It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”

[Anonymous]

It’s funny to see people freak out when they receive a dose of their own medicine.

-Sane working mother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny to see people freak out when they receive a dose of their own medicine.

-Sane working mother

Same poster. I’m talking about the PPs, not the OP.

[Anonymous]

Honestly it’s just that hard to have kids. I didn’t realize because I had a wonderful childhood. I don’t know why it’s such a struggle but I can’t seem to make my life work. It’s just a big juggle. 3 kids, 2 extremely flexible jobs and a ton of chores.

I refuse to have one big job and myself be a sahm. Sounds like hell and Dh would never see the kids. Dh has the education and skill to make more money but it would require a drastic life change.

Frankly the one thing that would help me would be if school was in session more than 7 hours a day. Otherwise I just juggle all these crazy after cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly it’s just that hard to have kids. I didn’t realize because I had a wonderful childhood. I don’t know why it’s such a struggle but I can’t seem to make my life work. It’s just a big juggle. 3 kids, 2 extremely flexible jobs and a ton of chores.

I refuse to have one big job and myself be a sahm. Sounds like hell and Dh would never see the kids. Dh has the education and skill to make more money but it would require a drastic life change.

Frankly the one thing that would help me would be if school was in session more than 7 hours a day. Otherwise I just juggle all these crazy after cares.

Amen!

And while we're at it, can we please get off the agriculture school year? How many kids are really helping in the field all summer? My vote is for 2-3 weeks between trimesters, no "summer break".

[Anonymous]

The people envious of DINKS are really just typical DC type people:

- self-absorbed striver, alphas who are essentially just selfish narcissists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people envious of DINKS are really just typical DC type people:

- self-absorbed striver, alphas who are essentially just selfish narcissists.

Ok.

[Anonymous]

When I got divorced married women whispered similar things to me, asking how I did it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I guess this balances it out for OP!

Nah. I’ll retire 20 years earlier than you while you’ll still be stuck paying for college loans and a wedding, lol.

NP but paying for college so that there is another doctor or teacher or architect out in the world to help better our society, and/or paying for a wedding to allow my child to celebrate their marriage, will be an incredible privilege.

You assume you kid will be a doctor or teacher and that there isn't the remote possibility that they could turn into a bank robber, the drug addict in Kensington Philly, or just a degenerate lobbyist in DC ruining peoples' lives. Lol, have fun with the now $100k per year tuition fees. No amount of mental gymnastics will ever convince anyone who is sane with money that it is worth it. Ha, and then while you're still stuck laying off college bills, little Suzy's $50k wedding is next I konly a few year a fun fun fun.

Also, what on earth will you do with your time when you retire at age 40 instead of 60? Do you really think that will make you happy? No career, no children…. What will be the purpose, the drive, of your life?? A lot of vacations? That’s how you want to spend your short time on this earth?

Uhhh yes.. that sounds amazeballs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I guess this balances it out for OP!

Nah. I’ll retire 20 years earlier than you while you’ll still be stuck paying for college loans and a wedding, lol.

NP but paying for college so that there is another doctor or teacher or architect out in the world to help better our society, and/or paying for a wedding to allow my child to celebrate their marriage, will be an incredible privilege.

You assume you kid will be a doctor or teacher and that there isn't the remote possibility that they could turn into a bank robber, the drug addict in Kensington Philly, or just a degenerate lobbyist in DC ruining peoples' lives. Lol, have fun with the now $100k per year tuition fees. No amount of mental gymnastics will ever convince anyone who is sane with money that it is worth it. Ha, and then while you're still stuck laying off college bills, little Suzy's $50k wedding is next I konly a few year a fun fun fun.

Also, what on earth will you do with your time when you retire at age 40 instead of 60? Do you really think that will make you happy? No career, no children…. What will be the purpose, the drive, of your life?? A lot of vacations? That’s how you want to spend your short time on this earth?

Uhhh yes.. that sounds amazeballs.

I predict that when you die a lonely death you will NOT rot for a few months before some exterminator called by the neighbors comes to see about all the flies.

Oh, you’ll definitely be lonely when you die and you will probably be found by the same exterminator, because he is actually also a serial fraudster who catfishes elderly weirdos to scam them out of their social security. You reply to one of his lonely heart posts and get sucked into a really obvious parasitic financial relationship with him - too bad you have no family to take away your power or authority. He keeps you from going to the doctor and your health will decline; he finds your body one day when he comes to threaten you about being late with the social security handover. He knows a guy who runs a crematorium so he has you cremated but not in the nice way, they put you in the oven with like three paying customers and your ashes wind up with a lovely Catholic family with like 15 kids. So you’ve got that coming

Also, the cool thing about your financial victimhood is that the exterminator manipulated into paying for his kids college. So, you know, that whole argument about tuition is sort of moot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, I guess this balances it out for OP!

Nah. I’ll retire 20 years earlier than you while you’ll still be stuck paying for college loans and a wedding, lol.

