Do you ever find yourself having a "smug married" moment?

[Anonymous]

(ie from Bridget Jones)

I admit I have this type of moment on occasion. Two in particular: a few friends who are not married and/or do not have children but are in their 30s post tons of pictures on facebook of their dog. This seems kind of sad to me. The other type of person I feel smug about is 35ish year olds who are still out bar hopping on the weekends. I just feel like their life is a little pointless, without deeper meaning that marriage and kids bring.

Yes I know these feelings are really obnoxious on my part. Would never admit in real life to feeling this smugness!

[Anonymous]

I have a spouse and kid and still post 500 pictures of my dog on facebook. She makes me happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:(ie from Bridget Jones)

I admit I have this type of moment on occasion. Two in particular: a few friends who are not married and/or do not have children but are in their 30s post tons of pictures on facebook of their dog. This seems kind of sad to me. The other type of person I feel smug about is 35ish year olds who are still out bar hopping on the weekends. I just feel like their life is a little pointless, without deeper meaning that marriage and kids bring.

Yes I know these feelings are really obnoxious on my part. Would never admit in real life to feeling this smugness!

[Anonymous]

After reading the "dating over 40 women" thread, I am so happy that I am happily married!

[Anonymous]

"The other type of person I feel smug about is 35ish year olds who are still out bar hopping on the weekends. I just feel like their life is a little pointless, without deeper meaning that marriage and kids bring. "

Deeper meaning - LOL!

[Anonymous]

No. Sometimes I feel very envious of people who are single.

[Anonymous]

Nah, you are fine being smug.

People who post pictures of their dog are pretty pathetic. Ranks right up there with people who post pictures of their meals. People, no one but you cares about this shit. Your dog and your brunch don't have a loving grandmother or cousins who want to keep up with them (why photos of kids aren't pathetic, even though most fb friends probably don't care about those, either).

I have a married but childless friend who's in her 40s and posts so many photos of her dog, it's clear it's some weird need to be loved publicly or something. And then she loves to post about how her dog is just like a baby. LOL sure thing crazy insecure lady!

[Anonymous]

Oh, I've had those moments.

Then I realize I'm being an idiot and assuming that everybody values exactly the same things I do.

Some of your footloose and fancy-free friends are probably pitying you.

[Anonymous]

The barhoppers in their mid 30s make me really sad, because the ones I know REALLY want to find someone.

I think pics of dogs suck no matter who posts them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nah, you are fine being smug.

People who post pictures of their dog are pretty pathetic. Ranks right up there with people who post pictures of their meals. People, no one but you cares about this shit. Your dog and your brunch don't have a loving grandmother or cousins who want to keep up with them (why photos of kids aren't pathetic, even though most fb friends probably don't care about those, either).

I have a married but childless friend who's in her 40s and posts so many photos of her dog, it's clear it's some weird need to be loved publicly or something. And then she loves to post about how her dog is just like a baby. LOL sure thing crazy insecure lady!

At least she's not a judgmental bitch.

[Anonymous]

No, I'm much more judgmental of the exhibitionistic or bragging posters who seem overly invested in convincing their FB friends they have utterly fantastic lives. Dog and cat photos don't bother me in the least.

[Anonymous]

Didyou mean to say you sometimes feel like an asshole, OP? Because that's closer to what you're describing.

Look at it this way:

1. They have/want different things than you. How would you feel if they felt all smug about your life choices? I mean, it is easy to say that YOUR choices are the right choices and justify your smugness, but they're not the only valid, fulfilling choices, believe it or not.

OR

2. They want what you have but haven't been able to find it yet, which makes your smug assholery even worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nah, you are fine being smug.

People who post pictures of their dog are pretty pathetic. Ranks right up there with people who post pictures of their meals. People, no one but you cares about this shit. Your dog and your brunch don't have a loving grandmother or cousins who want to keep up with them (why photos of kids aren't pathetic, even though most fb friends probably don't care about those, either).

I have a married but childless friend who's in her 40s and posts so many photos of her dog, it's clear it's some weird need to be loved publicly or something. And then she loves to post about how her dog is just like a baby. LOL sure thing crazy insecure lady!

You are awful, and totally lacking in human decency and compassion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a spouse and kid and still post 500 pictures of my dog on facebook. She makes me happy.

+ a million

[Anonymous]

I thought the "smug married" moments were more when you make your single friends feel super awkward for being single & childless, no? I've had a few moments when I realized I was ranting to completely the wrong audience and probably came off as a smug married type, but hopefully I haven't done that too often.