chances and she’d leave me in a second if I cheated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had the opportunity multiple times and have passed it up every time. There are a couple reasons why I won’t but the biggest one is that I see myself as a good person and crossing that line would completey change what I think about myself. Aside from that, I’ve been cheated on in the past and would never put my best friend (dw) through that.

I wonder what mental gymnastics cheaters go thru to have any shred of self-esteem.

Of course their kids see they the charade, about the type of man who fathered then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Fear of getting caught.

woman here.. my DH knows that if he did cheat, I would somehow find out. He's careless, and I'm very perceptive, plus I control the finances.

If he did cheat, he knows that I would divorce him, and take half the assets. He wants to retire early really badly (and he is on track to do that). But, if he had to split his assets, he knows he can kiss his early retirement goodbye.

He knows I can be ruthless.

Pretty sad motivation to get someone to stay with you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Fear of getting caught.

woman here.. my DH knows that if he did cheat, I would somehow find out. He's careless, and I'm very perceptive, plus I control the finances.

If he did cheat, he knows that I would divorce him, and take half the assets. He wants to retire early really badly (and he is on track to do that). But, if he had to split his assets, he knows he can kiss his early retirement goodbye.

He knows I can be ruthless.

My kinda girl

[Anonymous]

I don't trust that a woman is only in it for sex. I assume she wants more and I can't give more. I have a good marriage but if I didn't or I wasn't having sex at home I wouldn't be so worried about getting caught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish just one man would actually say the reason he doesn't cheat is because he can't imagine hurting someone he loves and cares about so viciously.

I thought my cheater really loved and cared about me but had to accept that he did not. We were having lots of sex at the time so that wasn't a factor.

If society was such that monogamy didn’t equal love/value, and more couples could be open about their feelings without the social norms, cheating might not have the same emotional weight. I wonder how many would be monogamous for choice and for how long. Personally I think what’s hurtful is the betrayal and lying. Maybe it’s like drugs, if you decriminalize it people would behave differently.

[Anonymous]

Why men?!

Every cheater I’ve found about over the last few years has been a married woman.

[Anonymous]

I can golf all weekend if I want. I have a boat that I spend a whole day fishing from with my friends.
If you think I’m going to upset that just to have an affair, no way.

[Anonymous]

We are now empty nesters and we are having a great time. I’ve never wanted to have an affair and the fun we are having now just keeps me going. The look on her face if she knew I had had an affair would burn a hole in me. My brain is not in my penis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's always funny to me when women answer as men and I'm not saying all men cheat because they definitely don't but only one of the responses so far is written by a man

Agree. First response was a guy, rest are women.

Nope. I wrote the 14:38 Golden Rule response, and I am a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's always funny to me when women answer as men and I'm not saying all men cheat because they definitely don't but only one of the responses so far is written by a man

Agree. First response was a guy, rest are women.

Nope. I wrote the 14:38 Golden Rule response, and I am a man.

I believe you. I am a man too. Fair amount of misandry on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't trust that a woman is only in it for sex. I assume she wants more and I can't give more. I have a good marriage but if I didn't or I wasn't having sex at home I wouldn't be so worried about getting caught.

They always want more and they always get attached. That’s when real trouble happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why men?!

Every cheater I’ve found about over the last few years has been a married woman.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why men?!

Every cheater I’ve found about over the last few years has been a married woman.

+1

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