NP but paying for college so that there is another doctor or teacher or architect out in the world to help better our society, and/or paying for a wedding to allow my child to celebrate their marriage, will be an incredible privilege.

You assume you kid will be a doctor or teacher and that there isn't the remote possibility that they could turn into a bank robber, the drug addict in Kensington Philly, or just a degenerate lobbyist in DC ruining peoples' lives. Lol, have fun with the now $100k per year tuition fees. No amount of mental gymnastics will ever convince anyone who is sane with money that it is worth it. Ha, and then while you're still stuck laying off college bills, little Suzy's $50k wedding is next I konly a few year a fun fun fun.

Also, what on earth will you do with your time when you retire at age 40 instead of 60? Do you really think that will make you happy? No career, no children…. What will be the purpose, the drive, of your life?? A lot of vacations? That’s how you want to spend your short time on this earth?

Uhhh yes.. that sounds amazeballs.

I predict that when you die a lonely death you will NOT rot for a few months before some exterminator called by the neighbors comes to see about all the flies.

Oh, you’ll definitely be lonely when you die and you will probably be found by the same exterminator, because he is actually also a serial fraudster who catfishes elderly weirdos to scam them out of their social security. You reply to one of his lonely heart posts and get sucked into a really obvious parasitic financial relationship with him - too bad you have no family to take away your power or authority. He keeps you from going to the doctor and your health will decline; he finds your body one day when he comes to threaten you about being late with the social security handover. He knows a guy who runs a crematorium so he has you cremated but not in the nice way, they put you in the oven with like three paying customers and your ashes wind up with a lovely Catholic family with like 15 kids. So you’ve got that coming

Also, the cool thing about your financial victimhood is that the exterminator manipulated into paying for his kids college. So, you know, that whole argument about tuition is sort of moot.

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Power of attorney, obvi

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for those who never had kids, I think they missed out on the importance stuff. I woukd it do it all over again, maybe even more kids.

People who choose not to have kids are making the best decision for themselves. Feeling sorry is such a strange reaction. I would only feel sad for someone who really wanted kids but for whatever reason it didn’t happen.

Except they don't know what they are missing. They think they do, but they don't, and can't ever know. I wouldn't have known before kids. I know what thet are missing now, and yeah, I feel pretty sorry for them. I really do.

Ok what are childless people missing that they haven’t considered in their decision-making process? What is this big secret about parenthood that is completely unknown until you become a parent?

What a dumb question. Like anything else, you cannot fully know what it's like until you experience.

Ok, but if you’ve experienced it, certainly you can describe it, no?

NP. Not really. My mom used to tell that I will never know how she felt about me until I have my own kids. She was 100% right.

We can see that people are unable to describe having kids because apparently cow tongue is now being used as a comparison. Good grief.
No.
Being a parent is transcendent. It's a love and a connection that has no context that anyone could compare with anyone or anything else. There's hormones, biology, oxytocin, at play. Additionally there's a socio-biological system at play. It's not comparable to anything.

[Anonymous]

So why spend your time on a mom forum LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, I guess this balances it out for OP!

Nah. I’ll retire 20 years earlier than you while you’ll still be stuck paying for college loans and a wedding, lol.

NP but paying for college so that there is another doctor or teacher or architect out in the world to help better our society, and/or paying for a wedding to allow my child to celebrate their marriage, will be an incredible privilege.

You assume you kid will be a doctor or teacher and that there isn't the remote possibility that they could turn into a bank robber, the drug addict in Kensington Philly, or just a degenerate lobbyist in DC ruining peoples' lives. Lol, have fun with the now $100k per year tuition fees. No amount of mental gymnastics will ever convince anyone who is sane with money that it is worth it. Ha, and then while you're still stuck laying off college bills, little Suzy's $50k wedding is next I konly a few year a fun fun fun.

Also, what on earth will you do with your time when you retire at age 40 instead of 60? Do you really think that will make you happy? No career, no children…. What will be the purpose, the drive, of your life?? A lot of vacations? That’s how you want to spend your short time on this earth?

Uhhh yes.. that sounds amazeballs.

I predict that when you die a lonely death you will NOT rot for a few months before some exterminator called by the neighbors comes to see about all the flies.

Oh, you’ll definitely be lonely when you die and you will probably be found by the same exterminator, because he is actually also a serial fraudster who catfishes elderly weirdos to scam them out of their social security. You reply to one of his lonely heart posts and get sucked into a really obvious parasitic financial relationship with him - too bad you have no family to take away your power or authority. He keeps you from going to the doctor and your health will decline; he finds your body one day when he comes to threaten you about being late with the social security handover. He knows a guy who runs a crematorium so he has you cremated but not in the nice way, they put you in the oven with like three paying customers and your ashes wind up with a lovely Catholic family with like 15 kids. So you’ve got that coming

Also, the cool thing about your financial victimhood is that the exterminator manipulated into paying for his kids college. So, you know, that whole argument about tuition is sort of moot.

Dying alone sounds fantastic.

Dying while you have a huge number of people hovering over you sounds weird.

