YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son

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https://www.instagram.com/mykastaufferfan/

Having spent my career working with kids on the spectrum, just from these clips alone he is not Level 3. I have looked at their other clips with him from when they adopted him to the most recent and I don't see him digressing either. Many kids can see fine until they are 1 or 2 and then begin a progression into more severe behaviors like losing eye contact or gaining repetitive/restrictive behaviors. Even when disciplining him he makes very good eye contact. While non verbal he can clearly communicate.

He is clearly a kid who is special needs but definitely not in the "severe" category from from all kids I have worked with. That said, THEY are not a good fit for him so it is best that he be taken away from them -- which is most likely what the professionals made happen. If you have a family unwilling to help a child (and it is a ton of work) then the one who suffers is the child. He deserves a bright future which this family was not going to provide for him.

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Anonymous wrote:lmao you know the more you idiots keep clicking on her IG and YouTube videos, the more money they are making right? His adoption story video has sky rocketed to over 5.5 million views. Will advertisers drop her since a bunch of crazies are pressuring them to? Yeah. But the crazies are also sky rocketing their income right now as well with all the clicks.

They will need it because this boost it the end. The end of everything for them.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

I’m sorry but no, he won’t go online one day and read all this. He has severe special needs and can’t even talk. He will never go and read about himself online.

He may be more there than people realize.

Ehhh, I don’t think so unfortunately. Never heard him talk in any videos on YouTube or IG. He’s four but seems to have the mindset of a 1 year old. I just don’t ever see him being a “normal kid”.

I know several kids including mine who did not talk till after four.

Did they have strokes in the womb and neuro specialists looking at their brain scans advising they would never take this on themselves and that issues would likely be lifelong? Because this child had that. Doesn't justify the parent's actions, but when you have specialists looking at neurological activity and saying, "I wouldn't..." that doesn't bode well normally.

What doctor is going to blab out to the parent of a child that they should give the child away rather than treat the child? It's not even a believable statement, it sounds like an excuse to support their choice to giving him away.

Not giving away a child, but that this was well known prior to adoption and the adoptive parents accepted this risk, against medical advice. And here they are...

They are giving him away. What else do you want to call it? You want to make it sound nice... we're putting him up for adoption? They aren't even doing a legal adoption.

How do you know that? I thought I heard that they used their adoption agency for the placement in the new home, which almost certainly means that it is a legal adoption.

I hope that their legal fees are astronomical and that these two awful people will be forced to spend as much of their waking life as possible working 3 jobs. May caring, nice people surround their children and guide them through life.

It appears that the influencer gig came to her after she lost her nursing license. Now people are pressuring her sponsors to cut ties with this family. I wonder what act III will be. The husband is a car detailer who was tapping into YouTube to make money from detailing videos (from what I understand), but I assume that will take a hit as well.

Well, it's a relief to know that she can't return to nursing. She can do road crew and landscape maintenance. She can work with asphalt and plants - not people.

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Anonymous wrote:lmao you know the more you idiots keep clicking on her IG and YouTube videos, the more money they are making right? His adoption story video has sky rocketed to over 5.5 million views. Will advertisers drop her since a bunch of crazies are pressuring them to? Yeah. But the crazies are also sky rocketing their income right now as well with all the clicks.

That's not how it works. Once all of their sponsors drop them, they won't be earning anything.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.instagram.com/mykastaufferfan/

Having spent my career working with kids on the spectrum, just from these clips alone he is not Level 3. I have looked at their other clips with him from when they adopted him to the most recent and I don't see him digressing either. Many kids can see fine until they are 1 or 2 and then begin a progression into more severe behaviors like losing eye contact or gaining repetitive/restrictive behaviors. Even when disciplining him he makes very good eye contact. While non verbal he can clearly communicate.

He is clearly a kid who is special needs but definitely not in the "severe" category from from all kids I have worked with. That said, THEY are not a good fit for him so it is best that he be taken away from them -- which is most likely what the professionals made happen. If you have a family unwilling to help a child (and it is a ton of work) then the one who suffers is the child. He deserves a bright future which this family was not going to provide for him.

It's good to hear a pro chime in on this. I agree that it is good that this boy is being placed elsewhere. These people never should have gotten him in the first place.

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Anonymous wrote:lmao you know the more you idiots keep clicking on her IG and YouTube videos, the more money they are making right? His adoption story video has sky rocketed to over 5.5 million views. Will advertisers drop her since a bunch of crazies are pressuring them to? Yeah. But the crazies are also sky rocketing their income right now as well with all the clicks.

That's not how it works. Once all of their sponsors drop them, they won't be earning anything.

Good. They have no business "influencing" anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:lmao you know the more you idiots keep clicking on her IG and YouTube videos, the more money they are making right? His adoption story video has sky rocketed to over 5.5 million views. Will advertisers drop her since a bunch of crazies are pressuring them to? Yeah. But the crazies are also sky rocketing their income right now as well with all the clicks.

I really hope YouTube demonetizes their channel(s) given the situation. There was a popular vlogger (DaddyOFive) that YT did this to a few years ago — he filmed himself playing horribly cruel “pranks” on his children (forcing them to smash their electronics, screaming curse words at them, telling them they were being put up for adoption); hopefully they’ll do the same in this case.

