I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some side chicks know the deal. They know what's going on they know where they stand they anticipate and expect such "disappearances". Other side chicks like the OP are completely disillusioned. They think just because they're madly in love that the guy using them or running a game on them feels the same way and even though all the signs point to the obvious they just don't want to see it. They can't admit to themselves that they're nothing more than a chick on the side.

According to OP, their Facebook pages sayi'in a relationship with x' and link to the other. She has met two friends and an uncle. Of course some cheaters create multiple FB pages, but she has no reason to think she's an other.

She's a side chick.
She's 4 hours away she doesn't know where he lives she doesn't know where he works and she hasn't MET anyone she just KNOWS OF the two friends and the uncle.

OP here: for the fucking love of God please STFU with your constant side chick comments.

I DO KNOW WHERE HE LIVES.
I KNOW WHAT HE DOES FOR WORK BUT HE DOESN'T WORK FOR A COMPANY LIKE MOST PEOPLE.
I HAVE MET PEOPLE IN HIS LIFE.

stop posting false information

[Anonymous]

The least reactionary and most sensible thing to do is to call the Hampton officials and ask them to check his house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some side chicks know the deal. They know what's going on they know where they stand they anticipate and expect such "disappearances". Other side chicks like the OP are completely disillusioned. They think just because they're madly in love that the guy using them or running a game on them feels the same way and even though all the signs point to the obvious they just don't want to see it. They can't admit to themselves that they're nothing more than a chick on the side.

According to OP, their Facebook pages sayi'in a relationship with x' and link to the other. She has met two friends and an uncle. Of course some cheaters create multiple FB pages, but she has no reason to think she's an other.

NP here who read the whole thread (I need to get a life). I'm surprised by the amount of pessimistic responses jumping to the "other woman" scenario and responses insulting OP. The scenario described by OP doesn't sound that strange to me. They met online, have met in person but are long distance, are in a relationship on Facebook, and she has met some of his friends and family members. The fact that they are in a relationship on Facebook and that she has met some of his friends and family members (and remember they are in their mid 20s) to me means she is not likely the other woman. I trust her judgement that this is out of the ordinary for him to not be in touch (she knows him; we do not). Also, she mentioned he had to drive back 9 hours by himself, so it seems possible if something happened on the drive back that his family might not know yet, unless the Police were involved and were able to contact them. Sounds like he works for Farms and is off on his own a lot, so unless he has checked in physically or has another cell phone for work, how else would they reach him if not by his cell phone, which is off? Many people in their 20s don't have home phones.

I don't see why OP would be expected to have his friends and family's phone numbers after 6 months of dating. Many people don't have their phone numbers publicly listed these days, so getting that info would be hard. Her best bet would be friending the relatives etc on facebook and asking them to follow up, and calling the police in the district where he lives and where he was (if known).

There is a chance that he has decided to fall off the face of the earth, but I wouldn't be so pessimistic as to go there first. I would treat it with concern and if OP finds out he just decided to disappear without officially breaking up with her, then he looks like the jerk.

It's so good to read a post from someone else who actually read this whole thing! This makes perfect sense.

[Anonymous]

I don't necessarily think she's making it all up or that she's the OW, etc. but I don't understand her reluctance to call people and/or google for information. That is what I can't understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some side chicks know the deal. They know what's going on they know where they stand they anticipate and expect such "disappearances". Other side chicks like the OP are completely disillusioned. They think just because they're madly in love that the guy using them or running a game on them feels the same way and even though all the signs point to the obvious they just don't want to see it. They can't admit to themselves that they're nothing more than a chick on the side.

According to OP, their Facebook pages sayi'in a relationship with x' and link to the other. She has met two friends and an uncle. Of course some cheaters create multiple FB pages, but she has no reason to think she's an other.

