How would you handle this with your MIL? Threw out all my baby clothes.
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Summer of 2013 our basement flooded. I had saved 3 yrs worth of baby clothes of my older DD. Only the very nice stuff, and it was about 2 garbage bags full. I stored it in MIL's unfinished basement after washing and folding it.
I had just had a newborn at the time and b/c parts of our basement were being redone didn't have storage in our smaller home to store it. Anyway I went over today and found out she had thrown out all the clothes and the toys I had been storing in her unused, unfinished basement! I was about to cry. I couldn't understand why? I looked at her and asked her why she would do something like that (DH right next to me). She lies and says to me, you told me it was garbage. I said No I couldnt' have had, b/c I am fully capable of throwing away my own trash. Then she lies and says, oh you said it was being saved for her other sons newborn and they didn't want it. I said No I wasn't. I was saving it for me! I asked her why she didn't ask me before she had made the decision to dump the stuff to a goodwill bin. She was acting like I had told her it was okay. (This show was for my DH's sake so that he could be like, oh honest mistake). Anyway, DH sided with me and said she should have asked. Along with that were about 10 baby dolls and a push walker and countless other toys. Honestly. I am livid beyond words. So then she says, what's the big deal. Baby clothes are so cheap. (she's next to never gifted our children anything). So I said, no actually they're not that cheap, you buy two things, $30 easily. Anyway, I was polite, but firm and did not accept her excuses. I told her it was my private items and I didnt' understand why she went through them and then decided on her own to toss them. She did save 4 items. My DD's hospital blanket and three dresses she had given my DD. Nothing else. She then went on to say it was all junk. So dirty. Nobody would wear that stuff again. Completely 100% untrue. I know what I had saved and the condition it was in. I wanted to punch her. So I said it was mine and she shouldn't be throwing out that stuff. IF it was too much to manage she should've called I would've picked it up sooner. We drove out 30 min with our children to see her. She then acted annoyed we hadn't eaten lunch at home etc. I didn't eat. Dh and kids did. I lied and said I'd eaten at home. I couldn't even look at her. Honestly if she said, I screwed up. I'd be less upset (I'd still be upset but I would see that she realized she messed up). But she lied. She lied and made 3 excuses. I don't feel like seeing her again. She knows I'm royally pissed. I'm sure she's gossiping about my reaction to her 3 other children. |
Anonymous
| I would be upset, too. Honestly, my DH would be livid and likely would have bitched out his mom. Sorry your DH didn't do that. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like a bitch. I feel for you. |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry OP. |
Anonymous
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Cut her off.
She has no place in your life. |
Anonymous
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If they were really your private items you shouldn't have given them to someone else.
You can ABSOLUTELY buy well more than two pieces of baby clothing for $30! Learn to shop at Goodwill and clearance racks. I think you were stupid to give things that important to someone else to store for you (especially in a trash bag) and you're being overly dramatic. It seems like you just dislike your MIL and found a reason to dislike her even more. |
Anonymous
| WHAT THE ****. Done. I would really be done with this woman. I wouldn't many any effort to bring her in to my children's lives. At this point, the managing of the family and the kids' stuff is a great deal of a mother's time. And, to throw it away is ridiculous. |
Anonymous
Mil could have called and asked before throwing them away. So simple. |
Anonymous
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Ignore 22:24 -- it's either a man or a woman without kids.
Anyone with half a brain would know better than to toss out their DIL's precious baby items. She's either mean or crazy. I'm so sorry, OP. |
Anonymous
 She stored stuff in an unused, unfinished basement. Unless she was storing a dead animal, there was no reason to throw them off. And the MIL went through that stuff and saved the stuff that had sentimental value for her.
Maybe OP should forgive her MIL, after burning the DH's baby blanket in front of her. Because baby clothes are soooo cheap in Goodwill! |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry OP, not sure really what you can do at this point. Honestly, though, I can't imagine my MIL or anyone in my family agreeing to store my stuff or even asking someone and I can't imagine that I would agree to store something for anyone else, even family. How important can these things be if you didn't find a closet or a corner in your house to store two bags of things. |
Anonymous
Yes! And consignment sales! I picked up a $40 Ralph Lauren sweater (so cute!) for $8 at a sale a couple of weeks ago. I have bought some used sets (i.e. all of someone's 2T summer) for$40-$100 that have included some really high end pieces in great condition. |
Anonymous
| What a royal bitch. Is she usually so spiteful? Now you have her number, so as you move forward in your relationship with her, keep in mind to what extent you can really rely on her and trust her. Glad to hear your husband was on your side. |
Anonymous
| Is she old? Her memory may be starting to go. |
Anonymous
| This hurts just to read it. |