If I'm dead, what flying Fs would I care anymore about whether my body is decomposing into a mummy or is found by an exterminator? I'd be dead.


Now we can see the true selfish reason someone like you had a kid. You're have an irrational fear of death and an insane need to put your death on for show to anyone related.

Dying one sounds way better. Congrats, you have a kid who gets to watch you crap in diapers and smell your dry urine once you cannot control your bladder anymore. Wow, so fufilling. So enriching.


I'll take the vacations instead thank you very much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, I guess this balances it out for OP!

Nah. I’ll retire 20 years earlier than you while you’ll still be stuck paying for college loans and a wedding, lol.

NP but paying for college so that there is another doctor or teacher or architect out in the world to help better our society, and/or paying for a wedding to allow my child to celebrate their marriage, will be an incredible privilege.

You assume you kid will be a doctor or teacher and that there isn't the remote possibility that they could turn into a bank robber, the drug addict in Kensington Philly, or just a degenerate lobbyist in DC ruining peoples' lives. Lol, have fun with the now $100k per year tuition fees. No amount of mental gymnastics will ever convince anyone who is sane with money that it is worth it. Ha, and then while you're still stuck laying off college bills, little Suzy's $50k wedding is next I konly a few year a fun fun fun.

Also, what on earth will you do with your time when you retire at age 40 instead of 60? Do you really think that will make you happy? No career, no children…. What will be the purpose, the drive, of your life?? A lot of vacations? That’s how you want to spend your short time on this earth?

Uhhh yes.. that sounds amazeballs.

I predict that when you die a lonely death you will NOT rot for a few months before some exterminator called by the neighbors comes to see about all the flies.

Oh, you’ll definitely be lonely when you die and you will probably be found by the same exterminator, because he is actually also a serial fraudster who catfishes elderly weirdos to scam them out of their social security. You reply to one of his lonely heart posts and get sucked into a really obvious parasitic financial relationship with him - too bad you have no family to take away your power or authority. He keeps you from going to the doctor and your health will decline; he finds your body one day when he comes to threaten you about being late with the social security handover. He knows a guy who runs a crematorium so he has you cremated but not in the nice way, they put you in the oven with like three paying customers and your ashes wind up with a lovely Catholic family with like 15 kids. So you’ve got that coming

Also, the cool thing about your financial victimhood is that the exterminator manipulated into paying for his kids college. So, you know, that whole argument about tuition is sort of moot.

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Power of attorney, obvi

Yeah, that previous poster is unhinged and has a strange fixation about exterminators, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, I guess this balances it out for OP!

Nah. I’ll retire 20 years earlier than you while you’ll still be stuck paying for college loans and a wedding, lol.

NP but paying for college so that there is another doctor or teacher or architect out in the world to help better our society, and/or paying for a wedding to allow my child to celebrate their marriage, will be an incredible privilege.

You assume you kid will be a doctor or teacher and that there isn't the remote possibility that they could turn into a bank robber, the drug addict in Kensington Philly, or just a degenerate lobbyist in DC ruining peoples' lives. Lol, have fun with the now $100k per year tuition fees. No amount of mental gymnastics will ever convince anyone who is sane with money that it is worth it. Ha, and then while you're still stuck laying off college bills, little Suzy's $50k wedding is next I konly a few year a fun fun fun.

Also, what on earth will you do with your time when you retire at age 40 instead of 60? Do you really think that will make you happy? No career, no children…. What will be the purpose, the drive, of your life?? A lot of vacations? That’s how you want to spend your short time on this earth?

Uhhh yes.. that sounds amazeballs.

I predict that when you die a lonely death you will NOT rot for a few months before some exterminator called by the neighbors comes to see about all the flies.

Oh, you’ll definitely be lonely when you die and you will probably be found by the same exterminator, because he is actually also a serial fraudster who catfishes elderly weirdos to scam them out of their social security. You reply to one of his lonely heart posts and get sucked into a really obvious parasitic financial relationship with him - too bad you have no family to take away your power or authority. He keeps you from going to the doctor and your health will decline; he finds your body one day when he comes to threaten you about being late with the social security handover. He knows a guy who runs a crematorium so he has you cremated but not in the nice way, they put you in the oven with like three paying customers and your ashes wind up with a lovely Catholic family with like 15 kids. So you’ve got that coming

Also, the cool thing about your financial victimhood is that the exterminator manipulated into paying for his kids college. So, you know, that whole argument about tuition is sort of moot.

Dying alone sounds fantastic.

Dying while you have a huge number of people hovering over you sounds weird.

If I'm dead, what flying Fs would I care anymore about whether my body is decomposing into a mummy or is found by an exterminator? I'd be dead.


Now we can see the true selfish reason someone like you had a kid. You're have an irrational fear of death and an insane need to put your death on for show to anyone related.

Dying one sounds way better. Congrats, you have a kid who gets to watch you crap in diapers and smell your dry urine once you cannot control your bladder anymore. Wow, so fufilling. So enriching.


I'll take the vacations instead thank you very much.

Look, you’re going to be paying for his vacations and wishing you had someone to talk to.