SIL is upset I did not punish my step daughter for being disrespectful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope you’re trolling. Your SD was incredibly rude and step or not, I’d have let her know that. It’s fine that they had different ideas of the price and for your SD to decline the job, but laughing at your SIL was way out of line.

Is your SIL from your side of the family or your dh’s?

I'm fairly certain OP is a troll as are all the people supporting her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You, your Stepdaughter, and your husband are in the wrong. Full stop. It has zero to do with standing up for herself.

There are 1001 and one ways to your rate and not be nasty.

I say this as someone who worked her way through school as a nanny and babysitting

SIL set the nasty tone by offering less than half of what the SD quoted her. How insulting and rude is that? And SIL is the grown-up!!!!

Sil offered a price. ALl SD had to do was decline, Laughing and being nasty were not required. Even if SIL was intentionally being insulting which I don't believe she was, you do as Michelle Obama tells us to go high, there's never a reason to lower yourself.

Actually, the SD offered a price, and all SIL had to do was politely decline instead of counter offering with sweatshop wages.

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Your SIL is a reason the wage gap exists and what girls are too socialized to be “nice” vs boys. Good for your step daughter for knowing the market value and standing up for herself. Should she be punished? No. Should someone (her dad?) have a conversation about how not burn bridges? Maybe? But it’s really not a big deal in the scheme of things and I’m Team Step-Daugher.

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4 kids for $10?!! THAT is rude. Your step daughter is right and knows her worth. I would have her back

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If this is your H’s daughter and the SIL is from your side of the family it’s especially rude to stress the step child like a slave.

Also you should not be disciplining your step daughter ever. That’s your H’s job.

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^^ treat not stress

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Did OP clarify how SIL is related? Is this the husband’s sister? Or her brother’s wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IMy daughter laughed in her face and said she was not running a charity and wished her luck finding a babysitter for her cheap price. My daughter then proceeded to walk away laughing.

Who's account is this? Were you a witness or is this what SIL or DD says happened? I have a hard time believing this is the actual way it went down.

[Anonymous]

The SIL sounds like a drama queen. She offered a wildly off market rate (after being quoted a reasonable rate!) and was laughed at by a child, and is now repeating this story and trying to stir up outrage among other family members at the child. I am surprised some of you find this behavior acceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you’re trolling. Your SD was incredibly rude and step or not, I’d have let her know that. It’s fine that they had different ideas of the price and for your SD to decline the job, but laughing at your SIL was way out of line.

Is your SIL from your side of the family or your dh’s?

I'm fairly certain OP is a troll as are all the people supporting her.

I wrote in support of OP. Not a troll. Just disagree with you, and think SIL was ridiculous. Dad can say something to kid if he wants to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It makes me crazy when teenage girls, or even young women, don’t stand up for themselves or state clearly what they charge for things like babysitting.

Good for your daughter! Laughing in your sil’s face is rude but refusing to work for a really low amount of money is going to serve your daughter well in the long run.

This++++
OP, later on you can have a conversation with your daughter to be more respectful, but OMG. From a 42 yr old woman who is still learning to stand up for herself, kudos to her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The SIL sounds like a drama queen. She offered a wildly off market rate (after being quoted a reasonable rate!) and was laughed at by a child, and is now repeating this story and trying to stir up outrage among other family members at the child. I am surprised some of you find this behavior acceptable.

This is the only reasonable answer.

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How entitled your sister-in-law is! Someone should really insist she apologize to your daughter for suggesting she work for below minimum wage just because she has the misfortune to be related. It’s not like anyone else will work for that that rate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Laughing in someone's face and then walking away while continuing to laugh is absolutely rude. Full stop.

It's acceptable when someone is trying to insult you. and $10 an hour for 4 kids? That IS an insult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How entitled your sister-in-law is! Someone should really insist she apologize to your daughter for suggesting she work for below minimum wage just because she has the misfortune to be related. It’s not like anyone else will work for that that rate.

And having the audacity to complain to OP, Op’s husband, and OP’s brother about the situation.