YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son
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I posted above, not the post that's quoted here, but I'm also a former early childhood special ed teacher. I now teach older kids. Yes, there are absolutely kids who can look one way one minute and completely different in other circumstances. If they went through the process, and legally placed the child in an adoptive home, then I am not going to judge that. I've taught kids who had disrupted adoptions, and ended up in better placements, so I hope that is what will happen here. On the other hand, there are other choices, like the choice to duct tape his hand, and the choice to plaster his image on the internet, or to talk about his struggles publicly, that I do 100% judge. |
Anonymous
I never saw the bio kids really interact with Huxley. It was like he was the odd man out. And if Huxley was truly aggressive I believe she would have posted videos to fit the narrative as to why Huxley needed to be placed in foster care. |
Anonymous
| The Stauffer’s relinquished custody of Huxley. How is it that videos of Huxley are still allowed to stay on their channel; putting more money in the pockets of this family. |
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Anonymous
But she is a liar and awful person. So you can't take her word for anything. |
Anonymous
Right, of course the courts would be involved, but an adoption agency is going to insist on that, and facilitate that, if they are involved in the placement. There is no way that an agency that wants to stay in business, and stay Hague accredited, is going to do a mixture of legal adoptions, and shady "rehomings". |
Anonymous
Do you know her personally? You know for a fact that she’s a “liar” and “awful person”? I don’t think you do. So why make these comments when you don’t know her or or family? |
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While I think the money making aspect is atrocious, if a child is unwanted, the upheaval of the move wil be less damaging in the long run then being raised by a family who doesn't love you or want you. Not that being abandoned won't cause issues but better to deal with those in a home with love and patience.
I use to work in child mental health with kids with serious issues and there were some kids who would have done much much better in a different home. Some parents are able to rise to the challenge and still be loving and invested parents, others are not. However when they are bio kids, there aren't a lot of choices. |
Anonymous
I am the PP you quoted and I agree with you. I am actually neutral on his meltdowns since those are the things which are unpredictable and pushes most parents to the edge. Those can't be judge by the quick clips she posts of his meltdowns. I was more speaking to a Level 3 diagnosis which they say he has. That I don't see. A level 3 isn't something that you can't see in videos. It is always there. Definitely delayed and non verbal (at this time). And his delays may never get better, that is why I said he is better off with a different family. This family is not going to give him what he needs. He needs a family which is 100% in it for him. That isn't this one. |
Anonymous
Yikes on my double negative sentence. What I was trying to say is that level 3 kids, who are severe, always show signs of it. That isn't something that they can sometimes have the behaviors and sometimes not have the behaviors in videos. The videos of him and now I have watched many, have long clips where he is not showing any level 3 type spectrum issues. When she is talking to him he is making great eye contact. His movement are purposeful. His signs are clear and when she is speaking he isn't distracted. Well other than what a normal toddler would find distracting. |
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There are a lot of posters on the SN forum whose kids have violent out bursts. Not one has ever said that a professional told them to voluntarily give up parental rights and rehome a child.
That said, the child is clearly better off in a different home. Unclear if he also would have been better off just staying in foster care in China. The whole duct tape on thumb thing in itself is so bizarre. I can’t believe any sane person would do that to any child of that age, much less one with a sensory seeking disability and one who had been recently moved to a new family in a new country. There’s just so much wrong here. |
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Influencers should not be allowed to adopt. Their lives revolve around creating content for views, sponsors, and subscribers / followers. They are always looking for new storylines, and people stories draw viewers. Adopting a kid as content is a terrible idea and I am not surprised it went wrong so fast. They have probably maxed out the views and sponsors they can her from the adoption story line and now they would have to actually raise the child.
Personally I think all these family channels should be banned. When your livelihood and I come depends on your kids performing on camera and on being filmed as props and producst, kids lose out. They lose privacy, they lose a spontaneous life, they lose all kinds of things. People exploiting their children, their children's lives, and their children's emotions and privacy for money should be stopped. |
Anonymous
It's totally abusive and so wrong to do that! She singled Huxley out and duct taped his hands when her other 2 kids also suck their thumbs and didn't receive the same punishment. She obviously adopted him strictly for content, and when she realized it would actually require parental effort, she bailed. |
Anonymous
It is worse for him to stay in a house where he was clearly unwanted. There is advised she shot in the fall wher her daughter is talking to her and has her hand in her mom. Huxley goes over and inserts himself in between them. The mom comments that Huxley doesn't like it when any of the other kids hug or touch her. She says he wants to be the only one. I think what they did was awful but it is so much better they did it when Huxley is still young and adorable. |
Anonymous
Levels for ASD don't refer to the severity of the autistic symptoms, they refer to the level of support that the individual needs, and they aren't meant as a permanent diagnosis, they are meant as a snapshot in time. In kids with comorbidities, that can be really confusing. For example, I have a friend with a child who had a neurological injury, and has CP, vision impairments, ID and ASD. Her ASD isn't "severe" but because of the combination of disabilities her support needs are very high. Yes, I agree with you that on the video this kid has demonstrated some skills that kids who have a sole diagnosis of ASD and Level 3 support needs don't have. But he also has a diagnosis of RAD, which complicates everything, and causes behavior to be more variable. |