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What vile people. Did I see that she duct taped his hand because he was sucking his thumb?. If so, that is abusive.
Who actually wastes time watching these insipid people?

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I just watched a few of Huxley’s videos, and I don’t think he has autism. I think he is delayed due to neglect and trauma in infancy. I think with the right therapies and loving and attentive parents, Huxley will start talking and go on to live a normal life.

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Anonymous wrote:What vile people. Did I see that she duct taped his hand because he was sucking his thumb?. If so, that is abusive.
Who actually wastes time watching these insipid people?

Yes. And she posted it online for all to see. 100% abusive.

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Anonymous wrote:What vile people. Did I see that she duct taped his hand because he was sucking his thumb?. If so, that is abusive.
Who actually wastes time watching these insipid people?

Her bio kid sucks his thumb, but it’s only a problem when Huxley does it!

I feel so bad for Huxley!

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Anonymous wrote:Im actually disgusted by so many of the comments on this thread. I know Myka personally and this whole situation has been heart breaking for this family. They did not re-home Huxley like an unwanted pet. They put SO much time and money into his medical care, therapy, etc. to help find out how severe his special needs are and believe me, they ARE severe. I’m not going to put her personal info on here but this wasn’t a decision that they came to overnight. This decision to send him to a family who has experience with his extreme mental health and special needs was recommended by multiple health professionals. It was over 6 months of them trying to figure out the best way to help me. A lot went on behind the scenes with Huxleys needs and for the safety of him and the other kids, this was the best option.

Some of you are truly disgusting. Unless you were in her shoes yourself, you have no clue what her and her family went through. Hux was and is beyond loved and was cared for wonderfully by them.

Are you as disgusted by how she used that child as a prop for financial gain? That's what people have a problem with.

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Anonymous wrote:I just watched a few of Huxley’s videos, and I don’t think he has autism. I think he is delayed due to neglect and trauma in infancy. I think with the right therapies and loving and attentive parents, Huxley will start talking and go on to live a normal life.

He apparently had a stroke in utero, so it's possible that the resulting cognitive & physical delays were misdiagnosed as autism. That said, she alludes to aggression against the other kids in the house, which is definitely something that can happen with autism. My DS is very mildly impacted by his autism, but he has had periods of severe aggression to other kids. I can't tell you how often I've been grateful that we never had a 2nd child -- that would be extremely hard to deal with his aggression towards a baby. None of this excuses the adoptive parents, who should have considered all of this before adopting (and having another baby, wtf!)

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.instagram.com/mykastaufferfan/

Having spent my career working with kids on the spectrum, just from these clips alone he is not Level 3. I have looked at their other clips with him from when they adopted him to the most recent and I don't see him digressing either. Many kids can see fine until they are 1 or 2 and then begin a progression into more severe behaviors like losing eye contact or gaining repetitive/restrictive behaviors. Even when disciplining him he makes very good eye contact. While non verbal he can clearly communicate.

He is clearly a kid who is special needs but definitely not in the "severe" category from from all kids I have worked with. That said, THEY are not a good fit for him so it is best that he be taken away from them -- which is most likely what the professionals made happen. If you have a family unwilling to help a child (and it is a ton of work) then the one who suffers is the child. He deserves a bright future which this family was not going to provide for him.

It's good to hear a pro chime in on this. I agree that it is good that this boy is being placed elsewhere. These people never should have gotten him in the first place.

I’ve also worked in early childhood special Ed and wouldn’t make any calls based on videos. I have taught many lovey, sweet, intelligent children who also have severe, uncontrollable meltdowns. They type that injure other kids and adults and can last for hours. I’m neutral on this whole situation because there is no way to know how bad it was. Maybe they weren’t a good family for him, maybe it’s much deeper.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

I’m sorry but no, he won’t go online one day and read all this. He has severe special needs and can’t even talk. He will never go and read about himself online.

He may be more there than people realize.

Ehhh, I don’t think so unfortunately. Never heard him talk in any videos on YouTube or IG. He’s four but seems to have the mindset of a 1 year old. I just don’t ever see him being a “normal kid”.

I know several kids including mine who did not talk till after four.

Did they have strokes in the womb and neuro specialists looking at their brain scans advising they would never take this on themselves and that issues would likely be lifelong? Because this child had that. Doesn't justify the parent's actions, but when you have specialists looking at neurological activity and saying, "I wouldn't..." that doesn't bode well normally.

What doctor is going to blab out to the parent of a child that they should give the child away rather than treat the child? It's not even a believable statement, it sounds like an excuse to support their choice to giving him away.

Not giving away a child, but that this was well known prior to adoption and the adoptive parents accepted this risk, against medical advice. And here they are...

They are giving him away. What else do you want to call it? You want to make it sound nice... we're putting him up for adoption? They aren't even doing a legal adoption.

How do you know that? I thought I heard that they used their adoption agency for the placement in the new home, which almost certainly means that it is a legal adoption.

that's not how termination of parental rights works. you can't just voluntarily sign your kid over to another family. the courts have to be involved.