NP here who read the whole thread (I need to get a life). I'm surprised by the amount of pessimistic responses jumping to the "other woman" scenario and responses insulting OP. The scenario described by OP doesn't sound that strange to me. They met online, have met in person but are long distance, are in a relationship on Facebook, and she has met some of his friends and family members. The fact that they are in a relationship on Facebook and that she has met some of his friends and family members (and remember they are in their mid 20s) to me means she is not likely the other woman. I trust her judgement that this is out of the ordinary for him to not be in touch (she knows him; we do not). Also, she mentioned he had to drive back 9 hours by himself, so it seems possible if something happened on the drive back that his family might not know yet, unless the Police were involved and were able to contact them. Sounds like he works for Farms and is off on his own a lot, so unless he has checked in physically or has another cell phone for work, how else would they reach him if not by his cell phone, which is off? Many people in their 20s don't have home phones.

I don't see why OP would be expected to have his friends and family's phone numbers after 6 months of dating. Many people don't have their phone numbers publicly listed these days, so getting that info would be hard. Her best bet would be friending the relatives etc on facebook and asking them to follow up, and calling the police in the district where he lives and where he was (if known).

There is a chance that he has decided to fall off the face of the earth, but I wouldn't be so pessimistic as to go there first. I would treat it with concern and if OP finds out he just decided to disappear without officially breaking up with her, then he looks like the jerk.

+1000 The DCUM conspiracy theorists are out in full force today. Sorry you are getting the brunt of it, OP.

are you guys for real? i don't care whether she's a "side chick" or not - it's her excuses about why she can't find him that are absurd. she has gotten at least 20 suggestions and has ignored them all, saying things like "i can't be on here all day" and "i'll just wait." really!?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: for the fucking love of God please STFU with your constant side chick comments.

I DO KNOW WHERE HE LIVES.
I KNOW WHAT HE DOES FOR WORK BUT HE DOESN'T WORK FOR A COMPANY LIKE MOST PEOPLE.
I HAVE MET PEOPLE IN HIS LIFE.

stop posting false information

HAVE YOU CALLED HIS FAMILY OR FRIENDS TO SEE IF THEY HAVE HEARD FROM HIM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some side chicks know the deal. They know what's going on they know where they stand they anticipate and expect such "disappearances". Other side chicks like the OP are completely disillusioned. They think just because they're madly in love that the guy using them or running a game on them feels the same way and even though all the signs point to the obvious they just don't want to see it. They can't admit to themselves that they're nothing more than a chick on the side.

According to OP, their Facebook pages sayi'in a relationship with x' and link to the other. She has met two friends and an uncle. Of course some cheaters create multiple FB pages, but she has no reason to think she's an other.

She's a side chick.
She's 4 hours away she doesn't know where he lives she doesn't know where he works and she hasn't MET anyone she just KNOWS OF the two friends and the uncle.

OP here: for the fucking love of God please STFU with your constant side chick comments.

I DO KNOW WHERE HE LIVES.
I KNOW WHAT HE DOES FOR WORK BUT HE DOESN'T WORK FOR A COMPANY LIKE MOST PEOPLE.
I HAVE MET PEOPLE IN HIS LIFE.

stop posting false information

OP have you called the Hampton police yet? The number is above. It is very sensible to have them check to see if he's okay in his house. That way you can cross that possibility off your list of worries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't necessarily think she's making it all up or that she's the OW, etc. but I don't understand her reluctance to call people and/or google for information. That is what I can't understand.

Jinx - other 14:22

[Anonymous]

So have you called the Hampton police yet? I assume so. What did they tell you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some side chicks know the deal. They know what's going on they know where they stand they anticipate and expect such "disappearances". Other side chicks like the OP are completely disillusioned. They think just because they're madly in love that the guy using them or running a game on them feels the same way and even though all the signs point to the obvious they just don't want to see it. They can't admit to themselves that they're nothing more than a chick on the side.

According to OP, their Facebook pages sayi'in a relationship with x' and link to the other. She has met two friends and an uncle. Of course some cheaters create multiple FB pages, but she has no reason to think she's an other.

She's a side chick.
She's 4 hours away she doesn't know where he lives she doesn't know where he works and she hasn't MET anyone she just KNOWS OF the two friends and the uncle.

OP here: for the fucking love of God please STFU with your constant side chick comments.

