Teenage daughter being teased at summer job
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Anonymous
| My dd is a lifeguard this summer at our neighborhood pool. She is a fuller-bodied girl but by no means would you call her fat. This summer, I just found out, she has been teased by two male lifeguards this summer. They call her a name of an animal (not to her face, of course) and make the animal sounds when she walks by. I just found out about this recently when she confided to me why she wasn't enjoying her summer job as much as she did last summer. There are a group of teenage lifeguards working at the pool but most of them do not stick up for her and just let this happen. I would welcome any advice that I could give her on how to handle this situation. |
Anonymous
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How has she responded? Has she spoken up for herself?
She needs to be assertive. Report it to her supervisor if they don't stop after she tells them to knock it off. |
Anonymous
| Ugh. So sorry. She is being harassed. I would encourage her to approach her employer and divulge the harassment. She shouldn't have to endure such bs. |
Anonymous
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Get video, tell her boss, have them fired.
So sorry, I would put her in a martial art, they talk a lot about bullying and self protection / self esteem. You may have her talk to a counselor that would give her tools on how to handle these situations. 
Or give me the address so I can pummel their punk asses!  I am sorry they are so immature they have to hurt your daughter to feel better.
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Anonymous
+1 This is not just teasing, OP. If she speaks up now, maybe they won't be rehired next summer. Some people suck. |
Anonymous
I know, right? Ugh. So sorry OP. |
Anonymous
| The classic supreme court case on sexual harassment, Faragher, arose out of a summer lifeguard position. If your daughter complains up tge cgain of command and nothing is done, she may have a cause of action. |
Anonymous
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I agree that this is not teasing. This is workplace harassment. And the two male lifeguards need to learn not to behave like this at work.
Who is your daughter's supervisor -- another teenager/college student, or an adult? |
Anonymous
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This is workplace harassment. She needs to talk to her supervisor.
I work in HR and organizations that allow this (after being informed) are VERY liable if they don't take action. Don't take this lying down, help her reach out to the operators of the pool and get resolution. |
Anonymous
| This iss very sad OP. I am so sorry to hear this b.s. is still going on in the 21st century. I'm afraid she'll have to speak up. It's a bitch that the victim always has to speak up and these pigs will get away with it until someone does speak up. Good luck. This hurts even to read about it. |
Anonymous
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Who told her they were calling her this name behind her back?
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Anonymous
They make sounds as she walks by so no actually had to tell her. |
Anonymous
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Why the secrecy about the animal?
Some people are so weird, that's you OP. Is it a pig? |
Anonymous
You said they call the name of an animal but not to her face - who has heard them call her that name? Does she have a friend who has witnessed her being harrassed? |
Anonymous
Why does it matter what the animal is? |