Men, if you have ever wanted to have an affair but didn't

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Anonymous wrote:I’d have a hard time explaining it to my kids.

+1 Can you imagine the disappointment and sadness you’d bring them. They may also grow up thinking that’s the norm. F that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Fear of getting caught.

That's probably 99% of the reasons. The "wedding vows" poster was definitely a woman.

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The idea of life after, if I got caught.

Lonely condo or TH. Only seeing my kids 50% of the time, at best.

Not worth it, at all.

And ultimately, I love my wife. So the thought has really only crossed my mind one time: when another married coworker hit on me on a business trip.

[Anonymous]

I wish I could say personal integrity and my vows but all of the opportunities I would have had were in the office and I did want to torch my career with a harassment lawsuit.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, “did not”

[Anonymous]

Fear of getting caught, losing half NW, paying support, parenting young kids on my own when they're with me.

[Anonymous]

Married late, vows are real for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agreed. Who remebers their vows??

Adultery. I don’t remember what was said but when we got married, faithfulness/monogamy was certainly supposed to be part of the deal.

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My vows. Word is bond, yo!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure if this counts....

I turned down an offer to sleep with a woman. She was REALLY into me, and I am hesitant to sleep with single women in case they get attached.

I had an affair in the past, sex was of course incredible and amazing to feel desired again. But the headaches that come with it - the need for attention, time that I don't have, of course the risk of getting caught - it doesn't seem worth it on average.[b] I suppose an NSA on a business trip would be harder to turn down.

Agree. I would never ever consider it again. It was too much stress and worry over time and married chick started pressuring for more time. She wanted an exit.

I still carry a ton of shame and regret. I went to therapy since I was in such a low place about the whole thing.

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Anonymous wrote:It's always funny to me when women answer as men and I'm not saying all men cheat because they definitely don't but only one of the responses so far is written by a man

Agree. First response was a guy, rest are women.

Correct! This man here was the first to respond! It's usually pretty easy to tell.

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Anonymous wrote:It's always funny to me when women answer as men and I'm not saying all men cheat because they definitely don't but only one of the responses so far is written by a man

Agree. First response was a guy, rest are women.

LOL I thought the same.

[Anonymous]

Opportunity: I cheated when we were dating and engaged but haven't during marriage.

Self-image: When we got married, I viewed that as the start of our new life and a new beginning. My dad cheated on my mom, and I didn't want to see myself as a person who would cheat on his wife.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I could say personal integrity and my vows but all of the opportunities I would have had were in the office and I did want to torch my career with a harassment lawsuit.

I’m curious if the harassment lawsuit was just the first reason or the only?

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Anonymous wrote:I’d have a hard time explaining it to my kids.

+1 Can you imagine the disappointment and sadness you’d bring them. They may also grow up thinking that’s the norm. F that.

If the kids are fairly young they won't understand what is going on at all. My mother cheated on my dad and I definitely sided with her. Kids are quite resilient and can still come out the other end just fine and well adjusted. Sometimes the person being cheated on is not the victim.