I DO KNOW WHERE HE LIVES.
I KNOW WHAT HE DOES FOR WORK BUT HE DOESN'T WORK FOR A COMPANY LIKE MOST PEOPLE.
I HAVE MET PEOPLE IN HIS LIFE.

stop posting false information

SO GOOGLE HIS ADDRESS AND CALL NEIGHBORS OR FRIENDS IF YOU ARE SO WORRIED.

[Anonymous]

If the Hampton cops say he is not at his home then tell them you wish to file a missing person's report.

Chances are that he's fine, but you want to give the searchers a maximum amount of time to search for him. What if he twisted his ankle on a trail? Why not start the ball rolling?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some side chicks know the deal. They know what's going on they know where they stand they anticipate and expect such "disappearances". Other side chicks like the OP are completely disillusioned. They think just because they're madly in love that the guy using them or running a game on them feels the same way and even though all the signs point to the obvious they just don't want to see it. They can't admit to themselves that they're nothing more than a chick on the side.

According to OP, their Facebook pages sayi'in a relationship with x' and link to the other. She has met two friends and an uncle. Of course some cheaters create multiple FB pages, but she has no reason to think she's an other.

She's a side chick.
She's 4 hours away she doesn't know where he lives she doesn't know where he works and she hasn't MET anyone she just KNOWS OF the two friends and the uncle.

Well, technically she says:

>>>OP here: I know his two best friends and his uncle which I stated.<<<

That makes it sound like she knows the names of the two best friends. IMO she should have contacted them by now.

I agree but two best friends don't have FB. I doubt she has their phone numbers.

[Anonymous]

Your reluctance to get officials (police or park service) involved makes me wonder why. You may be the only person who knows that he is missing.

I hope your cowardice in calling them doesn't hurt him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some side chicks know the deal. They know what's going on they know where they stand they anticipate and expect such "disappearances". Other side chicks like the OP are completely disillusioned. They think just because they're madly in love that the guy using them or running a game on them feels the same way and even though all the signs point to the obvious they just don't want to see it. They can't admit to themselves that they're nothing more than a chick on the side.

According to OP, their Facebook pages sayi'in a relationship with x' and link to the other. She has met two friends and an uncle. Of course some cheaters create multiple FB pages, but she has no reason to think she's an other.

She's a side chick.
She's 4 hours away she doesn't know where he lives she doesn't know where he works and she hasn't MET anyone she just KNOWS OF the two friends and the uncle.

Well, technically she says:

>>>OP here: I know his two best friends and his uncle which I stated.<<<

That makes it sound like she knows the names of the two best friends. IMO she should have contacted them by now.

I agree but two best friends don't have FB. I doubt she has their phone numbers.

So plug them into whitepages.com or Intelius.

She doesn't need to CALL FRIENDS though. She needs to call the COPS. It's been 48 hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some side chicks know the deal. They know what's going on they know where they stand they anticipate and expect such "disappearances". Other side chicks like the OP are completely disillusioned. They think just because they're madly in love that the guy using them or running a game on them feels the same way and even though all the signs point to the obvious they just don't want to see it. They can't admit to themselves that they're nothing more than a chick on the side.

According to OP, their Facebook pages sayi'in a relationship with x' and link to the other. She has met two friends and an uncle. Of course some cheaters create multiple FB pages, but she has no reason to think she's an other.

She's a side chick.
She's 4 hours away she doesn't know where he lives she doesn't know where he works and she hasn't MET anyone she just KNOWS OF the two friends and the uncle.

OP here: for the fucking love of God please STFU with your constant side chick comments.

I DO KNOW WHERE HE LIVES.
I KNOW WHAT HE DOES FOR WORK BUT HE DOESN'T WORK FOR A COMPANY LIKE MOST PEOPLE.
I HAVE MET PEOPLE IN HIS LIFE.

stop posting false information

SO GOOGLE HIS ADDRESS AND CALL NEIGHBORS OR FRIENDS IF YOU ARE SO WORRIED.

She has his address- seriously, what's wrong with you? This doesn't make your comments any less incorrect or more helpful. We all have an opinion on what OP should do but at least stop getting facts wrong.